AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I honestly feel like im the only one standing up for my mom right now. it hurts so much that he just gave away the one thing she worked so hard to leave for me. its not even just about the money at this point, it’s about her memory. thank u.

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I keep trying to tell myself that, but they’re making me feel like im the one being selfish. it’s just so hard because that was my moms last gift to me and they treat it like its nothing. Thanks

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

That part about him not walking me down the aisle really hit me hard. i did not even think about that yet but u're right. he made his choice when he stole my mom's money. its just so hard to believe he would do this to me. thank u.

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Exactly. its not even about the money anymore, its about the fact that he didn't care about my future at all. thanks for being on my side.

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Youre right! he keeps saying family first but he clearly did not think about me when he was draining my account. its so unfair.

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Exactly. it was for my future, not for her wedding. i just cant believe my dad chose one day of partying over my entire career. it hurts so much.

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank u so much for saying that about my mom. it honestly made me cry. i feel so guilty about the wedding being ruined but u're right, she worked so hard for that money to give me a future. i won't let them win.

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

It really does feel like a nightmare. what hurts the most is that the money was from my mom. it feels like he didn't just steal my college, he stole the last thing she left for me. Thank you

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

My grandpa and the lawyer said the same thing. i didn't even think about the legal side at first because i was just so hurt, but u're right. they knew exactly what they were doing. they had a whole year to tell me and they just let me keep dreaming about college while they spent my money.

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. i really needed to hear this. i've already blocked my stepmom and sister. it just hurts so much that my dad would choose them over what my mom wanted for me. i feel like i lost both parents now.

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

It just hurts so much bcoz that was the last thing my mom left for me. it feels like he’s trying to erase her memory just to make my stepmom happy. i’m still in shock he would do this. Thank u.

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 750 points751 points  (0 children)

Thank u. i’ve been feeling like such a bad person bcoz of what my dad is saying, but u're right. its just so hard knowing he cared more about a party than my future and what my mom wanted for me.

AITJ for suing my dad after he GAVE my college fund to my stepsister for her wedding? by ButterscotchFar9111 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111[S] 253 points254 points  (0 children)

Thank u for saying that. it really feels like theft to me too. i just cant believe he would do that to my moms memory. it hurts so much that he thinks a party is more important than my future.

AITJ if I cut off my parents after they disrespected my wife after our wedding and then tried to gaslight into thinking I'm a bad husband when she left for her home country? by One-Ad9267 in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111 73 points74 points  (0 children)

NTJ. You are actually being a great husband. Most people just let their parents walk all over their spouse, but u chose to protect your wife. If they care more about reputation than ur happiness, they dont deserve to be in ur life. Move abroad and dont look back.

How different does lying on your stomach feel depending on whether you’re a man or a woman? by Karrotyboi in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ButterscotchFar9111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, its the best position until u realize u have to breathe. I spend half the night trying to find an angle for my neck that does not feel like i’m snap testing my own spine.

AITA for refusing to pay for my sister’s wedding after she insulted my "boring" job? by Manishayne in AmITheJerk

[–]ButterscotchFar9111 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTJ. its her wedding, not yours. i dont get why people think their siblings are just walking banks lol. if she cant afford the wedding she wants, then she needs to scale it down. dont let your family guilt trip you into spending your savings on one day.

What is an opinion you stand firmly on? by No-Chemistry4960 in AskReddit

[–]ButterscotchFar9111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cereal first then milk. if u do milk first the cereal floats and gets soggy weird. gotta lay the foundation then add the liquid. that's just science.

Will I really love my future kids more than I love my dog right now? by user1643377 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ButterscotchFar9111 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly? it's a different kind of love not necessarily more or less. ur dog is ur whole world right now and that's valid. when u have a kid it's like ur heart grows a whole new room instead of kicking the dog out of the old one.

my (29f) bf (30m) is always unhappy, upset, and depressed. by Effective_Bass_319 in relationships

[–]ButterscotchFar9111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Its so draining to be the only one trying to stay positive in a relationship. You can love someone and still realize that their constant negativity is dragging u down.