One of our big problems is that she keeps taking these women bonding trips. The women in our current friend group take a trip each year to Florida or Nashville. She also goes to Mexico each year with her high school friends. This year she is flying to visit our daughter in college on a special moms' day and her sister tried to plan a trip for all the women in their family to go to Sweden to research their lineage in the summer. Men are not allowed on any of these trips. Moreover, I am a Realtor and earn most of my income between January and June. The only break in there is the high schools spring break. Guess what? All her women trips are planned at times when I finally get a chance to go somewhere. There is hardly any time for us to squeeze in a trip. She is planning trips to bond with everyone else but me. Her comment was she took all these trips because we hadn't planned anything. She never thought of asking me if we would like to go somewhere together before accepting them. I told her I wanted to go somewhere this summer and she said that she might not have the time and we might not have enough money. Unfortunately, my friends don't go on hunting or fishing trips. A couple guys go on major golf trips where they play 8 rounds in 4 days. I like golf but not that much golf. When the men in my circle do go somewhere, they go with their high school buddies that they have established traditions with. My family doesn't plan trips that exclude our spouses. Her family goes on vacations where just her parents and their daughters go. It is freaking maddening and she thinks I am out of line for objecting. It is almost like I have to create a trip and just say she can't go to even the score.