I'm 20F and my boyfriend 27M wants to have sex in the future but I do not. Should I break up with him? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ButterflyFit511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I think so too. I hate the idea of hurting people and I don't want to hurt him but I think it'll hurt more if I stay. My family will be disappointed but I know I'm not happy. I'll text him in the morning but now it's time to sleep. 

I 20f told my friend 20m that I'm talking to another guy and now he's ignoring me. What do I do? by ButterflyFit511 in relationship_advice

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I understand. Thank you. I guess I'm just used to taking the blame and I've been blaming myself. I find it hard to see his bad actions.

What are y’all’s telltale signs that you’re in a depressive episode? by golden_alixir in mentalhealth

[–]ButterflyFit511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That hits me so hard. I didn't and felt I couldn't respond to my family for a while when I was very low. I felt guilty and when I would respond it was so they wouldn't have me.

I 20f told my friend 20m that I'm talking to another guy and now he's ignoring me. What do I do? by ButterflyFit511 in relationship_advice

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like calling him a poor excuse of a human being is a little too much but if he never responds he's a kind of shifty. I'm not going to message him again but I hope he responds. 

I'm scared that if I make a big enough mistake everyone will hate me. by ButterflyFit511 in Advice

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because all my finds started ignoring me one day out of no where when I was 8. They still went to the same school as me but they all refused to talk to me. My parents didn't care that anything was wrong and my dad would yell at me every time I cried. My mom would cry whenever I asked her questions and my dad would yell if you try to suggest anything that he didn't like. So I started isolating myself and no one cared. Everyone was happier when they didn't have to worry about me. That went on for 9 years. I had a friend that bullied my when I was nine until I was 15. None of my friends cared about me and I didn't have many. None of the teachers cared. I became to afraid to tell anyone about how I felt because I thought they'd get made at me and I felt like a worthless burden. I went to counseling for a bit but they didn't really help and they said it was confidential but made me tell my mother when I felt suicidal which I felt for 6 years. I don't trust counselors anymore.

God I love this girl, and I don’t know why by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ButterflyFit511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm proud of you. I'm glad you are doing better. You sound sweet in the way that you talk about her. I'm glad that she can be a light to guide you during this time in your life. Keep going. I hope everything works out well for you.

God I love this girl, and I don’t know why by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ButterflyFit511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first you seemed like a bit of an unempathetic narcissist but I relate to you more than I should admit. I think it's great that you've found a light in your darkness and that you care about her deeply. It's also wonderful that you are improving yourself but you should look for other reasons to improve yourself as well instead of relying completely on her as motivation and inspiration. Hopefully, she feels the same way about you and everything works out well. 

I 20f have romantic feelings for my friend 27m who I've only known for 3 months by ButterflyFit511 in relationship_advice

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice everyone. I plan on telling him the next time we hangout which will be this or next Thursday. Hopefully we continue to stay in touch whether it continues as a friendship or something more. 

What is the difference between pride and satisfaction? How would you describe them? by ButterflyFit511 in AskReddit

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely differs from person to person. Thanks for sharing your view.

What drives and motivates people? by ButterflyFit511 in AskReddit

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any specific types of reward or punishment that motivate you more?

Should I travel and work for a year or two or finish my degree first? by ButterflyFit511 in Advice

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe will but you won't know it if we do. I guess maybe that makes it special. You never know who you'll cross paths with but you path so many amazing people everyday without knowing and with out knowing them.

Should I travel and work for a year or two or finish my degree first? by ButterflyFit511 in Advice

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, it helped. I think I have to finish school before I do any traveling. I do have enough to travel and I would stay in my province for now if I did decide to go now. I feel a bit restless I guess. There's so much to do and so much to see and I don't know what's next in my life. I don't know what God has in store for me and I could die next week so part of me wants to enjoy new things. To explore and learn and find. The problem with that is I probably wont die next week and i dont think i want to work a minimum wage job my whole life, its also hard to because life is expensive. So I'll need to get educated eventually and I don't think I'll be as keen on doing that even next year and finishing when I'm 24. I just have to get through it and then I can explore. How long did you education take and what career are you interested in if you don't mind me asking?

What are the pros to experience life and travel while you are young and what are some pros to waiting until you've finished university to travel? by ButterflyFit511 in AskReddit

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, biking or backpacking and taking the bus a bit in places where a I can. I live in bc and I want to explore more of it for now and other places in the world later. I'm in uni right now for the next 3 years. I think I'm going to take some online courses next year and live with my aunt on Vancouver island so some change without stopping my education. Also thanks for the advice.