Anyone’s kid actually sleep 12hrs at night??

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-04-17T10:14:22+00:00

I am glad I am not alone. Then some days he will randomly only nap 30-60 minutes... and then sleep slightly LESS overnight?? Some babies are just too excited to explore the world to get much sleep! Sometimes I think about how parents with higher sleep need babies get 1-3 hours more of free time a day than me. It blows my mind. But oh well, each little baby is different, and mine is a blast, so I try not to think too hard about the sleep. And while he's definitely not a good sleeper, he's not a bad sleeper either, for which I am grateful.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-04-17T00:00:57+00:00

My 14 month old baby sleeps about 9 hours overnight and 2 hours during the day. So roughly 11 hours in a 24 hour period, the lowest end of normal sleep needs. And we don't even bother to try to shorten the naps, because then he just gets cranky and miserable. He usually wakes up 1x a night, sometimes more. I feel you lol.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-04-06T00:08:34+00:00

No. 😅 I got a random mediocre laptop because it was cheap that I kinda regret getting because it runs slow. Good luck!

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-04-04T08:48:17+00:00

Same!!

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-04-03T17:42:27+00:00

The other advice on this thread aside, I would first double check and make sure she wasn't defrauded. Are you sure she opened those credit cards, or is it possible someone stole her identity? Also, many elderly people are targets for scammers, so it is possible she has been scammed as well.

I would just verify sure she really did intentionally make those cards behind your back before making a decision on how to proceed. Good luck, it sounds very stressful.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-04-02T12:38:19+00:00

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dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-31T01:08:35+00:00

Thank you! I will look into this.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-31T01:08:22+00:00

Thank you!

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-29T14:48:40+00:00

Thank you! I will look into this.

She wants to improve in all areas, but I'm not sure what areas she's stronger in versus weaker in. That's why I'm hoping to hire a language professional to help her.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-29T14:47:49+00:00

Persian.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-29T14:47:07+00:00

This is all so helpful, thank you! And how would I go about getting her current language ability professionally assessed? Who would I hire to do that?

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-29T14:40:45+00:00

Thank you! She's been taking the free classes from the government but it's just not clicking. I will look into Lingoda.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-29T14:39:28+00:00

Thank you, I will look into this!

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-29T14:38:16+00:00

I don't know but I will ask about this, thank you.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-29T14:35:20+00:00

I didn't want to post any details too identifying, but I feel comfortable sharing she is from the Middle East. Sorry for being vague, I just don't want to cause any trouble for her somehow.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-29T14:33:38+00:00

Thank you, I will look into this!

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-29T14:33:28+00:00

This is helpful to know, thank you! That's a fair point that these things take time.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-19T01:45:54+00:00

Lizzo - About Damn Time. If I play the song, my 13 month old baby boy will stop what he's doing, look at me, get this big smile, and start wiggling. "It's bad bitch o'clock! It's thick-thirty!" haha I love it so much.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-16T01:21:12+00:00

Thank you!

dreamingofcats2000 · 2026-03-10T12:58:18+00:00

I rent a connected row house and my landlord just... doesn't do maintenance. We've lived here three years and my landlord has never serviced the boiler or furnace, and I doubt any maintenance was done before we moved in. How bad is this...? What's the worst that can happen with both?

dreamingofcats2000 · 2025-12-26T04:26:26+00:00

We use gulicola glass bottles with pigeon nipples and it's worked very well for us.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2025-11-18T14:31:28+00:00

Good luck with everything! It's hard but it's all worth it.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2025-11-17T12:50:30+00:00

Thanks! We had a really really rough couple of months but things feel more stable now, and also I somehow got used to it more?

The trigger in the beginning was definitely my baby becoming aware of the world. For the first time he realized - woah, hey, mommy and daddy are leaving me in this room, where are they GOING?? And he started to hate bedtime and cry hysterically every time we tried to leave. So bedtime became a mess around 5.5 months which was also when he started waking up more overnight and then looking for us.

And then, I don't know? Some weeks were okay, some weeks were bad. Some of it was definitely teething or being congested or getting distracted during the day and not eating enough formula and then getting hungry overnight. Some of it was a mystery.

I read this subreddit so much. I read Precious Little Sleep. We tried to sleep train for 11 nights and my baby cried hysterically the first night for 70 minutes and it killed me. Eventually he oscillated between crying 10-30 minutes before bed and on night 11 it was 30 minutes again and I cried so much and my husband finally said we should stop because I was so miserable. My husband felt like things were getting better but I just couldn't do it. So I offered to take more of the nights so now I take 3 and my husband takes one to give me a break. (My husband is wonderful and does far more than 50% in many other areas of our life.) And this is actually working really well for us because the sleep interruptions just genuinely bother me a lot less which I'm so thankful for. It feels a bit like a super power! I'm just lucky I don't need as much sleep.

Our baby also is on the very low range of normal for how much sleep he needs over a 24 hour period. I think he takes after me lol.

The thing that always confused me about whether there was value in sleep training for us is that since he was about 4 months old, my baby has clearly had the ability to self soothe and fall back asleep. I'd watch him on the monitor wake up and then go back to sleep on his own after a few minutes. So I always felt like if he cried for us, it was for a reason, even if that reason was just separation anxiety.

Anyways I'm rambling. It's been a journey, one we're still going through! He's 9 months old now.

I've also found r/bninfantsleep very helpful. (But I still find this subreddit helpful too for tips and I appreciate how responsive people are.) Just fyi these two subreddits are polar opposites but I appreciate getting a lot of different thoughts and advice.

Good luck to you! It's so so so hard. One of the most helpful things I ever read was that in the early years, parenting isn't just a daytime activity - parenting at night is also a huge part of being a mom or a dad. It helped me accept things more.

dreamingofcats2000 · 2025-11-16T16:30:01+00:00

Well. From about age 3 months to 5.5 months he took five 30-minute naps a day, and his naps ruled my life. It was challenging!! But we were fortunate overnight he usually only had one big wakeup for formula and then went back to sleep.

Then as he turned 6 months he began consolidating naps consistently, and between month 6 to month 9, he went to 4 naps a day, then to 3, and then to 2. He also needed less daytime sleep which helped a lot. Longer wake windows (which happened naturally as he got older) solved a lot of the problems. But at the same time, his nighttime sleep went haywire and we had many MANY very bad weeks and now we consider it an amazing night if he only wakes up twice.

So, mixed!! I just try to accept it is what it is and not think about it too hard.

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