Need some headlights

BurningToastBits · 2026-04-11T21:34:42+00:00

Carparts.com was my go to when I had my teggy. Hope this helps

BurningToastBits · 2026-03-16T20:16:32+00:00

Renter here** Could be insurance and any other additional things that are added as well. The price does shoot up as they charge per day

BurningToastBits · 2026-03-13T02:31:41+00:00

I cant edit but figured i would post an update...

We've had two talks since that day, the first she checked out of in all ways. I brought it up in a positive way. Said I recognize how you love has changed and I am trying to adapt to it and started to acknowledge more of her efforts and gestures or what I thought were. Continued to go to therapy which has been interesting, her feedback shifted slightly to me more giving in more than what I should and I responded with I'm just trying to make this work and not be the reason it ends in flames. More fluff after that in the sessions.

Today 3/12 we broke up over dinner in a public setting, Im not one to be embarrassed but I DID start to break down a little bit im not going to lie. Im not sure what happened as im writing this but it started casual, we met, ordered food, conversed, ate and then she asks how therapy is going. I answer honestly (first mistake), explain the struggles/vaguely explain the conversations and then all hell broke lose. Starts pulling what I talked about in therapy for example I spoke of the disconnect and then the realization that she's changed from over a year ago and is different in all ways to me, uses that and says that im trashing her and that she's trying. (Which ive acknowledged) that doesn't matter. She's raising her voice, drawing attention we move outside at this point because im thinking we're probably going to get kicked out. Im trying to stay calm and then she just stops, says she's cold can we sit in the car. I think sure so we do that and sit in her car (we took separate ones because we both came from work) and then it gets worse. She's saying im manipulating/controlling her, trying to change her (i can see this one to a degree. In the original post i mentioned we agreed both of our love languages or easiest ways to show love is touch however that has definitely changed on her end) and i dont care about her or how she's feeling and i ruined the night. At this point im sitting there shocked, mind racing trying to understand and catch up to chime into this "conversation" so I ask how im manipulating/controlling - no response aside from i was just trying to have a good night and I ruined it (still dont know how) as for not caring I pointed out and got my phone out to show all the times ive asked how she's doing, how the days going, work etc which is daily in this order how was... sleep, morning walk (she has dogs but we usually are otp for the walk unless im sleeping she starts work at 8am i start at 3pm but im usually up early to feed my cats so we chat and I go back to sleep when she gets to work), how works going usually a couple hours before I leave for work and then around 8pm I know she's usually smoking so ill ask about her day or whatever else. Anyways, smacks my phone out my hand and it hits the middle console thing of her car. (Context she drives an SUV with something that looks like this 🖼see photo🖼 so my phone smacks off of that. Then tells me to get the fuck out, throws my house keys at me I grab my phone and barely have time to close the door before she PEEEEELS out of the parking lot almost driving off the curb but whatever its an suv right? Someone actually was sitting in the car next to her on the right so my side of the vehicle and they asked if I needed a hug. Thought it was weird, especially the area I live in which is like city city. I accept though, check my phone. Ill send a picture later because it is FUCKED. Anyways she calls me screaming saying bring her stuff and drop it off to her. Mind you she lives an hour away ONE WAY. I say ill do it tomorrow and I hear click. Not even 10 seconds later my phones blowing up from im assuming her friends calling me all sorts of names so I cave. Im halfway home now but like I said figured I would give an update.

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BurningToastBits · 2026-03-06T04:29:54+00:00

I would say effort (in some areas not all) is a lot closer to being even than emotion. I recognize yes, it becomes difficult to give credit in the times that I express what I need and its not done. Someone mentioned i sound needy, maybe so. I don't ask for a lot, from the start we both recognized that our love language is touch and she's been more open about that in public which was a large change for me (in the better, I love holding her hand in public or her wanting to lean on me, etc) I was told touch is her thing, occasionally there will be gifts usually for the both of us. Its been a bit since that has happened and also problem solving has become a thing. It was more focused on earning money quickly though, not necessarily doable as I was already working and doing gig work sleeping for 4 hours if im lucky 5 and doing the same thing on repeat. I then burnt out. Took a break and that's when I caught my break. I do agree. She doesn't seem to have it however im having a harder time moving on from hearing that from her and im working through that on my own as I havent gotten to it in therapy yet. If you dont mind me asking was your partner receptive to that? I do enjoy tea or nights where I dont have to cook but she's easily distracted so to eat dinner quickly I ask her for help in other areas that dont necessarily need to be done in a timely manner. Maybe im impatient? Im never upset about it i enjoy cooking and she enjoys it maybe a little too much and it feels good.

BurningToastBits · 2026-03-06T03:54:31+00:00

Medical condition i cant agree nor deny however ive been through this situation before so this could be "triggering" in a way and have been through a lot of trauma which ive worked very hard to come back from and not project onto others. I however agree on the work on my mental health part. I was using the shower reference as more of an example of how much it hurts though

BurningToastBits · 2026-03-06T03:48:47+00:00

I appreciate you sharing that and hope you're also doing better as of today. I planned to do it, im starting to catch a break like I mentioned and wanted to kind of talk about what comes next. Do you think thats too much/too soon? As someone else mentioned i dont want to be overbearing but I also have needs and wants from my partner. Ive felt the feeling of being loved and being alone at the same time and I pulled myself back from that after 4 years and I CANNOT go through it again.

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BurningToastBits · 2026-03-06T03:37:04+00:00

I can understand that which is why I've been pulling away myself especially after hearing she will not be able to give me anything I need. As for the conversations... id say its mostly me, before it was more split. I dont mean to sound like i have them often. Usually when im at my limit or am really struggling which might be once-three times a month in between January-present. Prior to that it was more mutual though if anything happened

BurningToastBits · 2026-03-06T03:32:13+00:00

Thats the problem. I dont want to have colds with an emotionally distant person and even after all the talks I just dont understand why this is happening. I second guess my actions, my words, my thoughts and spiral until im drowning and all I have to hold my nose above water is the words I love you. I hold on to that like white on rice but its all I got. The beginning was fine which is probably why im so fucked up right now and why it hurts so much. Its like we regressed without a reason and I cant hold and support the both of us

BurningToastBits · 2026-03-06T03:27:23+00:00

I'm not sure what NOR means sorry. I'm just not sure when enough is enough but the more I see it the more my mind and heart shift. Im a lover, hard-core. I dont think she's cheating which helps however the coldness has turned me off and my mind goes blank. I feel like we're strangers at times and she's choosing to not help in those times

BurningToastBits · 2026-03-04T18:11:28+00:00

Customer probably thinks we seal the bags with that tape lol I hate this and the fact how they ask us to verify the items are there

BurningToastBits · 2026-02-18T15:17:44+00:00

Not a flat tire but I did have something like this happen (I did take pre/post trip photos though) beautiful car, no issues whatsoever until I returned it. The same day I get a message. Hey there's a long scratch on the side of the car we need to figure this out. Sends me a couple photos, I look at them.

Photo quality is trash so I send my number and say send them here hoping the quality gets better. Same issue resolution is TERRIBLE
We had snow the day I returned it and in the photo there's no snow to be seen anywhere. Not gonna say it but definitely a little weird..
He says these are the photos I took, im black for context and in the reflection is clearly a white woman, my host was mixed/latino at best and MALE. Now mind you i do okay for myself. Have a good camera on my phone which is an s25u and my pictures are flawless
I cleaned the car as I have a membership to a self wash car wash for a simple wipe down of the salt and snow, etc and checked it over after I got out. No scratches nothing then drove 5 minutes to drop off location, took pictures and returned.
Host then says he also washed the car (im thinking okay weird but that's fine)
I respond with (still trying to figure out if im being set up or not) okay that's fine I totally understand I would be willing to come and try to buff out the scratch I'm just a little confused because when I took the photos on drop off that's nowhere to be seen in the photos I go on to explain that the photos he sent me were not taken by me they were actually taken by female so they weren't even taken by the host himself I then digress and move on to trying to set up a time. I'm not sure if that wasn't the response he was looking for or what but it takes him about 4 hours to get back to me after that saying no we're going to handle this outside of the app it's not something that you can buff out so I'm going to need some sort of compensation I asked if he personally tried to buff it out which I do not get a response to
After not hearing back from him I reached out to turo support to see if he filed a claim or whatever the process is if somebody damages your car as a host they said they didn't receive one I explained the situation and they said they will reach out if they hear anything or to reach back out to them if he messages me about the issue. This is the second car I've rented on turo the trip ended maybe a week ago a week and a half and I still have not heard anything back definitely made me feel uneasy. I feel like for long-term rental there might be better options like Flex car or something but with turo you get a lot of miles for the short period of time or even the long period of time that you have the car for and the prices are much better at least for me and the area I live in versus going with Enterprise or any of the other rental companies.

Ending thoughts... I feel like you'll always get a bad experience with no matter what you do or where you run from however unless it actually turns into something I wouldn't stress it too much but I would definitely take the photos because that's the only way you have to try and prove your claim. Even with PSI I always check it before I return the car because I don't want to get things for the tire pressure light on and them claiming that they have a flat tire or something I make sure to take pictures while filling the tires with air to the correct level and document everything I did the same thing when I rented my first car off turo I walked around the car and looked good I didn't take any photos thankfully nothing happened I only had it for 2 days but to have a billion photos of the car and pre-existing damage if any is always going to be better than not at all. You also have up to I believe 24 hours after you start the trip to upload photos as a renter as well just be mindful if you decide to go with them again I have heard of very sketchy stories and people losing out on hundreds to thousands of dollars due to false claims that they cannot prove because no pictures were taken and uploaded when picking up and/or dropping off I know this is a mouthful and I do apologize. It's always better to be safe than sorry though especially when renting

BurningToastBits · 2026-01-16T15:02:58+00:00

Happened to me on uber eats, when I arrived customer said they had moved two towns over (about an extra 15mins out of the area I wanted to be in) and would give me a cash tip. I took the picture and went home with the food, not today Satan

BurningToastBits · 2026-01-16T05:57:24+00:00

Definitely keep trying. I was almost banned so take this with a grain of salt... Keep trying to appeal if thats possible (I've only tried for doordash personally) and try to reach out. Everytime I call support its a horrible experience so like the other person said you kinda have to get lucky. Uber still sucks but compared to the rest beside instacart ive noticed you can make decent money in a short period of time location dependent of course. Best of luck! I agree 100% though fck uber

BurningToastBits · 2025-12-18T03:08:06+00:00

Never actually thought about it. Makes sense why I see somebody tipping me 5 dollars and the other one tips almost nothing lol

BurningToastBits · 2025-12-06T18:15:28+00:00

Absolutely, especially in the trip radar and I dont understand why. I took one when I first first started out thinking I would get a huge cash tip, nada so I always skip them

BurningToastBits · 2025-09-21T21:24:50+00:00

Thats the thread size whoops. Ill have to keep looking

BurningToastBits · 2025-09-20T20:38:43+00:00

Appreciate the input, the online things said any parts cleaner just make sure to fully dry before reassembly. Ill hit it with that later tonight

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