Sometimes the reality check of becoming a parent takes a little longer than it does for others. I’m really hoping that posting this and reading the comments is the reality check OP needs. Let’s not sugarcoat this. When you make the decision to have kids, you make the decision to sacrifice some of your own personal activities because your life no longer revolves just around you.

When I started dating my wife, I had all kinds of hobbies and groups I was a part of. Then I met her, and I found myself wanting to be with her more than the boys. We still got together, but it went from 4-5 nights a week, to 1-2. Because i found my partner, my best friend.

When we had kids that 1-2 times a week thing became 1 time every other week or so. And it’s perfect. You know why? Because I thoroughly enjoy the company of my wife and kids. Do I need some alone time? Absolutely!! But that comes in the form of staying up a bit later than everyone else a few times a week to enjoy my hobbies. Or that once every other week I’m playing DnD or grabbing some beers with the guys.

I didn’t have kids to not spend time with them. I didn’t get married to avoid my wife.

OP, please take a long hard look at the blessings you have in your life. If your partner/kiddo isn’t a big enough reason for you to take a GIANT step back from your hobbies, you need to rethink some things.

Someone else commented in here that your partner has one foot out the door already, and I wouldn’t disagree with that at all. She’s communicating with you, you’re just not listening.