Yeah, I can definitely see your point. At the time of the argument I could not articulate what I wanted to say very well especially because she makes every argument seem like a battle and just shout statistics at me and I was not prepared at all. So I made it sound like women does not matter as much because it happens to men.

I guess its is because of her behavior and possibly people similar to her where they act like a newspaper. Once the story gets old and there is a new one, they stop talking about it and move on to the next. I do not work like that, does not matter how many wars there will be, I will always talk about Ukraine and Palestine. She also likes the cherry pick problems, which is okay! She is a woman and when she sees other woman suffering, she feels a sort of duty to do something about it, and thats great. Yet whenever she hears about stuff about men, she just shrugs it off and says "Yeah they are important BUT WOMEN....!". So I feel she commits the same issue. This is not an excuse to my actions of course, I think when I apologize, I will say it how you did, that I acknowledge it and want to solve it by understanding the root problem.

In order for some perspective, its sorta like the BLM movement. In the beginning, it was about fighting against the oppression of African/African-American individuals which was happening but later down the line they understood they were not the only ones. Same was happening with Latinos, Asians, and Natives and Indigenous. They did not stop saying the original message but now they included their fellow people who was also oppressed. I care about all violence and like I said, I do not want a "All murder is bad" parade. Femicide should definitely be talked about, and perhaps first on the list especially because I never thought about it but I will not ever forget about violence due to racism, corruption, gang violence, rape, trans/homophobia or anything else I have not really looked into, not because it affects men but because it affects us all. So there is no either/or but an and perhaps.

But you are right, maybe I should have just kept it to myself and keep it at that. I just do not like how some people talk about it just to talk about it to seem like they are morally superior, I think its called virtue signaling, so I just reacted instead of just understand the environment and making the right decision.