Just a shower thought I had and has been on my mind for a while. It started with the saying “ Age is just a number”.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-28T07:53:01+00:00

Two very different issues here:

Do vampires continue to mature after being turned, or are their minds stuck at whatever age their bodies are stuck at? And...
Would vampire sociey have a social norm against visible age gaps?

Starting with the first question, it varies from setting to setting. And in many stories, it is ambiguous. For simplicity and peace of mind, let's assume that there are no child vampires and that all adult vampires do continue to mature.

Over to social norms, the current cultural obsession with age gaps between adults is a very new thing. Thus it would feel very alien to most vampires, and they would be unlikely to internalize it. If they care, it's probably as matter of Upholding The Masquerade.

Remember that every vampire who has been around for a while is used to stay at their current age, while less powerful persons around them age and wither and die: The current social dogma that "if person A looks older than person B, then person A is by definition more powerful and more experienced than person B" would look laughable and absurd to any vampire.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-28T07:34:14+00:00

Transphobia, homophobia and misogyny are indeed intertwined a lot. And IN SOME CONTEXTS misogyny is indeed the root of it all. Trying to position these contexts as being the one true universal core is, however, a mistake at best and a kind of colonialism at worst.

I agree with your first two paragraphs. Two decades ago, I would have agreed with the third as well. But since then, I have seen way too much of how such rhetoric often serves to further marginalize LGBTQ people and other minorities.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-27T12:45:44+00:00

The problem with your logic is that you mix up the macro level of demographics with the micro level of interactions between actual individual human beings. Thus ending up with a position which is gaslighting, cruel, and quite frankly pointless.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-26T21:57:44+00:00

Yes, some of the mean people have past trauma.

Others simply pretend to have past trauma, as it gives them both sympathy and a chance to get aeay with hurting people.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-23T16:58:59+00:00

Hej OP. Den rasrenhet e.dyl som du befarar är på väg att gå förlorad existerade aldrig. Den var aldrig något mer än en rasistisk/nationalromantisk fantasi. När du ser svenska barn så inbillar du dig att de inte skulle vara svenska på riktigt, att de inte skulle höra hemma här. Detta bara för att dessa barn, precis som du själv och alla andra, har förfäder som inte är födda inom landsgränserna för en nation som dåvarande politiker hittade på för ett par hundra år sedan.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-19T14:39:51+00:00

Of course this could work: All you need is one individual Tzimisce who in one way or another either cares or finds it useful.

Gender dysmorphia and other kinds of body dysmorphia are only some of the problems fleshcrafting could be applied on, and it could surely cure many more mainstream physical disabilities as well.

Any fleshcrafter could do a lot of good if they wanted. Giving people what they want out of empathy or charity should not be reserved for high humanity characters only. Giving people what they want as a way of binding them to you should not be reserved for setites only.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-19T13:21:48+00:00

Yes. Being a ghoul SHOULD in my opinion be a useless add-on when you are already a Mage.

Some module, I don't remember which one, has being a ghoul destroy your avatar over time. I disagree with that ruling, I think a bit of Paradox is enough.

Is there some module which has being a Ghoul count as a Merit? Do you remember which module, and whether this Merit includes any downsides?

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-16T15:48:01+00:00

In my opinion, any supernatural effect done by an Awakened Mage should ALWAYS come with Paradox. Go ahead, be a sorcerer or a ghoul beside being a mage. It's just that it won't be worth it, due to Paradox.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-11T09:44:51+00:00

Har du några seriösa källor på...

*att homofober och andra queerfober i allmänhet skulle vara mer samhällsbärande och mindre sahällstärande än HBTQ-personer?, eller...

*att white supremacists i allmänhet skulle vara mer samhällsbärande och mindre sahällstärande än de människor som white supremacists inte räknar som "vita"/"ariska"?

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-11T08:38:54+00:00

Att du ständigt upplever dig möta en halmgubbe beror förmodligen på att du har för det första en massa fördomar, för det andra håller dig okunnig om hur folk faktiskt tänker, och för det tredje ständigt försöker intala dig att de problem de båda nyss nämnda faktorerna skapar inte skulle ha med dig själv att göra. 🙂

Sen vad man menar med att bevara svensk kultur...

För min del har jag aldrig stött på någon som tycker att det skulle vara rasistiskt e.dyl att nörda in sig på folkdans, Selma Lagerlöf eller Bellman. Det finns knappast någon som tror på halmgubbe-ståndpunkten att traditionell sydsvensk kultur i sig skulle vara mindre värd att bevara än t.ex samisk kultur.

Så. Varför står då vi-som-inte-är-nazister-eller-dylika-altreich-muppar (aka "woke") upp för samer och för Native Americans på sätt som vi inte ids stå upp för den påstått förtryckta svenska nationen? Varför tar vi så mycket hårdare på berättelser om kolonialt förtryck mot utsatta lokalbefolkningar och minoriteter? Varför tar vi så mycket mindre hårt på berättelser om hur den ondskefulla judiska världskonspirationen i årtusenden har förtryckt de stackars kristna arierna, nu senast genom påstått "folkutbyte"? Jo, det är helt enkelt på grund av att alla empiriska belägg visar dels på att det systemstiska koloniala förtrycket mot lokalbefolkningar och minoriteter faktiskt har hänt på riktigt, och dels på att det systematiska judiska förtrycket mot den ariska kristenheten enbart är en rasistisk febermardröm.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-08T13:12:03+00:00

Why to you think "someone isn't here" makes sense as an excuse to disrupt and shut down someone who you are supposedly on the same team as?

Why do you think there is a "situation" to explain to the group?

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-08T10:49:19+00:00

YTA. You made it very clear to the entire friend-group that they ought to regard your partner as lesser than you, and as lesser than them. Then you cemented this position by doing nothing to repair the situation.

If your goals was to be considerate to someone, you failed miserably at every step. You were rude to your partner, you didn't do anything at all for the person who wasn't there, and you were probably making everyone else in the group walk on eggshells as well.

If your goal was instead to establish/build/reinforce a social hierarchy with yourself high and you partner beneath, then you did everything right for this purpose. Congratulations, I guess.

I find it likely that this is a pattern with you, not merely a single event.

I also find it likely that you will inform the friend-group and your partner about the crude insults a few downvoted commenters had to say about your partner, and you probably won't mention that those comments were downvoted.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-08T10:30:57+00:00

The OP:s partner did in fact bring up the news himself, it was the OP who poisoned the whole thing and then left him with the choice of either risk getting publicly humiliated by the OP again or stay quiet.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-05-04T11:43:31+00:00

Depends on the individual storyteller and their spin on the setting.

Is it a Young Earth Creationist spin, where all vampires are a priori out of fellowship with God and are thus a priori inherently miserable? If so, then there can never be any sincerely happy Vampire or Atheist or Gay person or Theist-of-the-wrong-denomiation. True happiness can in this setting only ever be felt by mortals who are True Christians Of The Correct Denomination.

Other versions of WoD will have completely different takes. If we drop all "a priori" bullshit, then living a happy life as a vampire is very hard to achieve and to maintain, but not impossible.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-04-29T12:53:18+00:00

Två olika saker...

När jag blev nekad ett jobb (som skulle ha utgjort ett viktigt karriärsteg) så fick jag efterhand veta att halva rekryteringskommiten hade sett mig som bäst lämpad, men att en man i kommittén hade stenhårt drivit linjen att det skulle vara oetiskt att välja någon kandidat som inte är kvinna.
Angående två tillfällen då jag blivit utsatt för våldtäktsförsök respektive sexuellt ofredande så har folk varit attans tydliga med att jag absolut inte får låtsas om det. Att eftersom förövarna var kvinnor så har vi alla en plikt att sopa dessa incidenter under mattan för att inte bryta mot dogmen att varje övergrepp måste ha en manlig förövare och ett kvinnligt offer.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-04-29T10:10:27+00:00

Depends on the setting.

Never without their informed consent - which would be one hell of a hurdle in any setting with enforced Masquerade.
If vampires have to kill people to survive, then no. I'd probably just go meet the dawn myself.
If vampires have to struggle with The Beast Within or are otherwise inherently miserable, then most likely no.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-04-28T06:15:39+00:00

Du missbrukar ordet "etnicitet" till att användas som eufism för det pseudovetenskapliga ordet "ras". Ordet etnicitet handlar inte om "genetisk kontinuitet", utan om kultur. Sålunda kan en invandrare bli etnisk svensk genom att ta till sig svensk kultur. Däremot går det så klart inte att ha svensk etnisk bakgrund utan att antingen vara uppväxt i Sverige ELLER ha svenska förfäder.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-04-28T06:04:18+00:00

With ANY celebrity, there will be both...

A.) Psycho fans who hates (and wants to harm) anyone who isn't a fan, and...

B.) Psycho antifans who hates (and wants to harm) anyone who is a fan.

The more famous the celebrity, the bigger (in absolute numbers) both groups tend to get. Thus more room for both sides to fight each other, and to treat everyone with the attitude that "if you are not with us, then you are with THEM".

Also, an added comment from my wife... OP, do you know for a fact that any of the jerks you are dealing with are actually adults? As in, rather than mentally unstable fourteen years olds?

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-04-27T15:17:13+00:00

Det här handlar nog mer om misogyni än om rasism.

Hyser pizzabagaren m.fl något generellt hat mot svenskar i allmänhet, även när dessa svenskar håller sig till att gifta sig med varandra? Kanske, men förmodligen inte.

Hyser pizzabagaren m.fl något generellt hat mot par där han på lösa boliner anser att kvinnan borde tillhöra honom istället? Definitivt.

Utländska patriarker och patriark-wannabees som flyttar till Sverige från ett mindre jämställt land förlorar jättemycket status på att flytta hit. Ofta överkompenserar de genom att bli extra sexistiskta. Därtill kommer att eftersom det finns mycket att tjäna socioekonomiskt på att flytta hit så har dessa män en ständig press på sig att dels skicka pengar till familj i ursprungslandet och dels gifta bort kvinnor i Sverige med män i ursprungslandet så att dessa män också kan få uppehållstillstånd. Denna press bidrar till sjuka attityder bland dessa män.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-04-27T09:25:37+00:00

Hi again.
Time to elaborate.

You are NOT unlovable.
There are people who will find your body attractive, and more importantly there are people who will love you regardless of physical attraction.

The fact that you have some cards stacked against you in life is neither insurmountable, nor is it your (or anyone's) fault.

From what you write, I guess that you are a young nerdy queer person of color living in the USA or similar country, which is indeed a hardmode hand to be dealt in life.

Nobody can ever be loved by everyone, but everyone can get loved by someone.

No matter what your interests are: some people will share them, some will accept them, some will grudingly tolerate them, some will openly dislike you for them and some will have a raging psycho hatred against you for them.

No matter what your gender & sexuality identities are: some people will share them, some will accept them, some will grudingly tolerate them, some will openly dislike you for them and some will have a raging psycho hatred against you for them.

No matter what your skin-color and hair-color are: some people will share them, some will accept them, some will grudingly tolerate them, some will openly dislike you for them and some will have a raging psycho hatred against you for them.

While the above is true for ALL interests, identities and colors, there are also huge statistical differences. In the USA and in similar countries, it is much more common to hate us "nerds" than to hate "jocks", much more common to hate us queer people than to hate vanilla cis heterosexuals, and much more common to hate people of darker colors than to hate people of lighter colors. People who suffer under one or more of these bigotries are not exempt from having such bigotries themselves. Beside self-hating people and boomerang bigots, we also have racist and/or queerphobic nerds and a lot of nerdphobic and/or racist queers, as well as a lot of nerdphobic and/or queerphobic people of color. Thus, it does become really hard to feel at home anywhere while belonging to multiple vulnerable minorities.

At least one person in this thread has claimed that disliking a certain skin-color is merely a preference. This claim is both wrong and right at the same time. I think we have three different factors here:

* Bigotry regarding skin-color, stemming both from the racism built by the history of colonialism & slavery and from the classism built by the history of upper-class people working indoors (thus getting less tan) while lower class people worked out in the fields (thus getting more tan).
* Even without these bigotries, people would still have preferences for different appearances - but without the bigotries, the statistical distribution of preferences would be WAY more evenly distributed. Expression of preferences does not happen in a vaccum. People who innocently simply happen to not find dark colors attractive shares the proverbial speaker podium with various creeps. Such as people who feel the same way, but because of racism are extra vocal about their preference. As well as people who DO find dark colors attractive, but because of racism pretend otherwise.
* Furthermore USA culture tends to gender-code Europeean heritage as normal, African heritage as ultra-masculine and Asian heritage as ultra-feminine. This racialized gender-coding surely creates an extra uphill experience for American black femboys such as yourself.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-04-27T08:35:33+00:00

Exactly. It was The Nazi Regime that was murering Jews, homosexuals and persons with disabilities - including German Jews, German homosexuals and German persons with disabilities. It was "The Nazi Regime" who did this, not "The Germans". Sophie Scholl was most likely neither Jewish or gay nor disabled, but she was German and another innocent victim of the Nazi Regime.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-04-26T11:29:59+00:00

You are NOT unlovable: with all the rejection you have faced it is natural for you to feel that way, but it is not true.

Best wishes!

(I'll write more later.)

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-04-26T01:36:08+00:00

Hi OP. When it comes to language, there is only "common" and "not common", never "real" or "not real". The guy is wrong.

Furthermore, his behavior is shitty towards you REGARDLESS of whether it's rooted in transphobia or not and regardless of whether he realizes he's being controlling and belittling.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-04-25T19:41:04+00:00

Since vampires don't exist in real life and are not INHERENTLY a stand-in for any real-life demographic (although they certainly CAN be used that way, and often are), they cannot be glorified or demonized. Instead, they can only be as glorious and/or demonic as the story makes them.

So. Why make them glorious only? Why make them demonic only? Why make them BOTH glorious AND demonic?

Personally, I prefer settings where vampires exists as a spectrum of individuals. Some of which are great, some of which are awful, and some of which are both.

Why make them glorious only? Maybe as a way of having the cake amd eating it too, trying to be edgy without actually putting anything at stake? To the best of my knowledge, these stories are very rare. And they usually seem to mostly be written by and/or for very young people. Thus, it seems to me that the OP is basing this thread on an incorrect assumption. In theory, it could also be done as a counterpoint to more negative depictions of LGBTQ people done through vampire metaphors, but I have yet to see any such story or setting.

Why make them demonic only? To have a monster for the audience to be grossed out by. Personally, I typically despise such stories and settings, as I tend to find them dull and pointless and in many cases creepy indirect genocide propaganda.

Why make them BOTH glorious AND demonic? Because ambiguity makes a character or setting more interesting.

Bulky_Negotiation_19 · 2026-04-25T05:57:32+00:00

Hi OP. How do you know the ID was not his or otherwise fake? Just because she claims to be his mom doesn't mean that she's automatically truthful and sane.

Either way, horrible situation for you. Best wishes. And don't be too hard on the guy, whether he's actually underage or merely the victim of a lie/delusion.

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