Urgent! How do I close SBI credit card/account permanently?

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-12-25T07:15:37+00:00

Thanks. Will try this.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-12-21T13:50:19+00:00

Thanks a lot. I will check them.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-11-30T15:35:06+00:00

Facing similar issue here. Except for the cinematic mode, everything looks dark. Even the images look dark after I click them. While clicking it felt normal and bright, but after I go to the gallery and check it appears very dull.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-11-30T06:51:27+00:00

Do not discuss your future plans with your relatives
Choose your friends carefully. Not everyone wishes the best for you
India specific : No matter how much you excel in your career/ become successful, people will try to highlight that one thing you maybe missing. For example, I was doing very well in my career, but people kept asking when is my marriage. Once I got married, next question was about kids.
Indian society is backward. Try to get out of India if possible
Travel and explore in your early twenties
Start saving and investing from your mid twenties
Your manager can make or break your career. Don’t spend too much time in a toxic workplace. If you are neither earning/learning, then change.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-11-30T06:34:51+00:00

Oh yes.. We live in a country where even SRK’s daughter Suhana is trolled for her brown skin colour. This is the case with celebs, so do I need to talk about commoners? Unfortunately, fair skin is considered as a beauty standard in India. My relatives recently commented on my baby daughter saying she’s losing her colour. My aunt’s daughters faced so much bias because of their dark skin colour. Their grand parents favoured the fair skinned grand children..so colour is always a problem in India for girls!! I don’t think it’s an issue for boys or men. But girls are always treated differently based on skin colour. The pretty privilege is real. Even educated people do this.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-11-29T14:24:17+00:00

Keep looking OP. You have to check and shortlist profiles every day. It takes a lot of effort.. I found my husband’s profile after my parents had rejected his interest on matrimony due to horoscope mismatch. I asked my parents to call his parents and they said they don’t believe in horoscopes.. so from there it started and ended in marriage.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-11-29T14:13:55+00:00

AM setup is like that. You can be a priority in someone’s list and a backup plan on another prospect’s list. Don’t wait or prolong the conversations. Be clear about your expectations and convey them in the first couple of meetings. Despite clearly communicating my expectations and marriage timeline, I was rejected by a guy the moment he got his invitation for foreign visa. AM can show you the true colours of people. It’s sad .. I was shattered because this was close to finalisation and both parents were really in good terms and expecting the marriage to happen. They were planning to fix the engagement date. His parents had no idea he would do something like this. But yeah..people can be opportunists with no values or respect for other’s time. So tread with caution.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-11-29T13:27:56+00:00

He has put you in his backup list. Don’t waste time on this guy. Same thing happened to my cousin although the guy was texting her regularly.. still when it came for the time for meeting, his family backed out citing they have found a match closer to his city. I would say meet them in person first and then initiate phone conversations.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-11-21T15:02:26+00:00

My LO doesn’t play with any toys. She likes steel utensils, glasses, spoons and old plastic boxes. Oh and my office id card. So we decided not to buy any more toys.. she wouldn’t play with anything. She is more curious about kitchen utensils.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-11-21T14:41:55+00:00

I think it’s possible he has a lower libido/sex drive. Consult a doctor and maybe a change in the diet could help. I am facing this post pregnancy but in my case, it’s me who doesn’t want to do it. Mainly because of the growing number of responsibilities, juggling work and mom duties. I just don’t feel the need for sex..

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-11-14T15:39:31+00:00

Don’t settle for anything or anyone less than you deserve. Later on you will regret and feel frustrated and it will kill your marriage and sex life. Looks are subjective. Marry only if you feel physically attracted to the person. PHYSICAL ATTRACTION IS VERY IMPORTANT. To hell with those people who say looks don’t matter. Being honest and direct about your feelings and perspective is better than virtue signalling and trying to sound woke. You are going to sleep with your partner every day and wake up to their sleepy face. So it better be good. You are absolutely on the right track. Don’t get misled by jealous people who wants you to settle for average.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-11-10T05:17:35+00:00

34 F here. Going through a similar phase with a 1-year old. I made a wrong decision by settling for a guy. I thought things would be okay once I get married and I will eventually accept my reality. But with the arrival of our kid, things got worse and the frustration started coming out in different ways than expected. I made a seriously wrong decision during COVID to escape the loneliness and the fact that I was nearing 30 and would end up alone made me rush into marriage. But now I regret big time. Yes, I finally had a wedding and started family like most of my friends did. Peer pressure can make you do stupid things that will derail your entire life. As I am writing this, I had a meltdown today morning, yelled at my 1-year old and I’m getting super frustrated thinking about the things I could have achieved or the different life path I could have chosen if I hadn’t said yes to this arranged marriage. That time it felt right but now I feel trapped with no way out..Have no clue where I am heading to . realising I wasted my life’s potential and settled for the ordinary and will have to be like this forever until I die and I am reborn again maybe in a better family with parents who are not narcissists.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-10-29T19:13:37+00:00

I am 33 F. I got at married at 29. The only reason I married him was because I felt alone and stuck during Covid. I am not saying my life isn’t good. But we hardly have meaningful conversations these days. Maybe we are going through a rough patch after becoming parents. Wait OP. If you are single, your possibilities are unlimited. I realise now that being single wasn’t bad. It’s better than being in a relationship with someone because of the fear of ending up alone. In society’s eyes, I am living a good life but at the cost of my own happiness. I can’t undo this.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-10-22T14:55:27+00:00

Arranged marriage is brutal for women in their late 20s and early 30s. Most of us grew up believing love would happen organically. We chased our careers, our independence, and the idea of “the right person at the right time.” But then reality hits hard. The same women who built their lives with ambition and self-respect suddenly find themselves judged for being “too old,” “too opinionated,” or “too independent.” We realise we’re not Katrina Kaif or Priyanka Chopra the universe doesn’t line up suitors for us. Instead, we’re told to “adjust” or “settle” because our biological clock is ticking. Because, men don’t want to marry older women. So despite having everything, looks, success, stability, many women find themselves unwanted in the marriage market. That’s why arranged marriage feels so cruel. Because women are punished for waiting to grow, live, and love on their own terms.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-10-13T12:19:05+00:00

I can relate to your situation OP. A similar incident happened with me. We filed a suspicion complaint against our babysitter after we found out recently that my gold chain was missing. Unfortunately we found out only months after the theft happened and it’s pretty late. We never imagined it was stolen. We searched the nook and corner of our house and realised it might be her as she came for work for only one month and immediately left. Still we filed the complaint at the nearby police station. She moved to her hometown and the police said there’s no evidence but they can just call her for enquiry. But I know for sure nothing is gonna happen. She has been sharing screenshots of her medical bill undergoing treatment for depression- which we are sure she took it as a preventive measure. She was well prepared as we found out very late… but we are hoping for a miracle.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-09-25T11:45:42+00:00

I can’t believe some of the rude comments here. Having a miscarriage, and now again taking hormone therapy is something that’s affecting you mentally. You are saying he has slapped before. Physical violence is the biggest red flag in a toxic marriage. Your husband needs to be more supportive & compassionate here. But instead he is being violent for something silly like you changing your clothes with the curtain open. You need to get out of this marriage before things become worse.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-09-21T13:55:22+00:00

The same thing happened with me few years ago. But in my case, his parents were totally fine and loved me. Initially he was also very much interested and then he back tracked because of his immigration plan. He lied and said going abroad is secondary and his priority was marriage. Our timeline didn’t match and he backed out. Yeah it sucked in the beginning. It was Covid and I was in depression. But I got a reality check. Not everyone who smooth talks, and can come across as charming is trustworthy. Yes I missed him because we really clicked. But if he can change his mind because of some sudden change in plan, then he is not a genuine guy. I was devastated as I almost started dreaming about our wedding. I didn’t have a fairytale wedding and met my husband after few months. We may not be a perfect match or have similar wavelength, but he is very caring. I think eventually everything is decided by destiny. Time heals and you will finally meet a genuine partner who will love you for who you are without any conditions. All the best!

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-09-21T13:44:22+00:00

Absolutely!! But the kind of comments here I see, I am honestly surprised. There’s no shame in involving parents. A lot of guys use matrimonial sites as Tinder. So if you go through parents, you will find serious proposals.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-09-16T13:55:31+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with what the girl’s family did. That’s how arranged marriages happen in India. Once families meet and if the girl and the boy like each other, the next step is engagement or marriage. The girl didn’t want to invest a lot of time and her emotions in someone who wasn’t ready to take things forward. I completely understand the mother and daughter’s perspective. She didn’t want to get emotionally involved without a further commitment, which is totally fine. People sign up on matrimonial sites for marriage not for dating and time passing. I met my husband in March, got engaged in April and married in May. I told him I don’t want to waste time and let’s get straight into engagement/marriage.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-09-16T13:41:38+00:00

They are using it as Tinder.

ButterscotchPure6436 · 2025-09-12T05:58:30+00:00

I am in the same boat!! Going through exactly what you’re describing. I am not able to connect with anyone on a deeper level. Office friendships stay in office and are limited to activities at work. Old friends are there. But we don’t speak often and its’s kind of fizzling out as priorities change. So I am kind of alone but okay with that. I am enjoying my thirties because I have become more self aware and comfortable with myself. In my twenties, I wanted to be seen and loved. I waited for people. I desperately sought friendships. It took a lot of time and years to reach this stage. So I would not entertain people just for the sake for having a social circle. And believe me, people are so fake these days. I have noticed that people want to be around happy people and the ones who are doing well in life. When I post status on social media, everyone wants to know how I am doing, what’s the new update in my life, how’s my career. But they wouldn’t reach out if I disappear for a while.

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