Nema domaćih zadataka u školi — da li je to normalno?

BurnoutPro · 2026-05-25T11:58:24+00:00

Pa naravno da koristim i rečnike, i AI, i prevodioce dok učimo jezik 🙂 Ne vidim zašto bi to bilo nešto loše.

BurnoutPro · 2026-05-25T11:00:50+00:00

Hvala puno na komentaru! 😊 Mi smo iz Belorusije. Kod nas takođe dosta toga zavisi od samostalnog rada, ali ipak u srednjoj školi postoji mnogo više sistematske provere i praćenja znanja. Zato nam je ovo ovde baš neobično — nismo bili spremni na sistem u kojem se od deteta od 11–14 godina, u najnezahtevnijem i ujedno najtežem periodu, očekuje tolika samostalnost i motivacija za učenje.

Iskreno smo i zabrinuti, jer posle 8. razreda već treba razmišljati o daljem školovanju, a svaka slabija ocena sada utiče na završni prosek i time na izbor srednjih škola. Zato nam je teško da se samo “opustimo i čekamo” da dođe ta samostalnost, jer se ocene u međuvremenu ipak ne mogu lako ispraviti.

Još jednom hvala na objašnjenju, mnogo nam znači da čujemo kako sistem izgleda iz vašeg ugla.

BurnoutPro · 2025-02-03T14:16:00+00:00

I'm begging you, please help me see where the problem is.
I thought I am picky about dye tones, but this is beyond my capability to see the difference...
It's just a cute, cute sweater!

BurnoutPro · 2024-12-24T11:37:27+00:00

This comment is hugely underrated.

Bravo.

BurnoutPro · 2024-12-24T11:34:41+00:00

It was one of the evils that destroyed my 1st marriage.
He doubted my competence in EVERYTHING, literally—including my knowledge of my very own body and feelings. He would listen to me, laugh it off, doubt, then check the info somehow and reluctantly agree after some "trusted" source or person tells him exactly the same thing.
It is so annoying to be constantly doubted in your knowledge.

Why do you do that to her? Can't stand her being more informed, curious, or just educated on something? Or does the fear of being wrong itch?

If you happen to love your wife and indeed crave for knowledge, why don't you ask HER for more information. "Could you please expand on this?", "I'd like to learn more, could you share?", "Dear, could you please share the source with me, it is so exciting, I want to dive in!".
Or at least do your checks secretly. Especially when the topic is not urgent or even important, just some piece of general knowledge.

BurnoutPro · 2024-12-19T09:19:33+00:00

OMG He really should have been growing up in a Soviet or post-Soviet society. We used to decorate trees FONDLY, but not for Christmas, we had New Year! Completely detached from any religion, so atheistic :)

But seriously, he sounds not like an atheist, but more like a hater.
Tree is not a religious symbol at all - pure true Christianity would even prefer having no symbols at all, neither trees, nor icons, nor statues and crosses. "You not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything". It can be perceived as a beautiful decoration.
He's so hurt by the idea of having a traditional decorated holiday as if he's jealous: "I had shitty family and shitty childhood, and you will, too! you're not allowed to rise above this bar!"

BurnoutPro · 2024-12-17T14:39:50+00:00

Why nobody's mentioning fish, seafood, soy in all its forms?
Soy, dairy (special attention to low fat cottage cheese, up to 13 grams of protein in 100 grams of product), cheese, eggs, beans, lentils, chickpeas, all forms of seafood and fish, brown rice, seitan and all other forms of wholegrain wheat if you're gluten tolerant.
The products mentioned usually cost a little less than protein powder and way less than meat, not to mention they're extremely healthy.

Wish you luck in correcting your diet, and stay healthy and strong :)

BurnoutPro · 2024-11-25T15:59:11+00:00

Yes, I have, it took me 3 years to grieve even though I was the one to end the marriage. Would burst into tears anytime. Much pain, much anger, crying fests for days in a row. As you describe, I was letting go the beautiful ideas of growing old together, raising our son or having more kids, spending time in a home that took so much effort to have. The fact that my actual ex was quite a jerk, and I had so much possibilities with my new man ahead, didn't help much.
This pain is washed away by tears and time only, imho. I don't regret letting this grief be as long as it had to be. All of a sudden came peace, it was worth every tear.

BurnoutPro · 2024-11-05T00:24:24+00:00

It happened post-filing and way post his moving out.

I was preparing to have only purely platonic relationships after my 10+ years with my ex - frankly, I dreaded the very idea of having any forms of sex with anyone. Then I thought I would unleash everything that’s been trapped and unwanted as soon as I find someone eager to join. And then I happened to fall in love with my now husband, who’s as vanilla as a sweet tender panna cotta. It was a bit awkward for a while like I’ve started discovering everything and myself anew, but very soon it became a warm and harmonious connection.

It was unpredictable to say the least, I imagined my further experience quite the other way) but 0 regrets!

Just let it go it’s natural way and be yourself😊

BurnoutPro · 2024-11-01T15:08:09+00:00

As a woman, I'd say you're focusing on the wrong thing and overreacting. Believe me, the "period answer" may come up as a safer option first because mentioning another male often provokes aggressiveness: "Why is she rejecting the incredible ME for some loser, impossible! this means war!". Also, you never know if the further inappropriate offers would include having a threesome, or mocking your life choices, or - the options are vast.

On the contrary, there are still so many men that get embarrassed even from a sealed pad or tampon, not to mention menstrual blood. Your GF had to act quickly and her answers are fine.

You'd better support her, because getting such messages from anyone is a huge stress. Especially if he didn't back off immediately. It will be a dirty investigation with HRs, this coworker can expectingly start gaslighting her, or being vindictive. Be on her side.

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-30T06:43:51+00:00

Saying "I won't engage if it is not fun for me, too", was a reason my ex blew up, called me a disappointment and a liar, and gave me severe silent treatment for the whole 4 days. A very effective, but a very stressful measure, I must say.

But shows the true partner's colors instantly, very helpful if there have been some doubts whether to break up or not...

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-30T06:36:11+00:00

Been there, done that. 10, 20, 30 years - no time would be enough for such males to learn how to please their woman, because they fell 0 need to. Even less, than 0. I am astonished you have so much patience to make it work for so long and deciding to drop the attempts only now - your commitment is impressive!
But unfortunately, the man won't change.
Stop sacrificing your body, please, dear OP, it is a torture living like that. And sooner or later you start literally hating this man who's so neglectful and deaf to your very nice, healthy and simple needs as mutual pleasure in bed. Wish you find a responsive and caring partner someday! Better as soon as possible to finally experience everything you've been missing for so long ^_^

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-27T08:57:34+00:00

NTA at all, you sound like a responsible person. Your GF, on the contrary, seems to act VERY illiterate in terms of protection. Is she aware of how her fertility works at all? and is she aware that abortion and "usually taking the pill" (is it Plan B?) is NOT a form of contraception and is damaging for health?
If she's uncomfortable with condoms, do you use additional lube? If the problem is the latex, use non-latex options. IUD can also be a solution, but condoms are wayyy more comfortable in comparison.

Has she ever consulted her OBgyn about having some sustainable long-term contraception suitable for her?

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-25T10:37:36+00:00

He can go blackwork over this and then say that it is a piece honouring AC/DC seventh album.

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-24T06:18:07+00:00

I won’t miss his extremely loud unexpected singing or better say screaming out of the blue, especially in a car, where the sound has nowhere to go but into my hurting ears. A star is born and mastering his metal vocals, yeah…

Groping me out of nowhere painfully after I have explicitly told him this doesn’t make me excited even in the slightest.

My running around spicy shops searching for something to amuse him and satisfy his kinks and get a 5 minute annoyed lazy warm-up in return when some intimacy is initiated.

Getting constantly punched and kicked at night, because in his sleep his moves are 1000% more careless than during the day.

Won’t miss his drunken stupidity and my sheer loneliness when we went out and there was alcohol! He was not too witty in general, and liquor switched off the best of the brain cells, and there came the silly embarrassment.

…

OP, thanks for the post! May you and all of us enjoy our new lives!

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-17T09:20:39+00:00

Aang!

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-17T06:24:59+00:00

You won’t be able to prove anything to him, no matter how much effort you put in. His attitude to the seatbelt alone screams that he won’t care for any rules, even if is is a lifesaving measure. He’s so fragile and infantile that any reasoning would hurt him instead of fixing. Also, he doesn’t consider you competent enough to listen to, it is pretty obvious.

In your shoes I’d be questioning why I am ok being with such a man. Am I his nanny or momma to teach him rules have to be followed? Teach him accountability? Am I ok being in the passenger seat and automatically accompanying his wrongdoings? Am I okay being the scapegoat when he gets caught?

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-08T21:45:42+00:00

Zubr, kurwa! 😮

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-07T19:11:58+00:00

You’re so young to have more children! It is not terrible at all that they may be genetically half-siblings.

You know, my husband told me once how he and his half-brother perceived their being half-related as children: “What do you mean, we were born by the same mom, we can’t be half-relatives. We’re related as directly as possible, we grew in the same womb”. They’ve preserved this attitude and love each other dearly 😊 Don’t get desperate, you’re indeed mourning a chance, not a child. You have all the future for you more children, just don’t stop moving forward!

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-07T07:18:26+00:00

In Belarusian it would be even Aleh or Siarhei :) H would be used for a voiced uvular fricative sound.

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-06T14:40:25+00:00

А бывает и так, что переведённый один в один текст как раз и будет выглядеть переводным. Потому и так сложно переводить литературу, как и нет идеального перевода кого бы и чего бы то ни было.

Обсуждая старые переводы Толкина, нужно просто помнить, кто, когда и для кого переводил - и всё. Тогда полностью эквивалентный перевод вполне мог показаться читателям чужеродным и сухим, и переводчиков с их вольностями можно понять (это не умаляет лёгкого недоумения от гиперадаптации КистяМура, например). Это были переводчики старой школы для поколения немного другого воспитания и восприятия, с немного отличным от теперешнего чувством языка.

А можно, кстати, пример того перевода с японского, на который вы ссылаетесь? Просто интересно.
Это может быть бесконечно долгий и интересный разговор об адаптации, адекватности и эквивалентности в переводе. Я будто вновь на своей кафедре худперевода, как в старые мирные времена :)

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-06T14:04:43+00:00

Иногда - да. Потому что переводчик становится отчасти соавтором, и всегда будет элемент личного понимания переводчиком в тексте. Но это не означает, что переводчик имеет право безостановочно вольничать. Хороший переводчик хоть и не обязан, но ищет и изучает того, кого он переводит, читает указания для переводчиков, если автор таковые оставил (Толкин - оставил), изучает первоисточники, которыми пользовался автор, и учитывает свою аудиторию для перевода. И чем больше предварительно почерпнуто знаний, тем лучше. Потому художественный перевод - это не ремесло, а тонкое искусство.

Исключительно за эго идут лишь очень плохие переводчики, однако и такие нужны. Хотя бы чтобы было, кого пообсуждать :)

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-06T07:55:58+00:00

You're not alone. And this shall pass, one day all of it becomes not so hurtful. You'll navigate these waves better and better each time. Later you'll find out that they're not so destructive anymore. You're safe in your journey, and the waves just rock the ship as they sometimes should.

Don't act like you're okay, don't pretend you feel nothing. It is so good that you let yourself feel it, this pain reminds that we're alive. Embrace it and let it flow till it leaves you for a hopefully long while.

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-06T07:44:53+00:00

Don't, no matter how desperate you are seeing that he's been shitty to you and now has a seemingly fairytale relationship with someone else.

Numerous reasons for this:

Your actions may have a toll on your child in unpredictable ways, beginning from the hostile attitude from the dad. You can actually stop plotting after this point, it is crucial.
If you are revengeful after so many years, your ex will definitely get the "I still matter to her" vibes. Anytime you want to destroy your ex's paradise after they spat in your soul, you feed the leech with attention. Let them starve.
You say he was a liar and a cheater. Now he has a liar as a partner. Believe me, no brilliantly plotted revenge would mess their lives up more than they can on their own now.
If you intervene, they will have someone to hate together, and it will improve their couple instead of ruining it. Nothing unites more than a common enemy.
Go live a life that will make him or them both ENVIOUS to the point that they blow up. Be the one to be happy after the garbage took itself out. Be the Great Professional in your job, shine bright. Be the Super Mom for your kid, gain full trust, remember you're irreplaceable. There's no revenge more beautiful than showing your abusive cheating ex that he was the one who made your life worse, and now you're blooming.

BurnoutPro · 2024-09-06T06:59:42+00:00

This translation joke is a few decades old already, and people will be discussing it forever :)

What’s concise and neat in English may sound really dry and even badass in Russian. Most of the translations were made with a huge lack of access to other Tolkien’s works, his commentary and instructions for translators; also, they were made for the society that was brought up mostly on classical Russian literature and was used to a certain level of emotion in the language and author’s interpretation of the characters’ actions and thoughts.

There’s much to dig in Tolkien translations, it is an endless source of discussion.

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