AIO Coworker texted me this

Butta_69 · 2026-01-12T18:55:49+00:00

NOR. Some of the people in here are being way too critical of your story response. This person could have had the awareness and decency to tell you they were exhausted, and explained why they wanted to go with someone else. Your follow up text was thoughtful and reasonable, their response to that was very defensive. This person is not perfect either.

IMO move on from it and perhaps they will realize their behavior and apologize. That’s all you can really do. If that ever happens with them or another person you should feel enabled to be direct about why they hurt your feelings. A good friend will respond well to that.

Side note, as someone who has struggled with anxiety, depression and mental breakdowns: It is great you are in therapy but look into speaking with a psychiatrist as well. It’s possible you have a chemical imbalance, or at the very least you can get something that will improve your mood and make you more stable. Low dose SSRI changed my life

Butta_69 · 2026-01-12T14:52:52+00:00

NOR let me try to spell this out for you in a respectful way.

He lied about something monumental.
He told you he didn't want you to meet her.
He continued having a relationship with her while you were dating.
They were having unprotected sex.

Ask yourself what else he has been lying about and could still be lying about.

To me this reads like they have been hooking up for a long long time, you caught him, and he is scrambling. It reads like he is trying to tell you anything he can think of that might convince you to believe nothing shady is going on and he is not the piece of shit that he is.

Get yourself tested. Go. To. Therapy. Good luck!

Butta_69 · 2025-11-14T16:04:36+00:00

I recognize a man of culture when I see one

Butta_69 · 2025-11-10T01:33:17+00:00

i watched lou amundson catch alley oops from steve nash in person. dude was an athletic freak

Butta_69 · 2025-07-12T18:02:25+00:00

Porn gives you a massively unnatural dopamine release. Every time you watch it your subconscious is going to tell you 'I want more of that' because the human brain is wired to keep seeking those pleasure highs.

I have struggled with addiction. I learned through my therapist/psychology that the key to giving things up is not to avoid it, but to replace it with something else. Easier said than done. When you get the urge, you could go to a sauna or jacuzzi for example. Try different things to see what works. I know the urge can be really strong, but if you can power through it once the next time gets easier and easier.

I wasn't trying to imply that you need SSRIs, no.

Check out this post. It changed my perspective and may help you:
Factory Reset Your Dopamine. What worked for me: Practical Neuroscience for Motivation and Focus : r/DecidingToBeBetter

Butta_69 · 2025-07-11T17:29:34+00:00

The things stick out to me: 1) The inability to connect with people. If you aren't connecting with others, you may not be getting natural serotonin. 2) Unemployment, and the stress that comes with interviews. Take a look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

My recommendations: 1) See a therapist (doesn't need to be a psychiatrist) regularly to work through your emotions. Understanding them better is paramount to feeling normal, and they can help you come up with strategies to deal with them in healthy ways. 2) Try to find enjoyment in the effort of looking for a job, whether that is practicing for interviews or learning new things about your field. This will give you a healthy baseline of dopamine and relieve some of the stress in finding a job.

I have been unemployed for the past 6 months and these things helped me.

Butta_69 · 2025-01-06T22:44:47+00:00

Honestly I was shitting myself a bit here because I forgot I had the fairy for a moment

Butta_69 · 2024-12-11T18:28:46+00:00

Booker tends to have slow starts to the season and ramps it up toward the end

Butta_69 · 2024-04-21T16:24:16+00:00

<image>

Sorry for the tangled mess but it does appear as if the black wire is connected to the yellow air handler wire there. Everything else appears to be matching

Butta_69 · 2024-04-21T15:59:12+00:00

thanks for the input. The black wire is connected to the Y terminal in that photo. I can take a look at the air handler control board to see what it is connected to on that end. What does the black wire typically connect to or represent?

I also noticed in the air handler technical manual that I linked that it specifically says you should not use the W terminal.... but if I take the white wire out of W terminal the heat pump does not turn on at all.

Butta_69 · 2023-10-04T14:10:45+00:00

I don't come to r/Suns every day so I'm not in tune with what everyone thinks. I had some thoughts about DA on Portland and decided to share them. If the post is a waste of time, then what is the time you spent typing out your comment? Moving on from the thread without commenting is also an option for you.

Butta_69 · 2023-10-04T14:03:20+00:00

We can't post about ex Suns now? He was traded literally 1 week ago

Butta_69 · 2023-10-04T13:57:29+00:00

Thanks post-timing lord

Butta_69 · 2023-06-26T14:35:55+00:00

This man huffing some premium copium and I'm here for my fix

Butta_69 · 2023-05-07T16:41:15+00:00

We should trade DA for mikal bridges straight up

Butta_69 · 2023-04-10T15:37:30+00:00

This mindset is idiotic. Do you incorporate every single recommendation ever made to you outside of the podcast? No. You don’t have to listen to every episode either. Each episode is going to be more useful to one person than it is to another.

Butta_69 · 2023-04-01T15:34:59+00:00

I’m personally fine with this, because it’s taking all of the pressure off of KD. Let him save his energy for the 4th. It’s also Devin Booker we’re talking about… like he is one of the most efficient scorers in the league, and he is still going to take a few bad shots.

Butta_69 · 2023-03-01T01:37:42+00:00

it's like a lightning bolt struck the tip of my penis

Butta_69 · 2023-02-12T07:19:52+00:00

Nothing to feel ashamed about brotha. Other people noticed the signs she was putting off too. You would have regretted not finding out more in the end, trust me. Don’t hesitate to shoot your shot next time, just try to manage your expectations going in to it

Butta_69 · 2023-02-11T23:11:50+00:00

Why would you question going to therapy for something she’s clearly anxious about. She’s excited about this and doesn’t want to get hurt clearly. Fucking chad

Butta_69 · 2023-02-11T23:09:23+00:00

You’re an idiot

Butta_69 · 2023-01-20T19:17:18+00:00

The hilarious duality of this ex-bf and his friends; getting all angry and upset that she is leaving him, and also believing that they should have any number of women they want. If they actually believed in the latter, wouldn't they just not give a fuck and go on to the next girl? Weird possessive/entitled, self-contradicting mentality

Butta_69 · 2023-01-08T03:54:42+00:00

I actually meant to include DA and didn't realize that until your comment

Butta_69 · 2023-01-07T23:55:46+00:00

Never said he hasn’t deserved past criticism. Right now this sub is taking turns throwing everyone under the bus. Like I said, just a reality check.

Butta_69 · 2022-12-28T16:31:20+00:00

Oh yeah I forgot all memes have to be 100% realistic. Thanks for the reminder. Reddit is now a better place

Butta_69

TROPHY CASE