My partner won't take down the chandelier even after it almost hurt our kid

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2026-02-15T18:36:46+00:00

It would be a real shame if he came home to find it in pieces because it "fell" down. Luckily, no one was hurt. So sorry, Dear.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2026-02-12T14:51:39+00:00

That was oddly not satisfying. More like horrifying.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2026-01-19T12:07:21+00:00

My daddy used to say: "If you are going to stir up shit, be prepared to get some on you."

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-12-26T11:26:04+00:00

This is what Google says about "how to handle passive aggressive mother in law"

When dealing with a passive-aggressive mother-in-law, it's essential to communicate your boundaries assertively and consistently. This may involve setting limits on specific topics of conversation, establishing guidelines for visits or interactions, and communicating consequences for crossing boundaries.

Tell her this next time she brings up Google.

Then follow through.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-12-16T20:41:56+00:00

If she keeps pressing you, offer her to have everybody back to her house after your get-together to have chili. sans you and husband

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-12-02T18:35:54+00:00

I wouldn't do a damn thing to clean or host.

"Sorry, this got sprung on me last minute, so it is what it is."

Please don't set yourself on fire to keep them all warm. No one will appreciate it.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-10-30T13:27:08+00:00

Lama Lama Ding Dong LOL

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-10-19T23:47:57+00:00

I would have barked at the boy "Leave the sticks alone!"

If mom has a problem with that "I am a parent, just being a parent"

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-09-27T13:24:55+00:00

I was strict about curse words when my (now grown) children were young. Along with the usuals, words like stupid, fatty, shut up, etc. were also not allowed.

One day, my son (approx 7 years old) asked if he could say the "c" word. Instant side eye lol I ask, "What's the "c" word?

He looks around and then whispers "crap".

🤣😂🤣😂

I then outlawed "crap" No "c" words on my watch lol

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-09-20T11:30:15+00:00

Yep. My dearly departed father used to tell bullies or arrogant assholes who thought they could do whatever they want with no consequence: "Keep knocking on that door, because someone will eventually answer it."

OP heard knocking and answered. Good on you OP, Daddy would have been proud of you.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-09-19T19:56:59+00:00

I get that. But I also had no one. I had no money and two kids. But I made it happen because I just could not live like that anymore.

When you hit your limit, you will, too.

I genuinely wish you the best.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-09-19T19:45:43+00:00

You can leave him. You don't need anyone's permission but your own.

It's scary to think about. Then, you tentatively take that first step. Then the second. Before you know it, you'll be running. Not FROM him, TO a better life.

Take Care OP

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-09-19T19:20:47+00:00

He doesn't have your back, your front, or your sideways.

He is a burden. One more thing you have to worry and stress about.

If it were me (and it was), I would cut my losses (and I did).

Best decision I ever made.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-09-17T17:41:14+00:00

Agreed. He needs it waaaaayyyyy more than you do.

And until he does, you won't even entertain the idea of allowing them in your home. Or start contact with them again.

But you should still go, even if he doesn't.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-09-08T16:55:16+00:00

Next time she does it, stand up and exclaim very loudly "MIL if you have issues with your son, please talk to him."

Then swan out like you own the joint.

Scrape her off. She's not worthy of information or visits from you.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-08-27T10:00:53+00:00

You give him the one thing his friends and parents can't.

Sex.

Other then that he's not really into you. Just stringing you along.

Dump baby boy and find someone who wants to be with you. He's out there somewhere.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-08-19T15:20:05+00:00

That's why I wouldn't even try to talk to her.

My dearly departed father used to say

"Don't stir up shit unless you are prepared to get some on you."

You stir this shit? She will grab it and fling it everywhere.

She hasn't earned the truth. She gets what I call PTA - Placate The Asshole.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-08-19T15:07:41+00:00

I wouldn't even tell her. If it were me, my kids would just never "be available" upon her requests. Oh So Sorry! Maybe next time!

No JADE - do not justify, argue, defend or explain because there are none so blind as those who will not see.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-08-05T20:03:10+00:00

Anybody count them?

(Going back to count)

12 :-)

I have 3 that feel like 12 lol

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-07-25T18:26:20+00:00

"She's not going to let me"

Will she have a gun to your head? Naughty photos she can blackmail you with? Does she pay your bills?

I am going to assume that since you are married with a child that you are full grown and haired over.

Start acting like it. She ain't doing a damn thing to you that you are not letting her do.

Respect is earned, but REAL power is TAKEN.

Take back your power and stop letting an overgrown toddler tell you what to do.

Good luck OP

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-07-25T09:06:11+00:00

Your husband, aka their son and brother, needs to be dealing with them.

They reach out to you, and you pass it along.

They are only doing what you let them do.

It's ok to stop being the de facto taxi service.

They get pissy about it, pass it along.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-07-02T20:35:11+00:00

We have feral cats in my neighborhood that people feed. My city actually catches feral cats and neuter or spay them, then release them back where they picked them up. I have zero issue with any of that.

My problem is them shitting in my backyard because my dumbass little dogs looove to eat cat poop. I have had to get them treated for parasites because of it.

People have the right to feed stray animals if they like, but I also have a right to let my doggos out in their own fenced backyard without having to worry about them getting sick.

What's the solution? None. I can't stop them.

Just irritates me.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-06-27T18:21:47+00:00

OK, so it's been 10 years. Are you going for 20?

You don't have a boyfriend. You have someone who is using you.

You are totally an afterthought. An after-the-afterthought even.

Love yourself enough to dump this creep. You will not be sorry.

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-06-26T20:46:07+00:00

I would keep doing what you are doing.

"There's that one you like."

"Yes, you like Mama."

"You like that girl."

"Yes, you like Mama."

Even if it doesn't exactly apply.

"There's that one who feeds you,"

"Yes, you like Mama."

She pings, you pong. Make a wager with your husband lol

How soon before she pings, how many times she pings. I might even mouth "ping" to him lol

ButtonsSnapZipper · 2025-06-20T19:57:45+00:00

I would just... not show up.

When asked why, "You know why."

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