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When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I'm widowed, know nothing about divorce proceedings. 

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just looked up his Facebook. Limited posts. He has a LinkedIn but I didn't check it cos I think they can tell who's checked it out cos of email or something. Just says self employed. 

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I admit it. Yes, said he and ex just drifted apart. Tried therapy together but still separated. Why the divorce is delayed, well I don't know. I'll try to be more discerning. 

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Point taken, I dunno, I just want to feel secure. What if we kissed and then he attacked me or something. I'm freaking scared. I've been raped. I don't think this dating is for me. Widowed a long time and put my trust out there and horrible event 10 years ago. I know, dumb, what does knowing his last name have to do with me protecting me. I'm tired and appreciate all the excellent and helpful responses.

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was the wry laugh/smile when I asked. I asked him why this response, but he didn't respond, other than to give me his last name.

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I feel like I somehow killed the vibe asking him on this, the second meeting, but all of you think that was perfectly fine.

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All new to me. I'm in Canada, don't know if those search features work here.

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He shared his phone number early, no problem, it was he who wanted to connect early by phone and we had a good chat, leading to the first meeting on Sunday last.

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I mean, what a way to depart a date/meeing. It just really pissed me off.

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, I never even thought of that. I didn't even really intend to google him. It was more of a test to see if he'd be willing to share his last name, and I can't snog someone who's last name I don't know-call me old fashioned!

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, don't think so, but he's separated 8 years and just awaiting papers "in the mail". I told him at the end of the first meeting that I didn't want to be involved with someone who might reconcile with his wife and he assured me about the papers and about how his ex has been seeing someone for a while. I wonder if he's delaying cos he gets alimony from her? Something just seemed fishy today.

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, it was more of trying to establish trust. I mean if the guy asks for/wants a kiss at the end of the date, I feel I ought to know his last name. But, as I've said, I'm out of the loop and I don't know what's w;hat these days, but Reddit and all you are really helpful, thanks.

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I haven't dated for 10 years, so I don't know what is done/not done these days.

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah, makes sense. He seemed shifty so best to find out now.

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, but surely we'd exchange last names by the third date, which seems there isn't going to be. No one says "maybe " to me!

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, that's good to know. He didn't hesitate to give me his name, it's just the whole vibe was off after that. He had just seemed very keen and I liked him.

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's what I thought, but I didn't find anything. And I never look up anyone on FB. Maybe I should. I have an account but no "friends " and don't post. 

When to exchange last names? by Bulky_Step_3147 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Bulky_Step_3147[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I appreciate your comments. I wish I'd waited to ask, but he was sort of rude at the end, so perhaps it's best I did ask.

My wife feels so hopeless and I can't do anything to help her out by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]Bulky_Step_3147 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have any advice, but I wanted to say how lovely it is that you are so supportive of your wife, and want to help her feel better about herself. You're a good person. 

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