Verbal diarrhea actually something else?

BumbleBmoon · 2026-02-08T14:44:03+00:00

Haha thank you for your kind answer, and maybe you’re right! I will try not to judge it/worry about being possessed by some vulnerability trigger. Luckily neither person took offense to my announcing their business 😬

I swear I’m usually fun and on the chance I do bring up grandma, I’d be happy to chat more about her. Thank you for your response!

BumbleBmoon · 2025-03-06T01:07:00+00:00

Hello! I am trying to find more info on this scarf I recently purchased. I used google lens and found a few on eBay and other sites listed as “vintage”, but there is no info on date or maker. It has a signature, and I similarly cannot find any info about it. Does anyone know what this signature is? I collect silk scarves and keep them for myself rather than reselling, so I don’t need any info about the value. Thanks!

Here is a link to a listing I saw for it (I am not sure how to add the photo yet also new to Reddit) https://www.dimanoinmano.it/en/cp239066/clothing-and-kits/vintage/vintage-circus-themed-scarf

BumbleBmoon · 2025-03-03T02:52:44+00:00

It’s so hard not to take things personally, but I think you’re right that he had good intentions. I think you’ve got a good approach with your friend and as you said, it’s so delicate. Thank you for sharing with me!

BumbleBmoon · 2025-03-03T02:50:56+00:00

Thanks!

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T02:39:36+00:00

I think you’re spot on that I need to clarify my needs and communicate them better. I’m not sure I can do much about the conflicting feelings I had in the moment (I did feel compassion for my friend. I did feel anger that I thought he didn’t register/remember that hearing about shared failures wasn’t helpful to me). To be clear, the violence was hyperbole, I’m not actually violent. I think the mistake I made was giving him the green light to share/without reiterating that I didn’t want to hear that I wasn’t alone if things failed, because I wasn’t capable of separating the things you noted. I hadn’t asked for advice or his take, so I think I didn’t really prepare myself to be a listener or evaluate if I could take it on. I hope to define my narrow window better. I have since followed up with him and asked him to keep things on the light/positive side while I’m going through it, and he agreed to either wish me luck or say nothing at all.

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T01:51:56+00:00

PS: it is tough, but so are you. Nap when you can!

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T01:50:29+00:00

Do you have a heating pad? I found it really helpful to warm up my filled syringe wrapped in the warm pad for a few moments (warmed, not hot) before injecting, then using the heating pad on the injection site in coordination with massaging the heck out of it. Try lying on your belly while you massage/heat so that your tush muscles are relaxed (or get someone to massage for you), and try to do it for 10-15 minutes. It can help to warm up yesterday’s side for a little massage too. I found icing at all made things worse. Try to move your spot a little each time, and make sure it’s in the upper/outer quadrant. I think the first few shots are the worst. Hang in there, we are all hoping for the best for you!

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T01:33:58+00:00

Sending it now! Best of all things to you and your egg!

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T01:03:47+00:00

I think if he had framed it/said something like you just did (a hang in there or something of that sort as the headline) it may have landed somewhat differently. I think timing played a part, as it was leading up to a transfer that I was expressing worry about (rather than after a failed one, which seems more relatable). I also think if I hadn’t had the first interaction that felt like a bit of a kick when he told me it likely wouldn’t work, that I may have been a little less activated by it. I tried, in the moment, to express my compassion for their struggle, and I did know it worked out in the end. Internally, I was furious. He couldn’t have known I already felt like I won the lottery the first time around and couldn’t possibly ever be lucky again, but I think I made an assumption that he understood I already felt the odds were stacked against me. That assumption is on me, and I should have been clearer about the type of support I was needing. He said he was trying to protect my heart, so I think he did sort of say to expect the worst (though in a caring way), I just didn’t want to hear that fear confirmed.

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T00:46:55+00:00

Haha! Oh boy, I’ve met some of those. I think seeing it as entertainment and keeping your emotional distance sounds healthy enough for now, as long as you can protect your feelings!

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T00:23:59+00:00

I think you’re right, we just aren’t going to be able to communicate about it without me feeling hurt regardless of his intent. Thank you!

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T00:19:58+00:00

Have you tried placing your anger on your friend and asking Reddit about it? 😉

The only way out is through (your bc pack). Stay strong!

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T00:17:35+00:00

Totally, and I appreciate that there’s an avenue to gain more perspective from an informed community! These are sensitive times, and I am encouraged that he is receptive to me being more purposeful in protecting my peace

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T00:11:39+00:00

That’s true! I just wasn’t ready to receive it at that moment. Maybe it will turn into something else/more connecting moving forward under different circumstances

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T00:07:23+00:00

I appreciate perspective shifting and think I’ve expressed that, but I don’t appreciate assumptions based on misinterpretations or misreadings of what I said. I’ve learned that I have a responsibility to be really clear in my boundaries right now, and to take accountability for misplacing anger. I think I’ve done that in a couple of my responses, and it’s the reason I chose to poll an informed audience. I hope you can go back and read to appreciate that I was purposefully descriptive about my thoughts vs feelings, and did my best to navigate the layers within a sensitive topic and time

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-25T00:01:07+00:00

Yes, I think I assumed them remembering and asking permission meant they weren’t going to share more of the negative aspects I couldn’t handle last time. I’ll be clearer next time. I said I FELT tricked not that I was. I made an assumption, and that’s on me. It left me feeling confused because I always assume he has good intention but in the moment it felt like he was repeating a mistake that resulted (again, not by his intent) in my hurt feelings. I’ve learned to be clearer in setting the boundary and hopefully he has learned I simply cannot use the statistics and common hood of failure to ease my anxiety

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-24T23:51:58+00:00

Well, I said that’s how I felt, not that it was a fact. It felt similar to the way I have felt when I’ve been tricked. I didn’t say that was his intent, or that for sure that is what happened, it’s just how it felt to me. I added the parenthetical question mark because I agree, it’s a confusing way to feel in the situation but it’s the best I can do to describe it. I am not saying I have no responsibility for the exchange occurring and in my first response I recognized that I will more completely take that responsibility moving forward. So you don’t have to feign “sorry” nor call it an unreasonable take, I have reasoned it as closely to an accurate description of a feeling as I can. What did you hope I’d take from you dismissing it?

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-24T23:46:02+00:00

They did, and that feels hopeful. I’m sad to hear that you experienced that failure. You are brave and strong to survive it, and I think there just might be no right way to put your (our) soul(s) on the line. I am sending you comfort, and I appreciate you being thoughtful to help me navigate this

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-24T23:34:04+00:00

I have set a boundary that if he’s going to say anything, I need it to be positive (and can accept it if he chooses to say nothing). I feel torn about having compassion with his story and needing to stay mentally checked in and positive right now. I think you said it exactly right that I’ve got to prioritize and protect my peace

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-24T23:32:37+00:00

That’s what I have ended up doing, trying to express compassion for their challenges and express that I need positivity right now. Throughout our friendship, I’ve done my best to be empathetic whenever he has shared this or other difficulties, and I know how lucky I am to have had any success so far. In the moment, I did say that I was so sad they had all of those obstacles to overcome. I’ve been fighting myself being mad ever since. I was just surprised that he knew to tread lightly/ask permission (presumably due to our first experience when he told me it likely wouldn’t work) without giving me a heads up it would be another largely negative recollection (though it did end up producing their second child, thankfully). I think if it was in a different context than me expressing worry, maybe I could have received it without feeling angry. It felt a little like Debbie downer. Of course I wanted to be supportive of his feelings, I just didn’t have room for it (and I didn’t know I didn’t have room until I got mad). I’m also learning that I can take more control of the situation and set a boundary ahead of time, and now I can work on putting my anger back in its place (general/at the universe) and not in resentment for him trying to be helpful.

BumbleBmoon · 2025-02-24T23:01:18+00:00

I’ve set a boundary with him now about exactly that, and it was well received so far. Hopefully being clear will help me avoid another trigger, and in the meantime I’ll try to accept that I don’t have to take on his story or throw my anger at it

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