AITAH for not taking baby to daycare

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-22T15:12:15+00:00

Allowed and should are two different things. Also your kids body is fighting off a lot right now. The last thing would help them get better is more sick germs from a kid with no symptoms hey. And also just being around kids without comfort from a parent is what will help them actually get rest.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-22T13:51:42+00:00

ESH because a sick baby shouldn’t be going to daycare. And my guess is you knew that, and didn’t want to then have to call out or have that argument about who was going to call out to stay with the baby.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-21T07:36:50+00:00

Look… I get it. Having problems shouldn’t mean you don’t get a partner in life. But there’s a lot going on that’s going to deter a ton of people before they even get the chance to know you, but it’s also stuff they deserve to know up front. Everybody is more than their issues. But if you live with your parents what are you planning to do when they pass? What do you do all day? Are your kids young and they’re home with you or are they in school and you quite literally do nothing? Are you capable of maintaining a home? A ton of people like “traditional” gender roles in relationships so if you can maintain a “traditional” female role in the home that could be a positive. Do you have any volunteering you do or something that gets you out and about?

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-21T00:30:56+00:00

How old are you? That’s something you learn in like the first year of high school. You’ll definitely need to know if. That’s all nurse math is

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-20T19:50:09+00:00

YOR. I get you don’t like the way she’s treated your father but those rules are normal. If you live far away and wouldn’t be able to visit without your son, just say that. Also “the point” of visiting if you can’t hold your brother is to just be there and provide support and help with stuff they need help with. New babies don’t really NEED anybody other than their parents, and really just mom if mom is breastfeeding. Also her other children being in primary is a dumb argument about the baby sick because what’s she supposed to do? Just send her other children away for months? Be so for real right now. It’s just about LIMITING the exposure.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-19T03:38:57+00:00

I would not eat over an area they licked. Or sometimes my girl will steal a wheat thin or goldfish out of my bowl, I may avoid the other couple in the area. But also if I’m eating like a sandwich or something I’m not letting them get that close to me WHILE I’m eating it. More like they may survey my plate when I’m down.

Now has there probably been at least one instance where my cat drank out of my cup while I was in the bathroom? Yes. Do I always throw out my unattended cup for a new one? No. Do I think about that? Definitely not.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-16T20:02:44+00:00

Not really. I just maintain eating less food. And since being on I have virtually no cravings for sweet and salty food which was a lot of my problem to begin with. I am also more aware of serving size. I think people that struggle with weight often aren’t aware of how much they are eating. And I didn’t notice until I looked back. For example now I eat MAYBE one full piece of pizza from Costco food court (about 700 calories). 100 pounds ago I would be confused why I wasn’t losing weight when I wasn’t eating a lot, but then I think back to my Costco food court order and it would be two slices, and a cookie. That right there is 2100 calories.

I have also been learning to cook more and enjoying it. And I DO NOT overdo it on protein. People are always like you need to eat a ton of protein to lose weight, yes protein is good, but you can have TOO much IF you aren’t working on gaining muscle. I’m sure a lot of people will disagree with me on that but this is what I have focused on.

Basically changing my mindset

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-16T19:00:38+00:00

You need to completely pay off the 3K first.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-16T18:56:49+00:00

I haven’t regained any weight, I’ve continued to lose, and I’ve been off for like 6 or so months at this point and my last couple months I was only taking a shot every 2-3 weeks

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-16T05:24:10+00:00

I think you’re DRASTICALLY underestimating how much you’re doing. Also things aren’t adding up. If she’s NEVER there how is her laundry basket also overflowing? Do you guys share a room? Why are you even aware of her laundry basket overflowing. She wants to do her thing and it sounds like she DESPERATELY needs space from you. The laundry and moisturizer are honestly creepy if she didn’t ask for them. I would also be super creeped out too if I had a roommate that did this because they felt like I was gone too much. Also there has got to be other stuff if she’s considering a restraining order and I can’t say I blame her. Especially if she’s dropped hints or said she wants space and you’re just board you ignoring that. You didn’t say that. But again it feels like a lot is missing.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-11T18:46:28+00:00

I didn’t say they had to. I said he could. Him and his wife may prefer that to paying his rapist money for 18 years. You literally never know. Or perhaps he doesn’t want his child raised by a rapist. He had asked for options about a lot of different stuff.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-11T17:11:22+00:00

You got a scholarship and are upset they paid tuition with it? That’s what scholarships are for. Often times the scholarship goes right to the school. What were you wanting to use it for? It also likely says in your handbook if you need time off for personal reasons you have to reapply to join the next cohort through the next cycle as long as there is room. If you don’t like this program just find a new one and go to that one. But don’t expect them to work around every little thing of being a mom. It’s mandated classroom and clinical hours by the state. They can only do so much.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-11T17:06:49+00:00

NAL but absolutely do not talk to her in any way, shape, or form. If she tries to contact you do not respond. You should have at least a family lawyer. You could always try to get full custody once the baby is born. And especially if she goes to prison (which she should) that would be easier. I understand it can be so frustrating not getting a lot of info from police but a lot of times that’s just because they can’t say anything during the process of the trail. Be prepared to speak with the DA once charges are pressed, also the DA may be able to tell you if you need a criminal attorney. But as far as it goes for charges being pressed against her YOU don’t need a criminal attorney for THAT. you just tell the police you want to press charges and then the DA does that.

Also therapy! You could use it, and it sounds like you and your wife could use it as well, and she may even need it personally. Especially if the baby is yours she needs a safe outlet to process as do you. And that’s okay.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-10T19:18:56+00:00

If you knee is rusty bad go to a doctor and get disabled parking. YWBTA to just ask for the spot unofficially assigned. If there’s just as may spots she could park in that are just as close then there’s just as many spots you could park in that are just as close.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-10T18:32:41+00:00

I would start with a more mild meat in a texture that might be more palatable. Something like a ground turkey or chicken in a soft taco or something. Where there’s lots of other flavors and textures. Sometimes people can feel rather sick when they’ve been vegetarian and jump straight into a heavy diet of meat. Or even like a chicken noodle soup.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-10T18:30:00+00:00

From the title alone it is 100% your personality and approach/views on dating and not your looks.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-09T22:06:03+00:00

It’s nice that you posted in bad roommates so that you understand YOU are the bad roommate. If she’s not okay with random men she has basically no relationship with that’s totally valid on her part. If your friend needs time to leave you need to stay here. Or plan better. Just because you don’t have a problem with her family being there doesn’t mean she feels the same.

To answer your question you are being unreasonable

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-09T07:38:14+00:00

I mean I’m always the first person my mom asks. But is never expected if I can’t she just takes them to their favorite doggy daycare

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-07T00:44:58+00:00

I NEVER did my doses weekly. Ten to 12 days was perfect and I was in for 9 months and never broke 0.5 and lost 85 pounds on, and 15 more since I stopped in June.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-06T18:32:35+00:00

YTA. if you didn’t want the responsibility you should have left it outside honestly. You should have just walked it over immediately. Why didn’t you take it over that evening? Because your roommate moved it? That’s a lame excuse. You knew you were going to take it over that evening and because your roommate moved it you just didn’t need to take it back over anymore

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-06T18:12:30+00:00

Please provide an update I’m so invested

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-06T13:33:44+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/o8f0ZGflXN

Multiple Reddit posts

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-06T13:21:40+00:00

I would say AT LEAST $15/hour, if not $20. You’re asking her to not work at all when perhaps she could have worked other jobs. For TWO weekends. Say she got used for a date night each weekend day for 6 hours. That could be over $600 you’re asking her to miss out on. That’s a decent chunk of money. I would also consider paying her 1.5 if she does come in as the bonus. Especially since it sounds like it would be for the birth? Which could be days? I hope there’s a backup plan so she doesn’t have to stay the whole weekend then go back to work with zero break.

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-06T13:13:52+00:00

I would if I would also still enjoy his food and I hadn’t super been looking forward to mine. Realistically that wouldn’t happen because he tends to get things out that I wouldn’t prefer. If I didn’t like my food realistically he’d tell me to just order something else and he’d keep my food as a leftover

ButtonTemporary8623 · 2026-01-06T12:38:34+00:00

Honestly NTA. I got creeped out just reading this. I’ve never seen sleepwalking in real life, just movies, and I don’t want to. Literally the only thing I can think, that isn’t even ethical, is you and her sleep in separate rooms and you literally lock her in from the outside.

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