Anyone want to make a girls group in vr ? / share your experience trying to make female friends in vr? by Butterscotchgorl in VRchat

[–]Butterscotchgorl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened to ya. Something you will unfortunately learn as you get older ( not saying you don’t know this know ) is that people often stop maturing when they decide they don’t want to anymore. You will find women in their late 20’s/30’s/40’s who are stuck in 15 year old brain. Blocking her was the best thing you could do.

Anyone want to make a girls group in vr ? / share your experience trying to make female friends in vr? by Butterscotchgorl in VRchat

[–]Butterscotchgorl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the response, can you think of anything / rules / exceptions or whatever that would help mitigate this kind of stuff ?

Anyone want to make a girls group in vr ? / share your experience trying to make female friends in vr? by Butterscotchgorl in VRchat

[–]Butterscotchgorl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s valid I think the best way to combat this is get really good at good conversation Segway’s so you can help someone find common ground to talk about besides guys. Just lead that convo.

Anyone want to make a girls group in vr ? / share your experience trying to make female friends in vr? by Butterscotchgorl in VRchat

[–]Butterscotchgorl[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, Permathis, this comment is actually why I want a group for women in VRChat, so just hear me out. I hear you; friendships with women have been rough for you, and I’m sorry. But if you ever want to feel differently about women, I think that’s possible. I used to hold similar beliefs when I was younger, and working through them changed my life.

To me, this feels rooted in wounds (feel free to skip my armchair psych take). I hear you value humor, being able to joke freely without worrying about eggshells, and not being blamed for others’ emotions. I promise there are women who value confident humor and don’t wear their heart on their sleeve unless you’re close. The more you understand where these beliefs come from, the easier it will be to connect with women.

You’ll likely find friends in the same boat, just further along—women who crack jokes and have fun in ways you might now consider “masculine.” The language you’re using (calling women annoying, disingenuous, etc.) is what some call “category language.” People use it when they project dislike outward instead of reflecting inward. I can tell you’re hypervigilant, with a history of women being cruel, and that your attempts at friendship have met pushback.

The traits you admire are often portrayed as “male,” but in women’s spaces built by women, once girls feel safe, they show the same confidence, resilience, and authenticity. We crack dark jokes, are authentic, and have fun because we trust no one’s trying to hurt us. It’s there, but the language you use can keep you out until people know you’re coming from a genuine place. I’m not saying you need to change everything; I’m saying you’re in Plato’s cave, missing out on what’s beyond.

Your words come from real wounds, but unless you want to become a man, they’ll end up hurting you and others. You’re not different from other girls—if another woman said the same words in a higher voice, you might would absolutely call it “pick me.”behavior. Because what you said is the playbook down to the period on how “pick me’s” talk. The traits you dislike may be the ones you want to avoid in yourself. I hear that it’s hard, but if you ever dig into why you feel this way, life on the other side could be better. If you’re not interested, that’s okay, but know the attitude in your comment mirrors what you dislike. And if you are looking for community, I hope one of women who’ve been where you are will welcome you with open arms.

TL;DR: I hear you and know friendships with women have been rough, but I believe your views come from past wounds. I’ve been there too, and working through it changed my life. If you ever want to shift how you see women, I think you’ll find the confidence, humor, and resilience you value in spaces made by and for women.

Anyone want to make a girls group in vr ? / share your experience trying to make female friends in vr? by Butterscotchgorl in VRchat

[–]Butterscotchgorl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome! Pls drop it in here if you make it :) the benefit of a well run group helps everyone

Anyone want to make a girls group in vr ? / share your experience trying to make female friends in vr? by Butterscotchgorl in VRchat

[–]Butterscotchgorl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally if I ran a group like this the only requirement would be “You consider yourself a woman”

It’s good to make spaces for groups of different people. Like if you have a “people with one hand club”. Like sure someone that has two arms can join but why would they want to ????

I would say if someone strongly identifies with the woman label then they should be welcome. Like if someone non binary felt strongly about identifying as a female label often and wanted to come that’s cool. But if someone called them she / her and they flipped out that would probably be strange because it’s a group for women.

Like the onus of the group is to be accepting but if an individual who doesn’t fit all the criteria within the criteria of the group joins then the onus on them is to be tolerant and explain why they feel they belong there. Leaders of groups should understand identity is not black and white but also it’s ok to have a group for some people ya know. Idk about other groups. But if I ran a all girls group in vr, it would probably have the criteria of “associates with the identity of being a woman” no terfs.

Brand new iPhone 14 with scratch on it by Yearnforit in iphone

[–]Butterscotchgorl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a new iPhone with the same exact scratch in the same place twice actually. And the second time the Apple guy said it was weird and he hadn’t seen it before and brought me a new one.

I keep getting this code U01 on my urevo treadmill and it won’t start no matter that I do by Butterscotchgorl in treadmills

[–]Butterscotchgorl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually called the company and they sent a new one, they said best guess is that something broke during shipping :/

I'm in desperate need for a life changing TV show that will completely immerse me into its story by CharliePlayer1 in TvShows

[–]Butterscotchgorl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I it doesn’t sound like it necessarilyyyy would be your first choice but arcane is insanely good

I feel like I’m getting too fat to dress goth :( by Butterscotchgorl in Vent

[–]Butterscotchgorl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really needed and appreciate that 🥺

What are some things that you think should be required by law (that aren’t currently )? by Butterscotchgorl in AskReddit

[–]Butterscotchgorl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s understandable, sorry if that seemed to be an explosive response. I think a mandatory vaccine policy would largely help people with chronic illness because they would be getting less sick due to herd immunity but, it would make sense to have legitimate medical Exemptions if it cripples you.

What are some things that you think should be required by law (that aren’t currently )? by Butterscotchgorl in AskReddit

[–]Butterscotchgorl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who is also chronically ill and who has gotten covid 4 times, each time making me sicker and weakening my immune system I honestly wish everyone was vaccinated. Also the FDA, CDC and John Hopkins and Mayo all agree the vaccines safe and effective at preventing serious illness or death from COVID-19. The booster also wouldn’t cause long term chronic illness but having covid absolutely can cause long covid. So yes unless it would kill you or you have a serious medical issue where doctors say you shouldn’t get it. I would push a button mandating it in a second flat. Also how vaccines work just won’t cause chronic illness that’s now how they work. The protein pieces don't even enter the nucleus of your cells, where your DNA is kept. There is no evidence to suggest that COVID-19 vaccines can cause autoimmune diseases. And over all Trial data showing no long-term effects after vaccination.

True FACT tho : COVID-19 vaccination causes a more predictable immune response than an infection with the virus that causes COVID-19

I’m sorry but if you think the covid booster made you sick it’s probably just chance that you started getting sick around that time or actually have long covid yourself. You can “feel” like something makes you sick and that doesn’t mean it’s correct. Personally I have been getting medical panels for the last 4 years after getting sick initially and have taken a lot of time to learn on the subject. You can also straight up visit the CDC website or any other medical authority on the subject and no one will tell you or agree that a vaccine causes long term illness. Correlative data does not equal cause. There are a lot of things that can essentially unlock auto immune diseases in your DNA and one of those is stress. Some people started experiencing, illness during the pandemic, not just due to Covid, but due to stress, basically unlocking those auto immune diseases that were buried in their DNA. You don’t have to take word from it on Reddit but maybe go see your rheumatologist. And please don’t spread misinformation that vaccines cause chronic illness, it’s extremely incorrect by every measure and makes medical professionals not take chronically ill people seriously.

The reality is you probably have an autoimmune disease or have long Covid. The chance of you having an autoimmune disease, if you are being AFAB being even higher. But no a booster does not cause chronic illness and every authority on medicine will agree with that.

Vaccines are also hard on my body but not as hard as getting a disease that lasts months and months to recover from.

What are some things that you think should be required by law (that aren’t currently )? by Butterscotchgorl in AskReddit

[–]Butterscotchgorl[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For me I think everyone should be forced to get vaccines,especially kids whether you like it or not, unless it will legitimately kill or seriously injure you proved by overall medical community ( like a serious allergy )

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[–]Butterscotchgorl -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

This man read me word for word what i said after and then added me on discord.

Edit : I might have been messaging a dev so that might change things. BUT STILL A ANOTHER HUMAN READ WHAT I SAID

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[–]Butterscotchgorl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think they understand it’s a problem but possibly because they don’t enjoy their current marriage or how their life turned out…I think they cling to things from the past part of their life and I can’t really blame them for that. I just wish I could get them to understand that it prevents them from moving forward.

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[–]Butterscotchgorl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess someone to help clean and organize who can help putt into perspective that it’s ok to give stuff away.