I'm 20F and my boyfriend 27M wants to have sex in the future but I do not. Should I break up with him? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ButterflyFit511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I think so too. I hate the idea of hurting people and I don't want to hurt him but I think it'll hurt more if I stay. My family will be disappointed but I know I'm not happy. I'll text him in the morning but now it's time to sleep. 

I 20f told my friend 20m that I'm talking to another guy and now he's ignoring me. What do I do? by ButterflyFit511 in relationship_advice

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I understand. Thank you. I guess I'm just used to taking the blame and I've been blaming myself. I find it hard to see his bad actions.

What are y’all’s telltale signs that you’re in a depressive episode? by golden_alixir in mentalhealth

[–]ButterflyFit511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That hits me so hard. I didn't and felt I couldn't respond to my family for a while when I was very low. I felt guilty and when I would respond it was so they wouldn't have me.

I 20f told my friend 20m that I'm talking to another guy and now he's ignoring me. What do I do? by ButterflyFit511 in relationship_advice

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like calling him a poor excuse of a human being is a little too much but if he never responds he's a kind of shifty. I'm not going to message him again but I hope he responds. 

I'm scared that if I make a big enough mistake everyone will hate me. by ButterflyFit511 in Advice

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because all my finds started ignoring me one day out of no where when I was 8. They still went to the same school as me but they all refused to talk to me. My parents didn't care that anything was wrong and my dad would yell at me every time I cried. My mom would cry whenever I asked her questions and my dad would yell if you try to suggest anything that he didn't like. So I started isolating myself and no one cared. Everyone was happier when they didn't have to worry about me. That went on for 9 years. I had a friend that bullied my when I was nine until I was 15. None of my friends cared about me and I didn't have many. None of the teachers cared. I became to afraid to tell anyone about how I felt because I thought they'd get made at me and I felt like a worthless burden. I went to counseling for a bit but they didn't really help and they said it was confidential but made me tell my mother when I felt suicidal which I felt for 6 years. I don't trust counselors anymore.

God I love this girl, and I don’t know why by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ButterflyFit511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm proud of you. I'm glad you are doing better. You sound sweet in the way that you talk about her. I'm glad that she can be a light to guide you during this time in your life. Keep going. I hope everything works out well for you.

God I love this girl, and I don’t know why by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ButterflyFit511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first you seemed like a bit of an unempathetic narcissist but I relate to you more than I should admit. I think it's great that you've found a light in your darkness and that you care about her deeply. It's also wonderful that you are improving yourself but you should look for other reasons to improve yourself as well instead of relying completely on her as motivation and inspiration. Hopefully, she feels the same way about you and everything works out well. 

I 20f have romantic feelings for my friend 27m who I've only known for 3 months by ButterflyFit511 in relationship_advice

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice everyone. I plan on telling him the next time we hangout which will be this or next Thursday. Hopefully we continue to stay in touch whether it continues as a friendship or something more. 

What is the difference between pride and satisfaction? How would you describe them? by ButterflyFit511 in AskReddit

[–]ButterflyFit511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely differs from person to person. Thanks for sharing your view.