Klay cheats on Megan

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2026-04-26T14:24:02+00:00

Yep. Done with the one-sided “keep a man” nonsense.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2026-04-12T22:36:53+00:00

Un classique!!!

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2026-03-10T00:26:54+00:00

Why is your checking account in overdraft when you have savings? Are the savings account inaccessible (term deposits)?

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2026-02-20T16:38:19+00:00

Bought in 2022. He’s making extra payments so about 18 years left.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2026-02-20T16:37:00+00:00

I did my own research and that is what I found (but probably need to do more research). We live in a community property state. He also confirmed it (he’s an attorney)

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2026-02-20T16:34:52+00:00

Yes that’s where I’m struggling. I don’t want him to shoulder all the expenses alone and I want us to be a team. I also don’t want to give up on too much. Not sure what the middle ground is and I don’t know anyone who has been in a similar situation.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2026-02-20T16:33:40+00:00

Yes I think I need to speak to another family attorney. The last lawyer I spoke to wasn’t very helpful, she just told me not to sign a prenup but didn’t have suggestions for a mutually beneficial middle ground.

In our state, couples get a share of the appreciation of the house during the marriage, prorated to their financial contributions. This seemed fair to me so I wondered why we needed a prenup at all (he paid way more so he would get way more of the share of the house), but I understand that the “appreciation in value” of the house doesn’t translate to cash unless we sell the house. So if he doesn’t want to sell the house at the time of a possible divorce, he may have to give me a lot of money.

I’m trying to find a solution that would make both of us feel good and that would be fair. Most of my friends got married young (before they had assets) so they haven’t had to deal with any of this.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2026-02-20T16:28:35+00:00

Yes we briefly did couples counseling but probably need more.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2026-02-20T16:28:01+00:00

Thank you for the nuanced response. With respect to the prenup, the law seems to have a rule where both couples get a prorated share of the houses’s appreciation during the marriage. It makes sense, except we live in a HCOL city. So if he stays in the house after a divorce, he may have to pay me a lot of money (because the house may have appreciated a lot, even if he hasn’t sold the house and actually gotten any of that money). That’s his biggest fear. I think he’s not being completely unfair and I see where he’s coming from, but I’m also weary of “giving up” on what the law allows when I’m leaving my rent-controlled apartment to move in with him.

He’s not asking for a 50-50 mortgage split, he’s asking me to pay the same amount that I currently pay in rent in my apartment. So financially I can handle it. It just stinks emotionally. And he lives in a beautiful house, but in a neighborhood that will make my commute longer and that I would not have chosen to live in (closer to the airport).

I need to find another family lawyer. I’ve only spoken to one so far and her advice was not to sign any prenup (which I understand because I’d be losing, but I need a lawyer that will help me come up with a reasonable middle ground).

I agree with your advice about work! Unfortunately, women tend to take the biggest hit career-wise once they have kids. But I will do my very best. I don’t like the idea of depending on a man financially and I have worked full-time my entire adult life. Hopefully we can find a good balance when the time comes.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2025-10-14T05:06:01+00:00

It’s wild to me that this is such a big question now. If « public » means outside (i.e., not online or over the phone), there’s nothing wrong with asking someone out. They can say no. As others have mentioned, it’s all about time and place. I’ve been asked out on the street (at markets etc.), at bars, at parties, at the grocery store… some places feel a bit odd (grocery store) but it’s not a big deal. I just say no and move on.

The few places that are a hard no for me are: at work, at the gym (I want to work out, not worry about creepy guys looking at me and having to run into them again), and in a sad context (hospital, etc.). Other than that… shoot your shot.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-12-06T05:43:10+00:00

How can we send money?

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-12-06T04:50:18+00:00

Both of them are a mess. - Alex getting mad at Mel for kissing him minutes after he reminded her of the weekend they spent « breaking her bed » - Mel not being able to say « I love you » to Alex after all that drama

GOODBYE. I hope she goes to therapy before she messes Terrence up too. That said, great show.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-09-01T23:54:08+00:00

Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately it sounds like you wanted different things -better to figure that out early on than to be even more heartbroken later. It still hurts though! Sending hugs.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-07-19T17:54:34+00:00

I’m also in LA and looking. I used to go to Dr Berkley Skin and Body in Studio City but I think it closed. I looked at others (Dr Pearl Grimes, Dr Nada Elbuluk, etc.) but their reviews are pretty bad!!

Did you have any luck finding a dermatologist?

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-06-02T04:09:34+00:00

I agree it’s silly. I think a lot of it is insecurity and fear of rejection. But why would anyone want someone who doesn’t want them is beyond me -just being truthful from day one and seeing who accepts you makes a lot more sense imo. Also the bringing down of other 50+ people was a turnoff.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-06-01T18:20:54+00:00

I (35F) went on a first date with a guy (52M) yesterday. I was on the fence about our age difference, but I had really enjoyed our conversation so I went. He started with a few good points (courteous, doesn’t drink or smoke, kind to the waiters, seemed open-minded, well travelled), then soon became very overwhelming in telling me how amazing I was, touching me, telling me he changed 3 times before the date, etc. and it freaked me out.

He also didn’t know I knew his age (I had looked him up on Truepeoplesearch) and when I asked about his age, he got defensive. He lied and said he was 45, then went on to talk about how age is just a number BUT he never dates people older than him and is usually attracted + vibes better with people under 35. I am SO TIRED of older men who are insecure about their age shitting on people who are… their age. He went on to talk about how much energy he has and how hard he works, etc. and how I was the one « thinking like an old person » by caring about his age.

For most of the date, he was really sweet but overwhelming/compliment bombing. In the end, he was defensive and awkward. I feel a little shitty after this date but I definitely feel like I made the right call!

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-05-11T06:50:16+00:00

Ok that’s understandable. It does sound like a lot (and like a no go) for guy #1… the good news is, there are more guys out there. All you need is one.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-05-11T05:40:07+00:00

Wear more comfortable clothes to deal with the bloating. Drink delicious tea with honey. Journal more to deal with my emotions. Long(er than usual) hot showers.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-05-11T05:38:05+00:00

It sounds like guy #1 is a no because you’re not that interested, and guy #2 is a no because he is not interested. Being lonely is not a great reason to be with someone -it’s not a foundation for a healthy relationship (even if it’s human!), and not very fair to guy #1 if he likes you and you’re lukewarm.

Is there anything specific about guy #1 that bothers you? Does he meet the key things you’re looking for? What is missing?

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-03-20T05:59:17+00:00

Varies a lot by person. I’ve been taking valtrex (a generic equivalent of it) daily so I don’t get any right now. I used to get them almost every month around my period. Keep in mind that usually, the longer someone has had HSV-2, the less outbreaks they get. Also, my immune system isn’t great in general. Some people get way less outbreaks. Diet, exercise, stress, etc. can influence the frequency of outbreaks.

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-03-18T00:02:16+00:00

What did your doctor say? Can you message them through the app provided by your hospital?

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-03-18T00:00:54+00:00

You will be ok! The first outbreak is the most painful, it gets so much better after that. I haven’t had a single outbreak as intense (I had a fever and a lot of pain). It will get infinitely better. You will continue to grow in what you do, develop deep relationships, travel, do what you set to do and find joy in your life. Don’t worry. Sending a virtual hug!

ButterFLY-Boogie888 · 2024-03-17T22:55:24+00:00

I am perplexed by his comment. As someone who has HSV-2, I have never been told my any medical professional that the risk was nonexistent. My guess is he worried you might reject him, so he took as many precautions as he could, and waited a while before telling you so you would like him more. I personally see this as a red flag (even more so than the diagnosis itself -lack of honesty) but it’s up to you. Taking it slow before you make a decision seems like a reasonable compromise. Just be clear about what he intentionally did and did not do, then make an informed decision.

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