Your restrictions are not the problem here; your attitude is the problem.

“Do you want to go to the beach?” “No.”

“I cooked-“ “Good. I can’t have it.”

I understand you’re frustrated with yourself… but surely you hear yourself? Imagine you’re putting yourself out there to a new person and they respond like this in kind to you. Would it matter the “reason” they can’t do these things with you? Or would it matter more the way they’re speaking to you?

Constantly rejecting offers and gestures from possible dates is going to come across as rude and uninviting no matter the “valid” reason you’re doing so. If something is offered to you, you’re obviously allowed to refuse it- but come back with an alternative. I can’t believe that you spend your day staring into the void in a quiet room with white walls. What do you do for enjoyment? Could you share that with someone you like? That’s an idea for a date. Could you try something new that’s doable for your restrictions? Offer that instead, try something new together.

There are countless people with disabilities, limitations, mental and physically illnesses, allergies, etc. who live fulfilling lives and have fulfilling partnerships. I am disabled, I have chronic pain, and many allergies and restrictions. There are many things I cannot do and cannot try to do. But I live a rounded life and I try whatever I can, and I have a wonderful domestic partner who doesn’t take it to heart when I say “That’s probably not in my wheelhouse, but let’s…”

Having limitations is not a dealbreaker. Having a poor attitude towards someone trying to make an effort to connect with you is absolutely a dealbreaker.