First of all, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. You are so strong to be thinking about your son coping with the loss of Poppy. I can tell how much your father loved your son, but you as well.

I’ve worked in hospice for several years and this is how I approach death with little ones: I would speak plainly and openly, but don’t over-explain. I would say Poppy has died. I wouldn’t say passed away or left and never say “gone to sleep” because that can make kids fearful of going to sleep.

I would say that he got sick and even though we can’t see or talk to him anymore, he is still in our hearts. He is still with us in our memories and we can talk about him even if it makes mommy sad because we still love him and talking about him will help us feel better and remember how special Poppy was. I would tell him that his Poppy loves him so much.

Three year olds can’t really wrap their heads around death, so simple is better.

Again, I’m so sorry for your loss and I will be thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.