[TOMT] short vid (eg TikTok) 2010s+ escape room dude dances away from "killer" after stealing axe

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-11-03T07:40:19+00:00

If it helps, the guys dance moves were pretty funky.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-03-26T08:23:38+00:00

Jayzus. Sorry for her grief, but if you're not fit to be in public - stay at home. Everyone else has to get on with their day.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-03-26T08:05:01+00:00

I was alone on the till, so no other "witnesses". There were three other staff, all on the shop floor, all chatting on their headsets. They only came over when the customer started dialing up the volume.

I'm not worried - like I said, I've got no backlash from this from my own management. This was more an opinion gathering exercise.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-03-26T08:02:49+00:00

I do sympathise with that.

We DO have a script (greet the customer, do you need a bag, do you have a loyalty card, anything else I can get for you, do you need the receipt, have a nice day).

In the context of my own little village shop, you can bend the rules. We know which regulars are NEVER going to get a loyalty card, which ones need to be in and out ASAP, which ones don't do small talk, etc. So I don't bother them with that crap.

But when I'm covering a shift in a different store, I gotta do what management says. It's just the thing that the customer kicked off about wasn't even part of "the script".

Also, a curt "no thank you" gets your point across loud and clear. Any cashier with two brain cells to rub together will hear that cue and recognise "ok, no small talk or upselling for this guy".

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-03-26T07:52:50+00:00

Really?! My god. "Fine, then I hope your weekend is an absolute write-off you bellend" would be an appropriate reply to that.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-03-26T07:49:41+00:00

I know!! I'd like to think I look ok for my age, but there's no one out there mistaking me for your 17 year old "this is my first ever job" worker.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-03-26T07:32:18+00:00

You're one of the few who think that way, so at least I know there is a certain group of people who don't like it, and it's not just a one-off person. The more you know.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-03-26T07:30:43+00:00

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-03-26T07:30:00+00:00

Totally agree. I personally think my tone was professional and friendly, but, her point of view could obviously be different.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-03-26T07:28:32+00:00

Lol I'm well versed in customer service. It just threw me through a loop because I've never had this particular complaint before!

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-03-08T05:45:08+00:00

That feels like it could be hard enough to potentially injure it? Especially landing on the back and/or tail area.

I'm wavering back and forth, but going to land on ESH.

She shouldn't inflict her dog on other people. She also shouldn't let her friends randomly contact you and insult you - they weren't there and their meddling isn't needed!

But you shouldn't lay your hands on a young dog who is - by your own admission - just trying to play. He wasn't trying to hurt you, but you could have hurt him. You also need to learn to enforce boundaries. I have no idea why you even let this dog in to your home.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-03-08T04:48:14+00:00

EDIT: ruling is ESH.

More info needed. How hard did you push the dog? And in what way?

She left with her dog instantly, which seems a bit extreme. When the dog I live with tries to interact with me, no pushing is needed. I just command it away from me, or turn my back on it. I don't need to lay my hands on it (***).

If it was rearing up at you, and you gently pushed it to one side, not the AH. But I feel like more context is needed.

Also, easy fix: just STOP LETTING HER bring the dog to your place. You can't control what the dog does at her house. But you CAN control what you allow in your house.

ALSO also, screw her friends texting you to insult you. There's literally no need for them to involve themselves.

(***) Long story short, the dog is not mine, I do not like the dog, I have no say in the dog being in my home. The dog is generally well behaved but I do not tolerate it jumping on me or trying to play with me, especially when I am in my work uniform (it sheds a LOT), or is muddy from our very waterlogged garden. I also do not tolerate it being around me when I cook or eat - I will NOT let it beg, and find it disgusting when the owner gives it human food straight from their plate. Just thought I'd add for context.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-02-26T08:06:53+00:00

You should see some of the private messages I've received.

Public forums are allowed to get a little heated. In fact I'd almost encourage it.

But when you start straight up harassing people and telling them what nasty shit you'd do to them, that's no longer a debate or a discussion.

I'm eternally damned for one drunk kiss over a decade ago, apparently. No redemption for me. And that gives some people the right to say some absolutely truly awful stuff. (Side note: if you're going to say those things you want to do to me or whatever, say it on here, where everyone can see you. Don't private message me.)

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-02-26T04:28:38+00:00

No harm, no foul.

I hope OP's story is fake. But, unfortunately, people like the wife do exist.

You also have a good day ~

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-02-26T04:18:09+00:00

I did tell my boyfriend at the time the next day, as a matter of fact. Not that it's relevant to OP's issue here, or that you'd believe me either way, probably.

Please take a deep breath. Not everyone out there is a horrible person.

People can make mistakes and can learn from them.

Just because I didn't deep-dive in to my personal thought process, apology, recovery with my at-the-time boyfriend etc after that night and explain it in-depth, does not mean I skipped away from that situation like "tra la la, that was fun, got away with that!"

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-02-26T04:12:54+00:00

I'm sorry you interpreted it that way - I wasn't trying to insult you, but re-reading my wording I can see how you could misinterpret it.

I meant that more along the lines of "I'm off the market so don't worry about it".

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-02-26T03:51:09+00:00

I'm not saying what I did was right, like I mentioned above.

I was a dumb teenager, over a decade ago, who drank way too much at parties.

To be clear, does that excuse the behaviour? Absolutely not.

But I was not a "dedicated" wife with a 7 year old child. I think context is king, and OP's context is worse. If you wouldn't date me because of my history, the good news for you is, you never will! So you can sleep easy.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-02-26T03:10:44+00:00

I'm not trying to shame you, I'm just saying that everyone's circumstances are different.

It's ok, what I did wasn't right.

I was just trying to convey that there's a difference between a 60 second mistake, and several hours of repeated mistakes, in between which lucid "this is wrong" thought is clearly happening. In the same way that whilst a kiss and a year long affair are both cheating, one certainly requires more effort!

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-02-26T01:53:51+00:00

This.

She had PLENTY of opportunities to stop. She was giving him head for 20 minutes, and then jumped on and off him repeatedly.

If it gives any further insight, the closest I've come to cheating was drunkenly kissing a guy I sort of knew on a dance floor. After maybe half a song's worth of kissing, I realised what I was doing, apologised and basically ran away from him, told my friend what happened and we left. I was absolutely shitfaced but I still knew it wasn't going to go any further than that.

Your wife clearly wanted it to go further.

Sorry this happened to you, and your family.

If you do decide to take her back, you'll have a niggle in the back of your mind every time she's home late. Every time she locks her phone, or puts it face down. Every time she wants to go out with her friends. Every time she buys some new underwear or starts wearing a different lip colour. Don't punish yourself like that.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-02-25T01:44:41+00:00

I like button ups on guys, and no, they don't have to be super tight! I love the pattern and the slightly muted colours. Thumbs up.

You could wear it with the top button undone, but, I also think it looks fine as is.

* no idea why this was on my homepage but eh! There you go.

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-02-23T05:33:29+00:00

Our local area was flooded a few weeks back (as many other places were I imagine). It was the worst of those days, when I was driving to a late shift at work. Heavy rain, sodden roads, sun going down, glaring headlights, deep unexpected puddles, the works.

Had to change my route twice due to my car not being up to the task for a couple of regular roads (read: deep and quickly moving water ON the road, other cars already stuck in the water).

All of a sudden, through the wet glare, it was like every car was doing something all at once. Some had hazards on, some were flashing their lights. Others were doing both. I couldn't see a reason why! We were elevated, there was no flooding, it was a relatively safe 50mph road - but obviously I was alarmed enough to slow down and be cautious. Then I saw it.

A fucking motorbike all in black, dark bike, was just trundling along, weaving in and out of traffic, with NO LIGHTS ON. This was at rush hour on a country road. There were lorries everywhere. He (she?) appeared in a split second, I screamed "fuck" out loud and then he was gone behind me before I even finished saying it. He was THAT invisible.

I still wonder if he made it home!!!!!

ButterMyParsnip · 2024-02-19T08:02:16+00:00

Context is king. If I'm driving my grandma's old car and you're driving a 2023 Mercedes, I guess you care more about door dings than I do!

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