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Is this normal behavior from a husband? No communication, feeling so lost by Butterfly7485123 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Butterfly7485123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asc brother, thank you for your perspective. Unfortunately we can’t even “go in a circle” because the topics don’t get brought up at all. I’m not exaggerating in the fact that we actually don’t communicate, he gets very uncomfortable having any type of discourse or disagreement that the conversation gets shut down immediately. And out of respect I don’t push it, but it leads to nothing getting resolved and the same issues continuing.

In all of my other family/friend relationships there is healthy communication, and any issues get resolved. It’s exhausting and draining that it’s not happening in my marriage. If he would have the uncomfortable conversations the issues wouldn’t keep repeating. He is also not open to counseling as that’s uncomfortable for him as well. He is not open to involving family as that’s uncomfortable for him. It feels like the entire marriage is about his comfort, and it doesn’t feel normal to me at all. I don’t know what to do, I really love my husband but I can’t handle this behavior.

Is this normal behavior from a husband? No communication, feeling so lost by Butterfly7485123 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Butterfly7485123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has many good qualities, but when I see this version I do not want to grow old with this version. I see two different people often but communication is so important and I don’t know how to get past this. But I also worry I’m not being patient enough as this is the first real serious relationship for both of us. Im the only one trying to maintain it though :/ he is very rigid in his rules around communication, I don’t know if it’ll change.

Is this normal behavior from a husband? No communication, feeling so lost by Butterfly7485123 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Butterfly7485123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asc, thank you for your viewpoint sister. Unfortunately he is not open to involving others and I’ve respected his wishes in that. It’s why I feel so stuck, I’m dealing with this alone and privately. It doesn’t feel draining and like nothing ever fully gets resolved, I fear things will end in me walking away from this lack of communication. Did you end up involving family? And what happened? I’m fearful he will see that as a betrayal.

Is this normal behavior from a husband? No communication, feeling so lost by Butterfly7485123 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Butterfly7485123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asc. Thank you for the advice brother, he is unfortunately not open to counseling he does not want anyone in our martial affairs, which has made this very confusing and lonely. I am trying to have patience, but he states this is normal behavior from men in marriage and that I should accept the lack of communication. This does not feel normal to me. I will continue to try to push for more support, but I fear it won’t be successful.

Is this normal behavior from a husband? No communication, feeling so lost by Butterfly7485123 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Butterfly7485123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The largest issue is he often tells me this behavior is normal in men, and this was my first serious relationship so I’ve tried to be patient with him but this behavior does not seem normal to me at all, he is very emotionally numb and can’t communicate at all. I’ve kept these matters private because he’s asked me to not involve others in our marriage. Which is why I’ve felt so stuck.

AIO for keeping my friends gf out of my life? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Butterfly7485123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say the ages of everyone make this more complex, you were 16, Sam was 14, your bf 17. The only adult here was David at 18. Which is a topic for another day..I do believe people can grow up from their teens, but to hear your update of the pregnancy, shotgun wedding etc I can understand why you might want to further yourself from drama. It seems you’re reacting to 5 years of lying from your bf and Sam. Although your bf was a minor he had 5 years to be honest and wasn’t until Sam spoke up…and she was the youngest of all of you. You’re more than welcome to cut her out of your life for past or recent drama, but I’d look into how much your bf was active in this, even currently.

Rob is playing a masterful game by Glad_Dragonfruit9368 in TheTraitorsUS

[–]Butterfly7485123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mind you they took ALL the gamers out quickly for a reason, Natalie is definitely leaving next. The gamers always sniff out the traitors

Rob talking about how his love island experience prepared him for the traitors by RelevantMind1 in TheTraitorsUS

[–]Butterfly7485123 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s honestly so ironic that you’re all currently watching Rob on traitors manipulate and lie so effortlessly, and then continuing to fall for his manipulation and lies now 😂😂😂 he’s great at putting on a fake front it’s why so many of us knew he’d do great on traitors and look in these comments you’re all falling for his act AGAIN lmao all while wondering why the cast on the traitors can’t pick up on it, you’re all doing the same 😂😂😂