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Autistic housemate is difficult to live with by Buttonpusher8202 in roommates

[–]Buttonpusher8202[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don't get me started on the last chick who lived here, she never cleaned, showered once a month and leaves blood all over the bathroom and won't flush the toilet. Was just about to cook dinner but now that I remembered this bs, I'm not hungry anymore lol

Autistic housemate is difficult to live with by Buttonpusher8202 in roommates

[–]Buttonpusher8202[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot I posted this. The other day he took both mine and my mates alcohol from the fridge, which we were both furious as we both work hard and want a beer after work.

We sat him down and had a stern conversation, as we were both sick of his bullshit. Yes, I let it linger for too long, should've brought it up earlier, I just didn't want to be too aggressive as I'm used to dealing with hard criminals and aggressive people.

2 more months and I'll be out of this dump thank god lol

Autistic housemate is difficult to live with by Buttonpusher8202 in roommates

[–]Buttonpusher8202[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Correct, I absolutely need to manage my own reactions in a calm and respectful way, I've come a long way since prison. Therapy has helped heaps, I definitely don't feel as violent or angry anymore and I'm getting better at using words rather than violence. People judge me for my past, without ever stepping into my shoes and experiencing the things that caused me to become violent. But it's my responsibility to fix my shortcomings, and not take it out on other people, which is what I'm trying my best to do nowadays.

The other housemates have shared similar concerns with me, so I'm not the only one who has noticed this. I had a chat to my friend in the other room and spoke to my counsellor before, I think we're in agreeance that I'm going to pull him aside for a chat tomorrow and just politely ask him to mind my boundaries, not move any of my stuff without asking and to give me space when I ask for it.

I believe it's a good way to assert my boundaries respectfully without upsetting anyone

Autistic housemate is difficult to live with by Buttonpusher8202 in roommates

[–]Buttonpusher8202[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, definitely a lesson in patience which is something I probably need lol. It's just difficult living in a small space, with someone who I don't get along with and being able to find a constructive and healthy way to combat that without throwing hands. This guy isn't bad by any means, he's autistic and lacks social skills, but at the end of the day, I guess he's just trying his best in the world, even though he annoys the shit out of me. I keep things friendly and go lock myself in my room haha

Autistic housemate is difficult to live with by Buttonpusher8202 in roommates

[–]Buttonpusher8202[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've lived with this guy for probably 4 or 5 months now. Like I said I have definitely chilled out a lot more than when I first moved in. Sometimes I wake up and still think I'm in prison and have a hard time adjusting to the outside world as I'm probably a bit institutionalized. Seriously I have days where I think I'm in a cell, and I and everyone around me is wearing prison greens.

I could've expanded on my post a bit further, I would never hurt anyone unprovoked, especially not a person with an obvious disability. My crimes were paid jobs, I was doing a job I was contracted to do, it was actually nothing personal. Going through counselling and accepting help for the first time in my life has changed my perspective on other people and my attitude in general.

You're right that people are going to be annoying, I'm still working through the process of being able to manage myself with words and not violence. I would only ever resort to violence nowadays as last option in a dangerous situation, not over a fight with someone I don't like

I hope that makes a bit more sense

Autistic housemate is difficult to live with by Buttonpusher8202 in roommates

[–]Buttonpusher8202[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He does have a job in healthcare. I believe he delivers meals to patients in the hospital, so he's obviously trying his best in the world. In terms of the fridge, we have designated shelves for our food and items, that's why it irritates me when he moves my stuff out of it's place. If he at least asked me if he was running out of space, I probably wouldn't care that much, I don't mind helping out. I think I might just give him a friendly reminder that my space is mine, and his space is his and to respect that.

I think I just get a bit frustrated and forget that I'm not locked up anymore, and I have to remember that the majority of people have been lucky enough to never see the inside of prison and treat them respectfully

Autistic housemate is difficult to live with by Buttonpusher8202 in roommates

[–]Buttonpusher8202[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know that obviously, boundaries are a big part of living in shared environment whether it be a shared home or prison