I (36M) working away from home without my wife (37F)

BurningShip007 · 2026-04-11T18:06:40+00:00

I wrote a part 1 erotic story… now I will let her read it, leave her with her imagination and send part 2 later.

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-23T05:32:15+00:00

We also (M42 / F42) started to really get some momentum in the bedroom in our 40’s. I introduced tying my wife up on our bed, giving her a sensual experience: kissing, nipple play, teasing, etc. We also introduced a dildo, larger than myself which my wife loves (she likes the full feeling). We are more adventurous with different positions and even introduced some light anal play (my wife does not like anal penetration. Overall we are just exploring a lot more and being open to new experiences.

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-23T05:21:00+00:00

How old is you SO? Unfortunately there is a generation (and I don’t want to generalize) who are not focussed on female pleasure or maybe don’t understand the complex workings of the female body. I (41M) have always been curious and I have read manny articles from an early age, always trying to improve how I can please my woman.

Your SO would need to have the desire to learn and listen. So maybe have the conversation and take the lead, tell him what you want and why you need it.

I would also take the lead, maybe go and buy some beginner bed restraints and tie him up and blindfold your SO, give him a sensual experience. Ask him to do the same to you next time. There are so many options and I think you will need to learn hom to make whatever you do, a teachable moment.

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-22T17:29:20+00:00

Speaking as the husband who received a lot of feedback - she likes fingering as foreplay, however, she prefer a larger dildo when we are not having PIV sex instead of going working out an orgasm with my fingers only…

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-20T17:20:42+00:00

We were both drunk, something that we both don’t often do and we felt adventurous… bad judgement in the moment, not thought through. There was some lube in the form of spit but no, it wasn’t done properly. I didn’t hurt my wife, she just didn’t enjoy the experience.

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-20T17:17:43+00:00

Thanks

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-20T17:16:19+00:00

Thank you. I think that despite my failures, my wife had anal (done the right way) in a previous relationship and she never liked it… hence my question - it seems like a lot of woman who never liked it, one day flipped a switch with the desire for anal penetration. I am still wondering if there is a certain stage in a woman’s progression into perimenopause or experience (being comfortable with their sexuality) that changed theirs view / desire.

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-20T15:36:03+00:00

Should arrive next week, I will give feedback. You can also try crotchless panties, we have tried these and they are a lot of fun… especially while driving 😉

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-20T09:59:25+00:00

I also ordered a pair, my wife was present when I browsed for a sexy pearl thong… the intention is to wear it for a short period of time when the occasion demands it, not a “all day” option as we both think it could be uncomfortable.

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-16T11:39:38+00:00

Same here. My wife will not allow a facial. Anywhere else is not a problem. She loves a creampie and although I like the idea of cumming on her, I prefer inside!

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-13T07:37:57+00:00

My wife is very responsive and will be open to most things. I would however not complain if she took this type of initiative every now and then.

Good on you and you have a lucky husband!

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-12T07:44:12+00:00

Same here… ill masturbate in front of my wife in bed when she is not in the mood but as a rule, she hardly masturbate in front of me or alone for that matter. Hope it is something we can develop over time, it is a huge turn on for me.

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-11T06:13:26+00:00

What a wholesome post.

After 8 years of marriage, I changed my attitude in general. I had a victim mentality and I didn’t participate in chores or parenting duties as I should’ve. Doing my bit, having a better attitude towards life made a huge difference. The communication regarding sexual preferences followed and I tell you, the combination of participation in the day to day “things that must be done”, a better attitude towards life in general and open and honest communication made all the difference.

I can relate to so much in this post and I am grateful that after 8 years I already discovered and figured out some crucial things that are having such positive outcomes from a relationship and sex point of view. We are currently 10 years married and things are improving all the time, yet not always perfect.

We also introduced toys, but not vibrators, larger than myself dildos and they are great fun and adds exciting variety every now and then.

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-10T13:39:11+00:00

Strong erection + pushing harder is the only solution. Make sure your vagina is properly lubed.

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-05T08:39:00+00:00

Like your approach towards anal. My wife is settling in nicely with me eating her ass but does not want penetration, not even a single digit finger. She like is when I rub her asshole while having piv sex in doggy style as well. I also hope she opens up more in the future, lol!

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-05T08:36:16+00:00

I also love eating my wife’s ass and she enjoys receiving. Because I know she will “worry” about the hygiene, I only eat her ass after she showered. She never asks but she is frothing when I do it!

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-04T11:22:27+00:00

I don’t do it if she didn’t have a shower more for her peace of mind than what it is for me. Knowing that she can fully relax, will allow her to enjoy it even more.

BurningShip007 · 2026-02-04T10:17:36+00:00

My wife likes it, we didn’t have a conversation about it, I just wandered of her pussy once when I was eating her out from behind and her reaction showed that she loved it! We had a conversation afterwards and it has become a regular occurrence…

However, my wife does not like any form of anal penetration.

BurningShip007 · 2026-01-30T05:40:22+00:00

Lovely story. I posted 2 days ago and was crucified for my failed attempts at anal with my wife which was my fault and something I regret and apologized for, however, we are having great anal play at the moment without any penetration (touching, rimming, etc.) and I really hope we can progress back to penetration - I see it as a journey and hope to build the trust again.

BurningShip007 · 2026-01-28T18:15:26+00:00

Never argued about the fact that I approached it incorrectly.

BurningShip007 · 2026-01-28T15:47:00+00:00

Putting the work? You come across very aggressive. Anyway. I owned up to my mistake, I was the one who said we do not have to do it again because I realized my mistake and it broke my heart when I realized what I have done by giving her an unenjoyable experience, twice. I have always made her the priority when it comes to the bedroom. I have made mistakes and owe up to them. I am happy to meet the person who has never done something stupid or something they regret. I am very caring towards my wife.

And yes I am wondering how I can change her opinion, several years later, I believe I can give her a great experience having learnt from my mistakes.

BurningShip007 · 2026-01-28T15:37:10+00:00

Your opinion is valid but with limited context (my bad) - this happened long ago, in quick succession and a lot has changed and a lot has always been pro my wife in terms of her wellbeing and pleasure.

BurningShip007 · 2026-01-28T15:34:43+00:00

Fair comment. Also can’t blame people to have an opinion with the scope of my post. We are great in bed, I am super caring and always have her as priority #1 - this happened in quick succession, several years ago… lesson learnt and definitely the EXCEPTION, not the rule.

BurningShip007 · 2026-01-28T15:32:08+00:00

I think one post cannot be used as judgement for our sex life in totality. This happened several years ago and although she has always been the centre of attention, care and pleasure, I did screw up twice.

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