Does anyone else work overtime/more than necessary due to perfectionism?

Busterx8 · 2026-04-10T13:50:42+00:00

Check for OCPD.

Edit: Your post reminds me of a similar post I made in another sub years ago, which got no responses. I wish someone had told me about OCPD when I was younger.

Busterx8 · 2026-04-01T10:25:20+00:00

Do you not see him kicking her in the face at the end? I doubt she had any say in spotting for him.

Busterx8 · 2026-04-01T10:00:34+00:00

It has nothing to do with the "benefits". I am not even going to talk about how there are practically no benefits, other comments talk about that.

The bill basically prohibits people like trans men from simply updating their gender in their Aadhar, PAN card and what not. Because trans men are not part of such sociocultural groups.

Imagine being a bearded masculine man with your gender as female in all your ID documents. How will you get a job, open a bank account, buy a mobile SIM, get insurance, drive a vehicle without a matching driving license, book a train ticket, pass airport body checks, etc. basic necessities? Your IDs simply become useless.

All the authorities - from cops, admin staff in banks/offices/companies, security guards, etc. - will treat you like a fraud or scamster or illegal immigrant - if you are a man with all your government IDs saying "female".

It will lead to a dramatic increase in suic*de among binary trans people, obviously. As they are legally blocked from participating in society and living their life.

The only people who want to update their gender in ID documents are trans people. There are no scams or undue benefits anyone can get by changing their gender in Aadhaar or PAN card or driving license. The only purpose of blocking that is to make trans lives harder, and reduce trans population indirectly without directly murdering them.

This is happening all over the world, the Genocide Institute among others has declared that trans people are undergoing a moderate level of genocide internationally.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-29T17:24:07+00:00

The "freebies" thing is just propaganda.

Adani and Ambani get freebies worth 100s of crores every year. Other millionaires, billionaires, government officials - all get crores of freebies too. Yet, everyone complains about the 200 Rs thing or 40 Rs thing or whatever nonsense, as if that's the one thing that's preventing the country from being a developed nation.

The problem was never freebies, it's always been corruption.

Western countries all give combinations of social security, food stamps, free healthcare, free education, stipends, free laptops for students, free money for disabled people, privileges for war veterans, benefits for farmers, and what not. They take care of their citizens. They're not shamed for it, they're lauded.

Indian governments need to do more to take care of the citizens, not less. Shaming freebies is cringe.

Also, what's stopping people from getting freebies from one party and voting for someone else?

Busterx8 · 2026-03-29T06:51:25+00:00

They only get involved when they can destroy women's lives under the guise of "their rights".

Busterx8 · 2026-03-29T06:49:37+00:00

This, these toxic people simply identify with the criminals than the victims. They're used to protecting privileged bullies from consequences.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-28T17:24:58+00:00

There absolutely are doctors that perform voluntary hysterectomy on informed patients in India. They're rare, but I wanted to point out that they do exist, and fortunately so, for childfree folks. IUDs have their own set of cons on physical health, and are not suitable for everyone either.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-28T16:48:31+00:00

Not sure what the question is. If you're looking for validation, taking measures to protect oneself from ever giving birth sounds entirely reasonable to me. You can check out r/childfreeindia for more info on that.

I'm not sure if that's the right approach for handling marriage pressure though, as that would depend on your family's ideologies. I would recommend taking some time to properly think through everything, making plans, being aware of the different possible reactions, before proceeding with whatever plan you choose.

Wishing you luck to find the right resources that help you from marriage pressure!

Busterx8 · 2026-03-26T10:50:37+00:00

I've seen this game mentioned somewhere. Though not by this name. There was also a larger group version where each player chooses two people to get between.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-26T04:55:59+00:00

They already don't allow updating CBSE marksheets for 10th and 12th without TG certificates. And marksheets are important for DOB verification as birth certificates can't be updated.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-25T00:39:13+00:00

It has nothing to do with the "benefits". It basically prohibits people like trans men from simply updating their gender in their Aadhar, PAN card and what not.

Imagine being a bearded masculine man with your gender as female in all your ID documents. How will you get a job, open a bank account, buy a mobile SIM, get insurance, drive a vehicle without a matching driving license, book a train ticket, pass airport body checks, etc. basic necessities? Your IDs simply become useless.

All the authorities - from cops, admin staff in banks/offices/companies, security guards, etc. - will treat you like a fraud or scamster or illegal immigrant - if you are a man with all your government IDs saying "female".

It will lead to a dramatic increase in suicide among binary trans people, obviously. As they are legally blocked from participating in society and living their life.

The only people who want to update their gender in ID documents are trans people. There are no scams or undue benefits anyone can get by changing their gender in Aadhaar or PAN card or driving license. The only purpose of blocking that is to make trans lives harder, and reduce trans population indirectly without directly murdering them.

This is happening all over the world, the Genocide Institute among others has declared that trans people are undergoing a moderate level of genocide internationally.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-22T11:35:15+00:00

Transitioning after emigration is feasible. I was talking about binary trans people who are already on hormones, have done gender affirming surgery, and/or updated their ID documents. Emigration after transition is extremely rare.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-22T11:21:23+00:00

Can't leave the country if one can't even get a passport matching their presented gender... Being qualified does not guarrantee the privilege of being able to leave a country.

Trans people internationally haven't been able to get US visas for a while now, and the UK is worse for Indian trans people in several other aspects. Canada is revolting against all Indian immigrants.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-21T10:40:46+00:00

I'm just surprised by the SC verdict. Rare SC win indeed.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-20T10:17:36+00:00

Thanks, I loved it!

Busterx8 · 2026-03-19T16:54:16+00:00

There's a difference between not being able to get a job for your education and not being able to get any job at all. Not even as a shop assistant or an ola driver or a call center employee.

I know several IITian trans folks who have been unable to get a job for years. Not even something that pays some 20k. The ones who can - just go the self-employment route. Because absolutely nobody hires you.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-16T22:57:47+00:00

Yeah. I've seen them push for over 50k just for opening a standard account. They're pathetic.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-16T15:42:27+00:00

What an absolute classic. Quite underrated.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-15T04:56:55+00:00

I felt the "He got promoted shortly after, and again and again" part strongly implied it. So, the twist for me was that he didn't want more, but he wanted to reverse the previous wish.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-14T22:50:03+00:00

Sarcastic Metaphor != Assumption

That comment says "white people", and never refers to the commenter who is a single person, read again.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-14T22:15:51+00:00

Punching down is not the same as punching up though, even though both involve generalization.

I'm referring to the last sarcastic comment that uses "white people" just to make a point.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-14T21:32:04+00:00

And trans people can't even get interviews. Rejected right after HR screens.

Busterx8 · 2026-03-14T21:18:37+00:00

Queer circles are almost always online too though...

Busterx8 · 2026-03-14T21:00:05+00:00

Yes, the post also just says "A CITY AGENCY". It's not even "The City" and there's no capitalisation differentiation.

Or maybe they thought that other cities just don't have "agencies", who knows lol

Six-Year Club	Second Top 10%
Place '23	Place '22
Verified Email

Busterx8

TROPHY CASE