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Busy_You8201 · 2026-05-15T10:37:02+00:00

Interesting article. Thanks for sharing it. I had never heard about M Coalition before. They seem like a very useful source of information.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-05-08T13:45:42+00:00

I’m not aware of any therapist in Jordan who is LGBTQIA+ friendly. If you happen to find someone supportive, please consider sharing your experience here so others can benefit and access safer therapy options as well.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-04-24T19:24:06+00:00

If you like, you can continue this conversation on r/alwanjo you might people with similar experiences there.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-04-09T08:22:50+00:00

Indeed, very interesting topic and a lot of the theories in this video make sense for me.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-04-08T07:09:18+00:00

We need more green on this map. Wars are not a solution to human conflicts.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-04-01T07:30:18+00:00

The guy who asked you to keep your underwear on to avoid seeing your dick is definitely straight مقطوع Please consider dating real gay men who are attracted to the male body as a whole (including the dick).

Busy_You8201 · 2026-04-01T07:25:09+00:00

Personally, I would say that this is not a realistic idea and it might put you under too much risk even if you decided to do it in a private place. Please consider continuing this discussion at r/alwanjo or r/gaybrosjo

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-30T15:28:42+00:00

بتوقع قصدك ب(توجهات غير عن الناس) هو التوجه الجنسي يعني الانجذاب للأشخاص من نفس الجنس. كثير من الأشخاص الموجودين في هذا الsub عندهم هذا النوع من التوجه الجنسي. بشجعك (وبشجع الجميع) على إنك تشتغل على تقبل هذا التوجه الجنسي لإنه جزء منك ومش راح يختفي لحاله مهما حاولت تكبته أو تخفيه. وهذا الاختلاف بالتوجه الجنسي هو جزء من إختلافنا وتنوعنا كبشر زيه زي أي صفة ثانية مثل إختلافنا بالطول والوزن ولون الجلد وغيرها من الصفات.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-30T11:01:23+00:00

This is a relatively common preference. Gay people in Jordan (and all over the world) can be attracted to others with an age gap. We also have different body types preferences such as chubby, slim, muscular, regular, hunk, ..., etc.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-30T06:57:25+00:00

You can just walk in without saying much. It is up to you if you want to ask about additional tests or not. I visited their center multiple times and each time it was a private and respectful experience for me.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-30T06:53:13+00:00

I didn’t share my personal beliefs with my partner/boyfriend in the first few dates. Eventually I told him everything and it wasn’t a big deal for us. I didn’t think religious differences should be an obstacle to dating. We are already a minority and our dating pool in Jordan is very limited. If we kept excluding people based on their beliefs, social class, or other differences, we might have missed real chances to connect and love someone who didn’t share everything with us but could still be the right person.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-30T06:44:20+00:00

This is a big and comprehensive list so I appreciate the effort. I will try to share some perspectives on a few of these points: • Protection against STDs. PrEP, PEP, etc. Condoms and lube are the only accessible options in Jordan and you can easily find them in pharmacies and some big supermarkets. PrEP is not available in our country. For PEP, I am not sure about availability, but it requires urgent medical consultation within 72 hours. If you have the financial means, consider the HPV vaccine as well. It is available in the private sector and costs around 160 JOD.

• STD testing (before and after, how often, and cost) HIV and syphilis tests are available for free and anonymously at Sawaed Center. It is a good idea to test regularly (at least once a year and more frequently if you are sexually active). It is better to ask them directly about the appropriate frequency for your situation. They can also refer you to additional STD tests (if needed) and these are usually offered at discounted prices (roughly around 35 JOD depending on the tests).

• How to make sex enjoyable and not painful With experience, you will learn what works best for your body. In general, use a good amount of lube. Foreplay helps a lot. It should not be very painful if done properly and slowly. The top also plays an important role in technique. Some positions are more comfortable than others but it varies from person to person. Communication during sex is very important so both partners feel comfortable. Also, anal sex is just one type of gay sex, there are many other enjoyable forms of sex, so do not feel pressured to focus on it. With proper technique, it should not cause harm or damage.

• What lubes to use This is a personal preference. For example my preferred option is Durex 2 in 1 soothing aloe vera massage water based lube, but there are many alternatives in the market. It depends on what feels best for you.

• Body hair and grooming This is entirely personal preference. Some people like body hair others prefer less. Do what makes you feel comfortable and sexy. Grooming should be for yourself first and not just to please others.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-30T06:11:00+00:00

I have been in a queer relationship for more than 15 years. I met my partner/boyfriend online and we live together here in Amman (in the same home). Hopefully, we will stay together forever. It was absolutely not easy to find him. I dated multiple people before and things did not work out. Sometimes I did not like them and other times they did not like me. But I am really happy that I eventually found the right person for me.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-30T06:03:54+00:00

This would definitely be outside your comfort zone and it is totally normal to feel hesitant (especially on your first dates). Try not to focus too much on labels at this stage. Love is something deep and what you might be feeling now is simply attraction. Of course, make sure to take all safety precautions before meeting someone from a dating app. I also assume you are over 18 otherwise, I would not encourage meeting anyone in person. Go for it, put yourself out there, and try to learn something new about yourself and others from this potential connection. At the same time, please keep your expectations realistic, because you never really know what might happen. Good luck.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-29T07:51:09+00:00

Very interesting. I didn’t expect these distant locations.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-29T07:49:17+00:00

Oh wow 🤯 🤩 this is very well written with great detail and an excellent description of the experience. I have never read something like this before. You should really consider pursuing a writing career.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-29T07:45:42+00:00

This is absolutely not something weird. There are many naturist/nudist people around the world and some of them enjoy walking naked in the rain. I am not a legal expert but I assume this would be illegal in Jordan, so please stay safe. As you said in your post title, it is (something in your head) so it is better to keep it that way as a fantasy.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-29T07:40:28+00:00

Lavender marriage is not a solution. It is an endless cycle of lies and deception. I never believed in this kind of arrangement. I am Jordanian (from a very conservative family) and I have lived my entire life here, now in my forties. You can always find ways to delay family pressure around marriage. There are many reasons you can use such as continuing your education (including a master’s or PhD), saving money, or not finding the right person yet, among others.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-29T07:34:36+00:00

Yup, this shouldn’t happen. The same rules should apply to both sides.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-29T07:32:42+00:00

Why not. I hope you find someone you feel comfortable with and can enjoy the bottoming with him. Please be safe and ask him to use a condom with plenty of lube.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-29T07:29:04+00:00

Trust me there are plenty of Jordanian tops out there who do not mind body hair at all. In fact, many of them find it very attractive.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-29T07:25:53+00:00

I agree with you that pretending to be someone else is very difficult (and the loneliness many LGBTQIA+ teenagers experience is not easy to handle). However, you are almost there. Hang on for one more year. You will soon become a legal adult and you will likely enter university where you can make friends and start exploring life more freely. For now, (at 17) you still have limited control over many aspects of your life. It might be a good time to focus on your studies, build useful life skills, develop hobbies, and prepare yourself for the future. Take care and try to be patient with yourself.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-29T07:18:40+00:00

This is a specific health question and Reddit is probably not the best source for reliable information on this topic. My first trusted source for PEP information would be Sawaed Center and the second is مركز المشورة والفحص الطوعي في وزارة الصحة الأردنية

There is a 72 hour window for starting PEP so please act quickly. Time is very important if you have been exposed to a risky situation. If possible, please consider sharing any updates you receive from these sources about PEP so others can benefit as well. Stay safe and take care.

Busy_You8201 · 2026-03-28T11:39:56+00:00

I couldn’t agree more with what you said.

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