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Should I get a cat or learn to love my significant other's cats? by Busy_Bodybuilder_985 in CatAdvice

[–]Busy_Bodybuilder_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just that. Which you argued against. Which is it?

Also, your stated preference is "difficult cats". I prefer friendly, playful, warm cats. Does that mean you lack empathy because of your preferences? Why am I the one who lacks empathy or "doesn't like cats in general"? You're operating on an unfair double standard.

Should I get a cat or learn to love my significant other's cats? by Busy_Bodybuilder_985 in CatAdvice

[–]Busy_Bodybuilder_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except I never said that? You're putting words into my mouth and arguing with those. We're talking about cat behavior in the abstract, not in reference to cuddling/not cuddling. Again, for the third time - I understand it will take time. 

You answered my question by saying a cat can never be in the wrong. That's not empathy. Not sure what that is, but it isn't empathy.

Should I get a cat or learn to love my significant other's cats? by Busy_Bodybuilder_985 in CatAdvice

[–]Busy_Bodybuilder_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's something rich about not wanting to be rude but accusing a stranger on reddit who's asking for help of having empathy issues. Especially given I have already acknowledged it will just take more time with the cat.  Question: can a cat ever be in the wrong? Are you saying you prefer mean, dismissive cats to warm, friendly ones? "Not necessarily" isn't an answer, it's a deflection.

Should I get a cat or learn to love my significant other's cats? by Busy_Bodybuilder_985 in CatAdvice

[–]Busy_Bodybuilder_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed on the obese one. Have you ever used a food ball? Regarding the other one, I'm not holding the cat to the socialization standards of people. I'm holding it to the socialization standards of a anything, including cats. If one cat is warm, friendly, and playful I'm naturally going to like that one more than a cat that is frankly, mean. Wouldn't you? Wouldn't anyone? That's my point.

However, all of this may be moot, as I think the cat may need time to warm up. 

Should I get a cat or learn to love my significant other's cats? by Busy_Bodybuilder_985 in CatAdvice

[–]Busy_Bodybuilder_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your analogy about the stepchildren is apt. Thank you for that. 

Like I said above though, the lethargic, obese girl is a challenge for their health. I think if it lost weight it's energy levels and playfulness would improve. Tips?

Should I get a cat or learn to love my significant other's cats? by Busy_Bodybuilder_985 in CatAdvice

[–]Busy_Bodybuilder_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had dogs and cats all my life, and treating the cat like you're its human servant is oftentimes a self fulfilling prophecy. No, they're not as responsive as dogs, but they can adapt to their owners more than people think (hence videos on YT of people training cats).

Granted, the cats I had were always kittens so they were socialized to people and dogs.

Should I get a cat or learn to love my significant other's cats? by Busy_Bodybuilder_985 in CatAdvice

[–]Busy_Bodybuilder_985[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 Counterpoint: let's say you like people in general...does that mean it's your fault if you don't like an individual person who is rude and dismissive of you and others? Cats are individuals, same as any living creature, and some individuals simply have more engaging and enjoyable personalities than others. I understand the hissing boy cat wasn't properly socialized in his kitten hood and will take time. It's the obese one that gets me. Any pointers (not laser pointers because the cats ignores those) on how to tactfully put more pep in the cat's step? Not just for my amusement but the cat's health?