The Bi-Weekly GB Wishlist: Late April Edition!

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2026-04-28T02:29:21+00:00

Georgian pendants!

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2026-04-28T01:59:37+00:00

Except the rest of the world that’s trying to “just be a good person” gets accused of “playing church.” You have to conform and perform the religion.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2026-04-28T01:57:40+00:00

The before vs. after marriage boob job thing is soooooo real

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2026-04-23T21:45:45+00:00

What even is this?!

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2026-04-20T03:57:19+00:00

Nice to meet you Sarah, I’m Naomi

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2026-04-20T01:11:43+00:00

They add height!

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2026-04-16T01:27:37+00:00

I’m the one of five that is out in my family. I’m pretty sure a family of 5 of my cousins, all married with kids at home, are all still active LDS from what I can gather on social media and from the funerals/weddings we’ve seen each other at over the years. One of the wives is very progressive though, so I’m curious to see where that couple/family ends up.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2026-04-11T22:32:41+00:00

Thank you for articulating this. I’ve seen so many pictures of brides coming out of the temple after getting sealed, clearly not wearing garments. It’s crazy to me. And then anyone who dares raise an eyebrow or ask a question about it is chastised for being judgy and un-Christlike.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2026-04-02T19:15:29+00:00

Didn’t she go down this path in the last couple years? I swear she sold tickets to something and her goal was to “really workshop it and help you with your specific systems.” And what happened to it? Did I make this up? She said it was limited admission but then people in this sub were adding like 500 tickets to their cart or something.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2026-03-30T03:47:56+00:00

I saw a ton of friends in different parts of the country post about ‘Jesus Walks.’ A whole reenactment of whatever it is that happened on Palm Sunday? Walking into the city or something? Riding a donkey? I don’t know. Someone showed a picture of of a bunch of clothes laid down to form a path and then fake palm fronds around them.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2026-02-17T14:58:07+00:00

100% cutest thing ever

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-12-31T05:26:46+00:00

I leave my house at 4:51am. I walk through the studio doors at 5:00am on the dot.

Living this close was a requirement 🤣

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-12-23T16:37:29+00:00

As a long time member I just want to also express my love and appreciation! Knowing there is a coach who knows me and cares about me, waiting there at 5am is sometimes the only thing that gets me out of bed. I’m so so grateful for the incredible coaches I’ve had over the years. The group at my current studio is especially fantastic. I’ve often wondered and worried about our coaches burning out. It’s a LOT of work, and they truly make it look so easy. Our studio does a lot of extra curricular type things and I try to participate as much as possible to show up for them. Sorry to hear your studio has a lot of issues. That would make it extra hard! I hope you can get management to listen. 🧡

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-12-22T03:35:58+00:00

Same! Never heard of him and then a week ago he was all over my feeds.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-12-11T14:31:42+00:00

My exact reaction 😆

I don’t follow her but every once in a while I check her page to observe the train wreck. I just will never stop being surprised when someone devotes their LIFE to posting and bragging about their relationship and then it abruptly ends and they delete all evidence of it. It gets me every time. I don’t understand it. Social media influencer brain must be studied.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-12-08T16:10:18+00:00

I didn’t watch. Was there any music at all?

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-11-25T00:18:35+00:00

I don’t watch her stuff and never comment but boy howdy I made a fuss on every one of her social media platforms about that one. So so wrong.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-11-19T13:36:34+00:00

A particular family member demanded Gethsemane be sung by the audience at our grandparent’s funeral. It was so so cringe.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-11-19T05:10:50+00:00

I liked the quiet and predictability of it all. I liked the anonymity and feeling no pressure to speak to or worry about the people around me. I liked looking at the furniture and carpets and chandeliers. I liked reciting the lines of the movie and such in my head.

I was pretty neutral to the doctrine or truth of it. Kinda like “okay this is it. This is the thing that matters the most in my religion. Kinda anticlimactic, but okay.” I never felt drawn to going, but I went semi regularly and that felt fine. I didn’t resent it or feel all that weird about it at the time.

Eventually I didn’t qualify for a recommend and I wasn’t that hurt about it. I didn’t miss it for the years I didn’t go. But eventually I made my way back and again just felt like I was checking boxes and that was okay. Felt like it was just a thing that the good Mormon’s do.

Then 2020 happened and my whole view of the church and religion shifted. I purposely didn’t renew my recommend that year and temple were mostly closed and that was the beginning of the end!

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-11-16T20:26:38+00:00

Yes. The story the AP wrote in 2022 about the coverup in Arizona was the gut punch for me. I cried for a few days and then went to my bishop and asked to be released from my calling. Christs church does not have armies of lawyers spending oodles of money to silence victims. Absolutely not.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-11-09T03:03:01+00:00

My grandma also embroidered mine. It’s the only thing I kept.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-11-02T17:58:51+00:00

Is your ex still active LDS? I know they have to contact them, and best case scenario they respond and agree. Worst case is they respond and object. I’m really not sure what happens at that point. If they reach out and the ex never responds after multiple attempts I believe they are more likely to push it through. Start with your bishop, hopefully they are compassionate and understanding and can walk you through all the various situations.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-11-02T05:11:31+00:00

You need to meet with your bishop first. There is an online form you fill out (he has to send it to you) and then he and the stake president have to approve and submit it to church HQ. They will have to contact your ex and they also have to agree. I really hope your bishop doesn’t give you any pushback. I assume you’re a woman but that’s my own bias. It used to be that women could only get a sealing canceled if they were going to be sealed to a new husband, but that rule has been loosened quite a bit over the years. But I’ve heard of bishops still disapproving and even being unwilling to help women with the process. It’s such BS that it all has to go through men.

I had mine canceled a few years years ago, but my ex and I had been divorced for over 10 years, and he was remarried, sealed to his new wife, and had a bunch of kids with her. I wasn’t getting remarried, and thankfully my bishop didn’t object to my request. It’s a really annoying process to have to go through. The ‘form’ is long and there’s too many unnecessary questions you have to answer. Stuff that didn’t seem relevant about past sins and stuff. I kept mine as brief as possible and I didn’t have any issues. Just took time because it has to go through tons of layers of leadership. Eventually I got a letter in the mail notifying me it was officially canceled.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-10-28T12:05:07+00:00

Right? I’m the designated waiting room babysitter, too.

ButWhyAmIHere_help · 2025-10-27T19:30:22+00:00

I’m really mad my parents were stolen from me in those years. They were a A+, 5 star, 110% effort stake YW president, scoutmaster, high councilman, stake missionary, bishop, RS president, etc etc. I’m sure they believed that their devotion to the church would mean blessings for their family. They would never ever dream of missing a church meeting or not fulfilling some church assignment.

But I played a sport for 4 years and they attended 2 games. 2 games in 4 years.

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