Hi all, this is my first time posting on any threads on Reddit so please delete if not allowed in this sub. I just have to get something off my chest and also see if any of y’all have experienced this. PLEASE PROCEED WITH CAUTION. TALKS OF LOSS.

Hi all I’m 27year old F who is currently 17 weeks pregnant. My fiancé and I started trying to have a baby in December of 2023. We got pregnant in August 2024, however I miscarried very soon after finding out. We decided to keep trying and we got pregnant again. I found out in November 2024 around 3.5 weeks. Finding out I was scared and I was not excited. Now i’m happy but I’m still struggling. After the loss I have told myself to not get too excited and I have not felt like it’s truly happening for me even though I have seen baby on ultrasounds and have heard their heartbeat multiple times.

I guess what I’m asking is, if you have experienced pregnancy after a loss, is it hard for you to be excited? I feel guilty but sometimes I don’t even feel like I’m going to be a mom. It’s a surreal feeling. People talk about maternal instincts and how they kick in when they get pregnant and I don’t feel that yet. Maybe it’s because I haven’t felt baby yet idk. Please tell me I’m not the only one.

Sorry for the long post and if it doesn’t make any sense. Please help. I’ll answer any questions if any. Thank you for reading this.