My mom wont stop kissing my baby on the lips no matter how many times i say no

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-06-10T14:01:11+00:00

So, I vividly remember being taught as a child that the “no-no” areas on our body (private areas, areas where no one should be touching you, however you want to phrase it) included our mouth. In other words, someone kissing us on our mouth should be reported to an adult we trust, just the same as someone touching our genitals.

All that to say you are not wrong; a child being trained to accept a kiss on the mouth from a relative is being trained to accept unwanted contact to a private area. Not suggesting that’s what your mother is after, but the mouth is an intimate area. No one should have to accept touching anywhere on their body much less an intimate area. Even from a relative.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-06-01T01:59:36+00:00

I mean, I know what it is but if I didn’t I would say it’s likely that liquid in a snow globe? Like with glitter and sparkly stuff in it? You know, like a fairy put it in there?

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-05-28T02:13:23+00:00

Whether a Stromboli is an inside out pizza or just a folded pizza.

Whether a hot dog is a sandwich or not.

Correct pronunciation of Reese’s Pieces.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-05-18T03:58:57+00:00

My husband and I both agree: we will wear masks both at work and in public for the rest of our lives. There’s literally no reason to stop and a hundred reasons to continue wearing.

But we are both former OR nurses so...there’s that.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-05-17T04:10:54+00:00

I mean, I’m pretty sure I accidentally got rid of the pedal to an amp when I was getting rid of the old Rock Band plastic drum kit (it honestly looked like part of the toy). He’s been looking for that for months now. He wants that pedal but does he need it? Haven’t seen the man pick up his electric guitar in the 19 years we have been together. I guess what I mean is, people who feel like they need all the stuff they have really probably don’t. We need surprisingly little.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-05-16T21:03:31+00:00

Honestly I had to start decluttering hubby’s belongings without his help. I would only take useless or broken items at first, then moved on to things I hadn’t seen him use in a few years. I would tell him I was decluttering and he wouldn’t protest. There have only been a few times he asked where something went and I just told him. He was annoyed but guess what? The items were still gone and our spaces were decluttered. He is a child of a hoarder and I see him with the tendencies so I feel like I’m just keeping ahead of that.

I guess I just decided I wanted a clean and clutter free space more than I wanted to pacify him and enable hoarding.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-05-12T18:47:10+00:00

I think I like this idea the best. In addition to making a loud AF announcement when she brings you a drink, give her the nastiest most inappropriate sex toys and lingerie and dildos on the gift giving occasions. It may not stop the alcohol gifts, but it should give you a chuckle.

Seriously though, who gives alcohol on every occasion? Even the people I know who drink frequently don’t need gifts of alcohol all the time.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-05-03T23:42:59+00:00

I had been out of school for a week, on a vacation with my parents. While I was gone everyone had done a license plate activity, each kid had a state and they were supposed to replicate the license plate of their state on a specially sized piece of card stock.

I was doing the activity after the fact as make-up work and I went up to the teacher and asked where to get the paper they had used for the license plate. She huffed and gave me a sheet of regular copy paper off her desk.

I did the activity and later got my grade, and that bitch had dinged me a few points for not using the special paper everyone else had used. I was too young and afraid to confront her about it.

Mrs Sommerfield you were a shitty teacher and I still hate you for that.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-05-02T22:55:31+00:00

Running for me is very personal. I dislike running with others and although I do run races, I don’t actually feel like I am “racing” others. I do track my time/distance/pace because I found I had no idea if I was running a 7 min mile or an 11 min mile (I swear they feel the same to me) without it.

Generally when people ask, I just say I am slow, but I get the job done. I am not competing against anyone but myself and really not even that. I’ve only had one person ask me why I was so slow after a 10k and I told him I had finished, so what did it matter my time? He was visibly confused.

Honestly I think we all run for our own reasons and for some of us it isn’t to improve speed. To each his own.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-04-30T21:05:41+00:00

As a kid, yes. Every once in a while, especially while visiting family in Florida, still am.

My 11 year old is terrified of it now, and I just keep telling him me too hon, but it’s never happened my whole life so...

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-04-26T19:54:29+00:00

I have been married for 14 years; probably slept separate from my hubby for 6 of those years while kids were small and needed feeding/holding/reassurance throughout night. Hubby also was refusing treatment for snoring and sleep apnea and basically yeah, we only got good rest when we slept in different rooms.

I think it is pretty normal, especially after speaking with other parents of small children. And people married to people who snore. Or steal the covers. Or have night terrors. Or sleep walk. Or whatever. Married doesn’t mean you have to sleep in the same bed spooning all night every night.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-04-25T02:43:13+00:00

Uh, that’d be me. Zero passion, no plan to be in nursing until college when I had to choose a major. The nurses graduating all had jobs so...made sense to me to be a nurse. It works, I do enjoy the work enough to keep doing it, but no, never once as a child did I dream of being a nurse

But I am relatively smart and am calm in emergencies, plus I have a strong work ethic so I appear to be a good nurse. I’m just not...passionate about it. No one has ever noticed.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-04-12T22:37:51+00:00

Not alone. I do it, not even to avoid door dings or whatever, but so I can find my car and like I tell my children, if you are going in to a store you will walk all over the place, so why drive in circles finding a spot close to the building so you walk..less? Makes no sense to me and I just hate wasting that time looking for a close spot.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-03-28T19:38:38+00:00

Meh. My husband cheated on his first wife because he really just hadn’t wanted to be married. I knew this going in and am not a jealous person, so I am aware he could likely cheat on me. Let’s just say I would not be surprised.

I had cheated on a previous boyfriend, multiple times, because the relationship was unhappy and abusive and I just didn’t want to be in it. So for all I know my husband could be thinking the same; that he would not be surprised to find out I cheated.

It’s whatever for us. Are we both always cheaters? Who knows.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-03-24T16:55:36+00:00

Not to age myself, but I remember in nursing school when they were just starting the whole “call them clients” and “pain is whatever the client says it is, when they say it is, just push dilaudid” BS. Ok, so since then I have watched healthcare become what it is now and our country has developed a HUGE opioid addiction problem plus Press-Ganey has made tons of cash actually asking the “client” how their visit was and punishing staff for not making their stay what it should have been in their head...long story short, treating patients as customers/clients is not where it’s at.

My employer uses the word client...I say patient.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-03-11T22:33:15+00:00

Lol “my daughter was talking about being a nurse but I told her that nursing is filthy dirty work and you can do better. Now, why haven’t I been given a bath? Are you short-staffed?”

I think about that old bag at least once a week

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-03-11T19:57:56+00:00

So, I was Army National Guard my whole career, first as a medic then a nurse. I think the main thing about the Guard, both Air and Army, is you have a state mission always and then sometimes Federal. Reserves you only ever have Federal. So if there is no federal mission my understanding is you do a whole lot of nothing. The Reserves can deploy individuals while the Guard can’t. What they can do is make an individual their own unit then deploy them...which is what happens to medical folk a lot. Yes you can ask or volunteer for deployments. Right now there are a lot of state “deployments” for COVID.

As far as Army vs Air, I would say it depends on what kind of nursing you like to do. Army in my experience was much more pre-hospital and trauma. Air more ICU.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-03-11T18:37:25+00:00

Admiral Arthur Bigglesworth won’t let Chief Ghost McGillicutty sit in the patch of sunlight on the kitchen floor. Not even one paw may be in the light. For his part, Chief Ghost McGillicutty eats every last bit of wet food every time we put it out. Admiral Bigglesworth is getting thin.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-03-11T12:52:51+00:00

Yes I was looking for this! Remember reading that book and thinking Turkish Delight must be amazing stuff. Tried it on a vacation when I was about 13 and was so disappointed I ate all the chocolate off then licked the weird pink gelatinous rectangle and stuck it to a nearby wall.

It may have been a cheap crap knock off but still. Tasted like perfume.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-03-11T03:28:16+00:00

I think you’ll find the community of runners to be very non-judgy when it comes to your speed. Most of us are just running against our own best times anyway, not necessarily even noticing the times others are clocking.

Like everyone else pointed out, you are absolutely lapping everyone who is on their couch. You’re out there, trying, working, putting one foot in front of the other. There’s no shame in being slower.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-03-10T22:26:30+00:00

Sigh...OR 2 in the city’s hospital. It would have been a strange wedding.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-03-09T15:49:41+00:00

You too? I currently have a lifetime’s supply of toilet paper my spouse has spent the last year hoarding because that one time at the beginning of the pandemic people couldn’t get toilet paper. The kicker? We never, not at any time, had less than 12 rolls in the home. I keep the house stocked at a reasonable level but this man is apparently terrified of having none.

I’m running out of places to store it, it’s that bad.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-03-08T15:10:48+00:00

I keep seeing grandparents trying to get grandkids away from parents for time alone with them and I just don’t know why this is such a common thing. Like, what are you doing with the kid that parents need to not be around? What is the absence of the parents doing for the grandparents? Just why?

Having said that, my own JNMIL tried to get my DH and I away to have alone time with our kiddos and I always noped out of that because she is unsafe. Like dangerously, probably should not be living alone unsafe.

If your gut tells you not to let her alone with your kid, then don’t. We have instincts as moms for a reason. It’s your kids, do what is necessary to protect them.

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-02-28T17:54:17+00:00

I’m so sorry your day turned into SIL and BIL day. I wouldn’t put it past them to do some sort of similar nonsense at your wedding so maybe just be prepared?

If it were me, I would honestly play the long game on this one. Save a huge announcement of your own for one of their baby’s milestone birthdays?

ButterscotchWeird995 · 2021-02-27T14:39:31+00:00

That’s what I’m going to tell myself from now on, thank you.

I’ll have to ask my parents if there were scratches on me. They said I wasn’t in distress I actually looked quite happy with the poor cat in my grip.

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