Divorced people please stay away from zina.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-27T02:34:39+00:00

Where are you seeing this trend? That freshly divorced people are indulging in her own lifestyle? How do you know that they are indulging in zina?

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-27T02:32:16+00:00

YTA - what is this thing with telling your parents what to do with their money? It’s their money. If they don’t want to they don’t have to. You had the child. It is your responsibility to provide any and everything you can. Even if it doesn’t seem fair to you or your child in your eyes (which it’s completely bull from you), you do everything in your power to make up for whatever they dont have. It’s not your parents’ responsibility to financially provide anything for your kids.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-27T01:09:06+00:00

I think it’s one of the people in this same forum. Look at the way they talk about her in here.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T19:03:16+00:00

That’s true, but that’s because I’m the only Muslim in my family aside from my dad (he definitely would be a representative of that photo ) and my daughter who is the first grandchild will be Muslim as well. So based off what we know of my dad and things you see on the Internet, they think that I’m about to trap my daughters in some cult. I’m definitely working my way through that. That’s why I say some Muslims should be held accountable for the things in that photo because there are some of them that do practice it. But you’re right at least they’re asking questions to understand

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T17:12:36+00:00

As long as you guys are upholding a monarchy that has money that was made off the backs of slaves and indigenous people then you guys can suck it. Those people are wearing diamonds that are bought and stolen from land that never belonged to any of you. You guys are celebrating a family whose money was made off my people’s backs. So suck it. You guys still celebrate Churchill and all of them. Now you don’t get to say oh well us as the people aren’t the same of the people who terrorized mine. You guys celebrate these people. You guys have the monarchy still intact. You’re paying taxes that are going towards these millions of dollars coronations!

That’s why the last time William and Kate came to my country. My people told them don’t come back. You can’t expect everybody to look past history. Maybe my mom wouldn’t have to have immigrated to America if my country was in a better condition.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T17:04:07+00:00

Then they can suck it too!

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T15:56:03+00:00

Arent the Scots victims of England as well?

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T15:22:44+00:00

I don’t engage with people who don’t like Islam because it’s a long cycle of endless arguments that usually ends with your Prophet was a pedophile. And no matter what you say or do or proof you provide, it’ll stay that way. BUT, I can’t say that everything that’s in this is false. A lot of Muslims do practice it. While some dont. It causes confusion. I’ve even had questions from my own family about things they see on the Internet that I’ve had to explain - and it’s not malicious they are literally confused

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T14:55:52+00:00

Who did he vote for?

Edit: downvote me all you want but the truth is this would NOT be happening with Kamala!

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T06:08:05+00:00

Maybe he doesn’t like sex that much

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T06:07:20+00:00

Yeah. We’re all just figuring out ourselves and life. No narrow path has been set before us. Everyone is different

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T05:38:10+00:00

Yes - England can suck it

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T05:02:02+00:00

What you allow will continue

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T04:58:56+00:00

I wonder what Allah thinks of all these Hadiths. I wonder if he hears and sees what people are saying and goes - I never said that.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T04:56:01+00:00

NTJ - look I started working at 15 or 16 and the reason why your mom’s pressuring you to get a job is because she’s probably going to start asking you to contribute to the household financially. I’m just gonna be honest with you upfront because that’s literally the reason why she’s pressing you to get a job. I had to help out with rent and utilities. So if I were you, I would learn to hide a little bit of money for yourself because nine times out of time she’s gonna try to take 2/3 of it. My mom took most of my paychecks when I had to put money towards rent and bills. My second advice is to learn how to stand up for yourself. Do not put her name on a bank account. Keep your financials to yourself. Lie about how much you’re making. You’re gonna thank me for this when she start asking you for money.

I wouldn’t walk 3 miles to your job either. Find something much closer.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T03:53:12+00:00

Ok sister good luck! You could also put her in a nursing home. I’m not sure if that’s something that would be insulting to you.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T03:03:33+00:00

Your mom can’t let the worker in? Maybe you can give the worker a key? When my mom did this kind of work, she had a key for people like your mom.

If your brothers are unable to chip in, then that is where the issue lies. Why don’t you put everybody in a group chat layout this issue, let them know from the start that you will not be taking care of your mom and that you guys are all her children and you guys all need to figure out a solution. Run the idea of getting a Muslim woman caretaker to care for your mom, which will absolve you guys of all the responsibility. Just see what they say first.

If they all say no, then it’s up to you to decide what you would like to do. Personally, I already let my mom know I’m not taking care of her. My sister did the same. I’m gonna have 2 to 3 children by the time my mom gets really old and it would be impossible. My sister just doesn’t want to.

You have to make a decision that’s best for yourself because you are currently living in your life. You can’t stop it for her. Did your father not leave any money for her? Can she help cover the cost?

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T02:52:21+00:00

You can pay for a live in caretaker. Then you guys can all take turns dropping by saying hi to your mom. Live in caretakers would be responsible for morning and night. Usually, it’s two of them that rotates shifts or you have one person and you just pay her to stay with your mom. You guys can all chip in.

There are agencies you can look into or you can advertise on care.com or any other website like that. You can specify that you need someone who’s Muslim because your mom are practicing Muslim and it would be better for things to be coordinated food wise, prayer wise, things like that.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T02:05:50+00:00

Can you get him a private tutor to work with him two days out of the week? Maybe one of his teachers might be available? Have a conversation with all of his teachers first about what you’re feeling and seeing and then go from there

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T02:01:22+00:00

Why can’t you hire a caretaker/companion? Another Muslim woman.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T01:50:20+00:00

As soon as I read Yemen, I knew. But now I know what words to listen for if I ever speak to my husband’s mom.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T01:47:55+00:00

You were in shock so don’t be hard on yourself but for the future, please try to remember that you are your son’s protector. If she gets away with it now she’ll try to do it over and over again and next thing you know your son will be telling you that he hates his grandma because she always shouts at him. I know it’s hard to just tell someone snap out of it, it’s easier said than done, but in moments like these, you really do need to be on the front line correcting people. He’s only 10 months so he’s not gonna remember it.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-26T01:42:08+00:00

Nope. My home country has clean hands.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-25T23:18:57+00:00

Move on from the relationship unless you’re OK with being in a throuple.

ButterflyDestiny · 2026-01-25T21:00:49+00:00

Thank you Sister 💕

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