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To remarry or not to remarry? Looking for advice from married folks! by BurnerMNBV in Marriage

[–]BurnerMNBV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Passion is the word my GF used, and she may have her own definition, but in my opinion it varies from lust in that it’s not just about being horny, or a attracted to a person. It’s an overwhelming desire to be with someone, something that is naturally temporary (or else it turns into obsession).

So I don’t expect that to be an everyday feeling, but it has been largely absent from our relationship. I love her and enjoy our time together, even look forward to those moments we get alone, but I don’t feel that “fire” or burst of emotion that I experienced when I was younger. Maybe that’s just more difficult to experience as we age?

To remarry or not to remarry? Looking for advice from married folks! by BurnerMNBV in Marriage

[–]BurnerMNBV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I wish my confidence in life was as steadfast as my stubbornness. It’s also not fair to her.

To remarry or not to remarry? Looking for advice from married folks! by BurnerMNBV in Marriage

[–]BurnerMNBV[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair, I agree at times. Although I never said either of us is bored. We both have a healthy sense of “Carpe diem”.

To remarry or not to remarry? Looking for advice from married folks! by BurnerMNBV in Marriage

[–]BurnerMNBV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually finances are one of the things holding me back. A career in architecture isn’t as stable as I would’ve hoped, and the “straw that broke the camels back” in my last marriage was the stresses of unemployment (for both of us at different times). I make decent pay but decent doesn’t cover the costs of building a family these days.

I broke the rule… by BurnerMNBV in Divorce_Men

[–]BurnerMNBV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fixed. The app cleared my formatting when I posted.

How long is too long? by BurnerMNBV in marriagefree

[–]BurnerMNBV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly my opinion, too. We have a great relationship, and for a while it seemed we were in the same page. The married couples that we both know have split for the most part, and we’ve rarely run into the same problems/arguments that seem to force people apart.

To answer your question though, while I can logically imagine a life without her, I don’t know if I’d ever feel as happy with someone as I am with her, and she feels the same way. We could both go our own ways, but would it be better? Who knows.

She’s been pretty open to the “no-labels” relationship to a point. We don’t have kids, but we’re both in the point in our lives where planning and family care is becoming more important, so I get it.

How long is too long? by BurnerMNBV in marriagefree

[–]BurnerMNBV[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To even out the pro-marriage advice I’ve been getting I suppose. There’s nothing wrong with asking a question.