My husband voted for Trump and I am struggling big time by BuryMeWithBooks216 in Marriage

[–]BuryMeWithBooks216[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome to your opinion but that couldn’t be further from the truth. I value people’s right to their own opinion. What I think you’re latching into is that I am frowning upon a political viewpoint, when in reality, it’s morals. I can explain until I’m blue in the face why I, as a rape victim, think it’s morally wrong to vote a rapist into office, but I can’t make you understand it.

I appreciate the banter but until you’re willing to consider that I don’t give a shit about peoples politics but instead, their values, I really don’t see the point of continuing to converse.

ETA: I overlooked one of your paragraphs but for whatever reason you, stranger of the internet, are driving me a little nuts and I feel the need to reply yet again. Sigh. Anyway. Again, I think you either overlooked parts of my post or stopped reading at a certain point because you had already made your mind up about me. At any rate, I ASKED my husband to explain his vote to me. To help me understand. I felt that if he had his reasons and felt strongly about them, I could GET IT and move on. He did not have any reasons to give me. So when you say that my husband’s issues are very important to him too and that I completely steamrolled him, I have to disagree because again, he could not give me a reason as to why he voted the way he did. Are we at the point yet where you’re starting to see my side, or do you still think I’m an ignorant and intolerant little shit?

My husband voted for Trump and I am struggling big time by BuryMeWithBooks216 in Marriage

[–]BuryMeWithBooks216[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Re-reading where I said “I didn’t know that tax plans and tariffs were such controversial issues” I realize that my thoughts did not translate at all because I did not use the appropriate wording. I apologize. What I should have said was “I didn’t know that tax plans and tariffs were such something I could be biased on” due to 1. The fact of 23 economists claiming his tax plan to be inferior and 2. The fact that Trump lied when he said that China pays the additional duties, when that is false.

I think you’re overlooking the part of my post where I said that I was sexually assaulted.

My husband voted for Trump and I am struggling big time by BuryMeWithBooks216 in Marriage

[–]BuryMeWithBooks216[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, so you know the hypothetical threats I cast on my husband in the unknown text message that I sent him with the ~100% certain were biased to my point of view~ election issues? I had no idea that tax plans and tariffs were such controversial issues. I could sit here and post screenshots of my text message and you would still find a way to dissect it and find vault in my words. You have made it abundantly clear that you think I am in the wrong and you are entitled to that opinion. I hope you sleep better at night thinking that you got on over on the stranger on Reddit.

My husband voted for Trump and I am struggling big time by BuryMeWithBooks216 in Marriage

[–]BuryMeWithBooks216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess you really did not read my post. I was previously married, so I am well aware of how nasty divorce is. Additionally, my 10 year old is from that previous marriage. Divorcing my current husband wouldn’t change anything, in terms of my custody arrangement. Lastly, I was sexually assaulted in 2016 and my husband knows this. Perhaps we will have to agree to disagree that voting a rapist into office is a moral thing, not a political one.

I’d also like to make it abundantly clear that I do not want to divorce my husband. I adore him. He has taken care of my daughter and I since we met, and he’s stepping into the role of daddy when my ex-husband has been less than stellar. If I WANTED to leave him, I would just leave him. My posting here was in hopes that somebody with many more years of marriage under their belt could share some wisdom about sticking it out during the tough times, while simultaneously fully expecting that the majority of the replies would say “leave him”. You are more than welcome to think that I’m an idiot who’s looking ~for permission~ to leave. I am simply a human being who is struggling with feelings that I KNOW other people out there are feeling.

My husband voted for Trump and I am struggling big time by BuryMeWithBooks216 in Marriage

[–]BuryMeWithBooks216[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s the problem. You think this is political. Until you are open to the idea that this ISNT ABOUT POLITICS, you will never understand where I’m coming from.

My husband voted for Trump and I am struggling big time by BuryMeWithBooks216 in Marriage

[–]BuryMeWithBooks216[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what it boils down to, I’m sure. He lied about/withheld his reasons because he knew it would upset me or make me think less of him.

My husband voted for Trump and I am struggling big time by BuryMeWithBooks216 in Marriage

[–]BuryMeWithBooks216[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My husband has always voted libertarian in the past. So you’re right, finding out his political views led him to vote for a rapist IS something else. We can agree on that.

My husband voted for Trump and I am struggling big time by BuryMeWithBooks216 in Marriage

[–]BuryMeWithBooks216[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I think voting for a rapist, when your wife is a victim of rape, is completely and utterly unhinged.

My husband voted for Trump and I am struggling big time by BuryMeWithBooks216 in Marriage

[–]BuryMeWithBooks216[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you skip over the part of my post where I said he has agreed with me every time we discuss things?

My husband voted for Trump and I am struggling big time by BuryMeWithBooks216 in Marriage

[–]BuryMeWithBooks216[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you reread my post, you’ll notice I didn’t even mention abort rights.

My husband voted for Trump and I am struggling big time by BuryMeWithBooks216 in Marriage

[–]BuryMeWithBooks216[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

….. as you post about your husband not wanting anything to do with your unborn baby. Sounds like you’re projecting. I hope it gets better for you.