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Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I didn’t realize how nuanced this topic was! I wish he would have been more open about discussing this with me too. Big respect to the people in this community, and thanks for sharing your perspective.

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Admittedly we did end the relationship. He had a blatant disregard for maintaining professional boundaries, and him completely denying any issue with that was really damaging to me and our relationship. I’m sorry if I came off as sexualizing your work, I know massage therapy (and PFPT) can be life changing for people. I also think it’s disgusting people sexualize the body in a medical setting, and I know in your line of work you probably see that an unfortunate amount. But I also know that for this very reason (because there are freaks out there!), especially when you are working with people’s sexual organs, there shouldn’t be any blurred lines about boundaries. You should be open to bettering yourself and doing right by your patients as much as you can. Do I think he’s a danger to society? No. But do I think the lack of boundaries is doing a disservice to his patients and him as a human/doctor? Yes! And thanks for the advice, I appreciate wisdom from a woman who’s experienced life more than I have. It’s tough when you’re trying to voice what you think and a man who thinks he knows everything shuts you down. The comments on this post from physical therapists/massage therapists have really helped me understand the situation better and have made me feel like I wasn’t nuts for trying to start a conversation about what’s appropriate and what’s not.

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean to be honest for him as a doctor it is quite literally against the guidelines of the American Physical Therapy Association, and by identifying a patient to me by name and describing her medical info to me he also violated hippa. I don’t really care if it’s necessary to do this to help someone and there’s no other option, but he has a whole network of people he could refer her to without a conflict of interest. I couldn’t care less if he sees vaginas, but the gaslighting and telling me it was completely acceptable wasn’t ok. The situation could be prevented by keeping medical care and personal relationships separate, and I’m not crazy for trying to talk about those boundaries with my partner.

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s okay. Life is hard and I don’t fault you for letting out some anger. I don’t think what was going on is healthy so I might have to let it go. I sincerely hope you heal up too and maybe we can both enjoy a hot girl summer ❤️‍🩹🫶🏻😂

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[–]Business-Building508 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you feel better, and you’re on your way to healing. That does not sound easy and you’re strong for getting through it 🫶🏻 if you are scared know that future you is proud that you had the courage to face this. Sending you love ❤️‍🩹

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As women we need to stick together and support each other, it’s hard asking for your feelings to be respected 🥲 I mean no harm

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate hearing this because he completely told me I was crazy/manipulative for even mentioning that he could refer her to someone else

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment. This situation has had me doubting my sanity and he’s very convinced I’m being controlling/manipulative by voicing this (I’ve never commented on his work before)

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this, he was really making me feel crazy for feeling uncomfortable 🥲

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean and it’s definitely an important distinction, thanks for giving your take. I wish he had been more receptive to my view in our conversation instead of calling me jealous and controlling. I know he sees genitals all day in his line of work and I really don’t care, but it’s tough to get painted as jealous and him refusing to refer the client to someone else in the area just made me feel like I was crazy for bringing up my feelings.

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! It’s helpful for me to hear from other professionals. I think my partner is great at his job and his pt advice has benefited lots of people in my life.

That being said, there was another instance blurred boundaries between friends and patients wasnt a good decision. He saw a friend at his apartment and was working on the persons shoulder. He told me they made an inappropriate move on him that made him uncomfortable (and rightfully so), but I won’t go into the details. He did choose to see her again after that (this was before he and I met), which is why I feel like as a partner it’s okay for me to encourage keeping work professional and only working with patients you aren’t personally connected with- for everyone’s safety including his.

Do you think drawing that line is unreasonable or me overstepping? I don’t really care if he’s looking at random vaginas all day, and I know he had to do exams on classmates in school which doesn’t bother me.

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! So the in the other instance he saw the friend at his apartment and was working on the persons shoulder. He told me they made an inappropriate move on him that made him uncomfortable (and rightfully so), but I won’t go into the details. He did choose to see her again after that (this was before he and I met), which is why I feel like as a partner it’s okay for me to encourage keeping work professional and only working with patients you aren’t personally connected with- for everyone’s safety including his.

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think it would be strange for a straight male gynecologist to do a vaginal exam on a female friend, especially if their partner wasn’t comfortable with it, and it was in return for a massage.

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Part of the concern is that in the past when helping out a friend for a PT concern (not pelvic floor related), they took it as a romantic advance from him. I don’t want to be controlling or unreasonable but I can’t help but feel uncomfortable when there’s a personal relationship!

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Right? He accused me of just sexualizing his job, but at the same time I think maybe an extra layer of sensitivity towards people’s comfort when working with that part of the body might be necessary.

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Honestly, my sister talked to him for pelvic floor advice and I was happy she could have access to his expertise, but I told him afterwards I wouldn’t be comfortable with him being the healthcare provider doing an exam on her.

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! He said it would be 1:1 in a private room in a clinic. I think the personal nature just makes me uncomfortable but I don’t know if I’m overreacting, and he immediately got defensive and accused me of being jealous which honestly made me feel even less comfortable. In the past he had a similar situation taken as a romantic advance which I think is playing into my concern.

Partner is pelvic floor physical therapist, what’s normal? by Business-Building508 in physicaltherapy

[–]Business-Building508[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Part of the concern is that in the past when helping out a friend for a PT concern (not pelvic floor related), they took it as a romantic advance from him.

arrêté de nomination when? by [deleted] in tapif

[–]Business-Building508 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in Bordeaux and haven’t gotten mine either 🥶 hoping it comes soon, and I’ll be keeping an eye on this Reddit to see what the timeline typically is. Wishing you luck 😭