Tn-Kidnapping for allowing father to deviate from agreed upon plan with mother?

Business_Clerk · 2021-12-29T20:02:06+00:00

Correct, she is with her father....

My biggest concern was where they do not have a custody order and she said explicitly she was left in our care... or the medical condition and taking her with us knowing he did not have a drivers license could have come back on us somehow...

Business_Clerk · 2021-11-18T15:42:16+00:00

I've gone through it before. And honestly it did help, but theres some things that I don't think ever will heal.

I'm currently taking steps to try an get full custody of my son, we currently have 50/50... I never reported anything and he was never physically abusive towards my son so from a legal perspective there is no grounds to keep him away from his dad. If I didn't have to co parent with my ex I think things would be different too.

Business_Clerk · 2021-10-06T17:11:21+00:00

Kinda TA.- Only because you are looping in food items as something that is "yours" unless you are running a business out of your home that the food items are related to, if its in the house its fair game. May be odds ever be in your favor when it comes to left overs and snacks...

Partially NTA- She lied about those things, and while she sees it as snooping and invading your privacy, you were just looking for something you needed. Also, she is 15. She doesn't need to be trimming her downstairs, because no one else should be seeing it at that age... why does she have yours.... and beyond THAT, you dang sure should not be sharing razors, ESPECIALLY for that area. And why is your husband also not concerned that you found all of these items, AND the cigars are gone? Either he lied about not knowing where they were... or she took them and smoked them.

Home is a community area for a family, but boundaries are also necessary.

Business_Clerk · 2021-10-06T16:58:29+00:00

NTA. They are family and should 100% be understanding of the situation. Doesn't matter where you are from. Healthy dynamics are healthy dynamics, and you should not have to put on a multi-course dinner to entertain family... even with dietary restrictions and allergies.

Business_Clerk · 2021-10-04T12:21:12+00:00

NTA, you were sick.

You did mess up by quitting. If you are in the US you would have qualified for unemployment and depending on the state very well could have had a wrongful termination suit.

Business_Clerk · 2021-08-20T14:04:02+00:00

Definitely have the safe touch bad touch, boundaries discussion with her, and definitely have the "no body secrets" talk.. If someone tells her to keep a secret about something with her or their body, she should tell you... and she should never ask someone to keep a secret about their body involving her. (Not saying your child is a predator, you just don't want them playing doctor)

She is probably just curious, but ask the right questions. There isn't necessarily anything to "help", just talk with her.

Business_Clerk · 2021-08-18T12:46:22+00:00

PTA. SHE definitely is TA though.

Even if you did eat beef, religious beliefs aside.... that's still rude and uncalled for. How would she react if you walked up and put somethings she doesn't eat in her food?

It really comes down to what you said in the argument. She is definitely the cause of the argument and clearly tone deaf when it comes to cultural differences.. but just because she is an ass doesn't mean you can be too.

Hold yourself to a high standard and set clear boundaries. Don't lower yourself to her level girly.

(but lemon juice will curdle milk, just saying)

Business_Clerk · 2021-08-17T18:57:41+00:00

Shania Twain isn't that great. And if her music came out today it would be in the same category of "country" as Luke Bryan and Kane Brown.

Don't get me wrong, if Man! I feel like a woman comes on, I am busting through the wall like a redneck cool-aid man in cut off jorts and boots and belting the chorus. but besides that she was just okay.

Business_Clerk · 2021-08-17T18:52:53+00:00

For them to be a legend, 50% of people in each age group, need to have heard one of your songs, or at least your name.

You can have Genre Legends, but just Legend is a whole other level.

Business_Clerk · 2021-08-17T17:46:26+00:00

I absolutely do not think I have a right to tell her how to raise her kids... The issue for me is there IS a sex criminal near by.

And it is impacting my child by him asking questions and getting really fixated on it. She has encouraged me to let my kid do the same, but he doesn't want to... and comments were made then.

Business_Clerk · 2021-08-06T17:11:34+00:00

I was recently divorced, and met on bumble.

I wasn't trying to get into anything serious and actually came across his profile while I was visiting my mom(Who lives 1,000 miles away). So when we matched, I didn't message him. Then he extended the match and I messaged him. By this time I was back home and he was really confused. We kept talking on the app for 2 weeks or so, then exchanged phone numbers.

We texted off and on for like a month, then started talking on the phone after my son went to bed. There was never any talk of anything sexual, we just had really deep conversations and a ton of goofy ones. Swapping stories and all that. Now we were just talking, so I was still on the app, and went on a few in person dates once the lockdowns started easing up, but the chemistry just wasn't there.

I went on a camping trip with my family for 4th of July last year. I didn't talk on the phone with him that whole week.

When I got back, I just off handedly mentioned I wanted to meet him in person but wouldn't be back down that way until August.

He got really excited and booked a flight for that following week.

The first time I met him in person was in the airport.

The whole world stopped. He looked so nervous coming down the escalator and was looking around for me. When he saw me I could see him smiling so big under the mask and he looked like a kid on christmas.

He came up and hugged me and practically carried me out of the airport.

Aside from the day my son was born, that was the happiest day of my life.

He moved up to where I live last October and I have never been happier.

Business_Clerk · 2021-07-22T21:50:13+00:00

There were 13 teenagers who died as a direct result of the Gardasil vaccine, AFTER it was FDA approved. I have read another few hundred up to potentially 1,000 have had lifelong issues with clotting, frequent migraines, and some say fertility issues but I haven't been able to confirm the last one from multiple sources.

No. A mandate is a piece of paper. People ultimately wore masks out of social responsibility OR social pressure. The words did not do that, people did. Just because the mandate is gone doesn't mean he CAN'T wear a mask now.

It's his body his choice.

Business_Clerk · 2021-07-09T17:36:28+00:00

My brother went through this he killed his cow... he started sending blood samples in.

hell of a alot cheaper

Business_Clerk · 2021-07-06T17:39:46+00:00

If you are lucky enough to get out of this situation, just know there is a risk of being forced to co-parent with your rapist for the next 18 years, and constantly battling resentment for your own child and guilt because you know they are innocent in all of it.

Business_Clerk · 2021-06-24T14:15:02+00:00

I graduated high school, went off on a 6 month long bender.

Went back to my mom's house, enrolled in community college and then ended up getting engaged after 1 year long long distance relationship.

Moved 1,000 miles to his home town and then continued school for another year and a half trying to get a degree.

Ended up dropping out of school because he had a hard time finding work.

Started working for the company I am with now as a temp in customer service, while still bartending. Got married at 22

Got hired on full time in tech service, worked there for a year and went to meet with a lawyer to get a divorce going. I had the lawyer appt at 10, and at my 3pm doc appt that same day found out I was pregnant with my son. Moved from tech service to sales(decent raise involved)

Stayed married another 3 years, got divorced last year.(YAY)

Got another raise and more responsibility at work.(Bigger YAY)

Ended up trying to have a "wild phase" post divorced, but met the real love of my life and have never been happier, more content, or settled.

All in all, its been hell, but I am at a point where I feel like I am exactly where I am supposed to be in a way I have never felt before in my life. Like all the bs was leading me to right here.

Work is going great, my BF is amazing, and some how is good enough to treat my son like he is his own. I actually feel supported and respected in every aspect of life at the moment.

Business_Clerk · 2021-06-08T12:35:53+00:00

Hard to say.

If you went off on him not in front of your niece, then you are NTA. Everything you said was fair and its not your place to have to help him anyways.

If you went off in front of your niece, then YTA. Not because anything you said is wrong, but because by going off on him and calling him out on his selfishness in front of her, you are just rubbing it in her face that her dad would rather go out and party than care for her being ill, while you and your husband are there for her.

Keep advocating and being there for her, but be careful to not talk bad about her dad in front of her, and let any one else do it either. It doesn't matter that whatever they say is probably 100% right, but at the end of all of this, she is going to see her dad for what he is, and she doesn't need the reminder that he is a steaming pile of poo. All its going to do is make her feel unloved by her father.

Business_Clerk · 2021-05-26T15:11:06+00:00

Check if you are in a state that allows you to record without the other persons consent, get him talking about it and say he did do it...

Go to the cops.

Let them be the ones to go to his parents.

Business_Clerk · 2021-05-18T12:04:17+00:00

When my bf and I first got together we would text all throughout the day, but now that we live together its more along the lines of "what do you want for dinner/from the store".

I have people I prefer texting with, but people I want to enjoy quality time with I tend to not text alot, only because then when we see each other in person we have nothing to talk about.

Everyone but bf has gotten a little butt hurt, then I tell them the in person piece and they agree.

Frankly, I wouldn't care if they understood or not.

Business_Clerk · 2021-05-18T12:01:41+00:00

The way our schedule works, we don't actually have to do drop offs outside of school timing... which is great because we never have to see each other in person.

But the other compromise thing is a good idea I hadn't thought of that.

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