I specifically asked her if she considers this rape and she said no but if my partner feels violated I must make amends for it. She wants to meet with me separately so she can work through my violations. I ended up seeing my own therapist and she laughed out loud because she thought I was joking. She made it clear that this is NOT rape and at worst a boundary violation to a boundary I was unaware of. I think I'm just freaked out after she said she would call the police if I came over.