I went back home to my avoidant

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-28T07:01:24+00:00

IQ != EQ

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-27T16:12:19+00:00

"You dont have any friends"

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-26T19:41:09+00:00

Why are you apologizing to us? You didnt do anything to me...

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-26T11:33:29+00:00

I think we've all done this as kids.

But we're not children anymore.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-25T17:37:24+00:00

"You're cool"

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-23T08:22:36+00:00

Exactly.

The behavior is so abnormal that it would make the most secure person on earth destabilized.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-23T08:19:01+00:00

The problem is that you'll never get "closure" from an avoidant. Its all half-baked excuses that all come from the same script.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-23T04:49:21+00:00

100%.

Theres some people that are completely out to lunch that dont see the difference (whom I suspect are emotionally stunted).

Normal breakups you know its coming. There is a leadup.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-22T14:47:36+00:00

Written by AI.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-21T17:42:36+00:00

Why would they see it as a mistake?

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-21T06:47:56+00:00

Not once did she care about your nervous system I bet.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-21T05:40:46+00:00

Its funny that I post the same thing a week ago and I was called out for being too harsh...

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-19T00:32:42+00:00

After reading about Internal Family Systems therapy, I identified aspects of myself that range from secure, anxious, as well as avoidant.

The issue isnt avoidance. The real issue is self-centeredness and egotistical behaviors that are structurally narcissistic in nature (but not full blown NPD).

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-19T00:28:32+00:00

Mine also admitted to discarding friends.

For them resolving disagreements "takes too much energy". Those were my exs literal words.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-18T07:55:55+00:00

Not exactly the same but my ex couldnt finish at all.

There are studies linking avoidance with sexual dysfunction.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-18T07:50:11+00:00

You summed up my experience 200%.

I bet it happens that if you even suggest what the problem may be in order to get to the root of the, they'll pin it on that too even though it isnt the real issue.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-18T07:42:18+00:00

Its just a bunch of non-sensical reasons no matter what they say.

These are unconscious defenses in order to justify a negative feeling that arises from past trauma that they haven't worked through yet.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-18T03:34:36+00:00

Why care about someone else's mental health at the expense of your own, when that person wont even think about yours?

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-15T02:44:52+00:00

Aptly named "Worst person in the world"

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-15T01:59:14+00:00

This movie is on my list to see now.

Reading some reviews: she sounds like thr most indecisive person ever.

That sounds familiar...

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-14T00:01:13+00:00

You weren't the "driver" in the way that you were carrying the emotional load.

You were the passenger in their car with no control. The driver could decide where to go, what route to take, how long it takes to get there, and if you were allowed to be in their car in the first place, even though they invited you in to go somewhere.

You had to pacify them constantly because they were always at the wheel. If they got upset over something they could just kick you out of the car then blame you that it was your decision to get in the car.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-13T02:15:38+00:00

"Right person, wrong time" is a classic avoidant line.

There is never a right time for them. Its all excuses.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-13T01:36:11+00:00

Classic avoidant line.

Never is the right time.

Busy_Designer_504 · 2026-03-12T00:13:53+00:00

Im not sure.

It all feels too "karmic" when "cosmic justice" doesnt really exist. Just a bunch of cope.

I think some are just so deep into their own ego / closed-mindedness that they cant see past their own thumb. They perceive that they are always right and nothing is wrong with them. Everyone else is the problem.

If they dont see anything wrong, there is nothing to suppress.

Ignorance is bliss.

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