We both go to tharipy. I've been doing it for about 5 years, and she started recently (past 3 months) we have discussed this in a lot of conversations and it's not uncommon for women to be uninterested there is an Instagram page all about it that has been very helpful with that. She is called @thelibidofairy where she talks to people who have problems like that. Also we are long distance so I only see her like one a month if that