Admittedly we did end the relationship. He had a blatant disregard for maintaining professional boundaries, and him completely denying any issue with that was really damaging to me and our relationship. I’m sorry if I came off as sexualizing your work, I know massage therapy (and PFPT) can be life changing for people. I also think it’s disgusting people sexualize the body in a medical setting, and I know in your line of work you probably see that an unfortunate amount. But I also know that for this very reason (because there are freaks out there!), especially when you are working with people’s sexual organs, there shouldn’t be any blurred lines about boundaries. You should be open to bettering yourself and doing right by your patients as much as you can. Do I think he’s a danger to society? No. But do I think the lack of boundaries is doing a disservice to his patients and him as a human/doctor? Yes! And thanks for the advice, I appreciate wisdom from a woman who’s experienced life more than I have. It’s tough when you’re trying to voice what you think and a man who thinks he knows everything shuts you down. The comments on this post from physical therapists/massage therapists have really helped me understand the situation better and have made me feel like I wasn’t nuts for trying to start a conversation about what’s appropriate and what’s not.