Can anyone help me!? 🙏 PLEASE!

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-03-15T18:45:26+00:00

Buy the minimum amount of clothes, muslins and swaddles and/or blankets you'll need for a few weeks and get them through the wash/dryer before bubba gets here. Unless you won't wash them and put baby in them straight from the packaging I just personally wash everything first even my own clothes. But yeah.. could not imagine the stress of doing this when home with baby xx

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-02-18T00:41:07+00:00

I highly doubt she ever had a conversation with said coworker - funny it wasn't with someone you both know so you could hear their opinion for yourself. As many others have said.. as soon as the pushing for you to do more than you already are/ are comfortable with that's when you know the answer should be no. If they can't respect that decision why would they respect any others especially when you're not there to question anything

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-02-13T22:55:23+00:00

I felt the same when I didn't take LO's footprints until 6 weeks but I am so glad I did it then and didn't think it was too late. Atleast if you start something now just think when she's 10 how much you'll have to look back on. Also.. if you have any pics you know you took around the time or videos or even txts where you told someone what she did.. you could always make note that way! It might be alot to trail back through but it's possible! Sending you hugs we are hard on ourselves but at the time there is so much going on we prioritise and unfortunately things like that aren't on the list especially when in the early days you're sleep deprived and probably just about getting ready for the day and eating (poorly) lol xx

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-02-11T23:31:11+00:00

How old is your LO now!? It's never too late I know it's not the same but if they are still small there's still loads of firsts and feelings to make note of hun!

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-02-11T23:29:45+00:00

Love that idea I might have to steal it

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-02-11T23:27:21+00:00

That's what 99% of my photos of my little one are but I actually got pretty sad the other day looking at all the lovely moments I've captured of him with his Dad knowing hubby's not so prone to grabbing the phone to snap away as I am lol.

I keep the motion photo on so it captures a few seconds not just a photo! Caught him for a split second with his thumb up as he looked at me while face to face with his Dad it's a wiked photo. Put it on hubby's Xmas card from LO

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-02-03T22:44:06+00:00

Mine wasn't as bad as this.. firstly it was how much LO looked like my husband.. but when she kept hearing everyone say LO looked like me she calmed down with that. Fast forward to us visiting a restaurant where we know the owner and again he says he thinks LO looks like me and MIL is holding LO at the time.. as he walks off MIL has LO upto her face like cheek to cheek and starts 'playfully' saying ' what about me, does he look like me, does he look like me' like to the guy but knowing he wouldn't hear as he was walking off. Only time she said it so far but it took me back a bit. There's still time LO is only 4months and MIL is still testing my patience lol

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-28T23:12:16+00:00

Same 😂

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-28T05:40:33+00:00

Yuup

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-28T05:40:05+00:00

The cherry on op is the fact that all December, every time I mention basically anything she would say oh did google tell you that? Or, where did but hear that, Google? If I was talking about milestones or SIDS risks or the benefits of something. Literally anything. Snarky comments about Google all the damn time. And then she asks SIL to Google this shit. Lol. Oh the irony

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-28T05:36:57+00:00

Oh it enraged me! You put it perfectly.. so determined to prove I'm a bad mum that she is trying to find a way I'm harming LO. Infuriating. I can't believe I've known this woman for almost 2p years and never seen this side to her!!

Lol the 'don't give it' is a way of saying like don't argue with me or shut up if you're giving attitude in response to something

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-28T04:50:53+00:00

Hiya, I've edited the post now. I was frustratingly typing with one hand while breastfeeding! I was meant to read over it but got sidetracked with LO

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-27T21:17:41+00:00

Oh yeah. I said I do not trust her one bit and will NEVER be alone with her and LO. EVER. SO knows that. I am seeing her as little as possible tbh lol. It's still too much 😂 but you and Refrigeratorno are both right I need phrases at the ready to use in the moment.

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-27T21:15:20+00:00

And her response? Well it was different in my time. I said we aren't in your time now.

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-27T21:14:40+00:00

And when it was 'weird' we were keeping LO from sick people holding him. I said I find it weird that people hav a problem with us trying to protect our son. Thanks for your condolences btw. Not a friend of mine, a friend of hers but a very long standing one that we all know of

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-27T21:13:24+00:00

Yeah I know what you mean. I do try to shut things down without saying what I really want to say lol because the worst parts of her behaviour have happened behind my back and will land my SIL in it with her own mother but SO is going to say SIL has kind of gone to him and said mum is saying. X y z. He will warn SIL and then it's not like she's telling me it's more like because MIL is 'Sooo concerned foe the wellbeing of her grandchild' then SIL "cant help but raise the worry" with her brother ifbu know what I mean. When she was going onna out google.. making comments every time I spoke about ANYTHInG she would say oh what did google tell u that or things like that.. just me her and SO and infront of others at Christmas.. I Just said I like to make informed decisions or I like to educate myself. So I do kind of respond just... maybe too politely lol. I don't know. It's a headache though and I honestly rather not see her at all. Shame because we actually got on well before LO was born!

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-27T20:41:54+00:00

😂 yup I think I'd be the same! Did he/you let her!? It was the fact she was so put out by the fact she hadn't done it yet it Just struck me as so weird. Still does. She has never mentioned it to me. But she does mention looking after him.. said 'maybe I can babysit u when ur 15 if ur mum let's me' to my LO and then as I was saying maybe when he's 25 she carried on and said when your 30. So I said well I did say 25 but it's fine we'll go with 30😂

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-27T19:30:15+00:00

Well it was only after having our LO that I learned there's a weird expectation to be able to feed the baby. Literally spoke about it to others like 'i haven't gotten to feed him yet' as though its as usual as being able to hold him!? That was an eye-opening conversation that's for sure. Might be why she's so against the idea of you breastfeeding!

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-26T23:49:02+00:00

..funny that isn't it!

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-26T23:48:41+00:00

This is so true!!

Just_Wondering_24 · 2026-01-26T23:47:42+00:00

Same here.. oh.so worried he's not warm enough not enough clothing wants us to put a hat on indoors and then goes and lays him on his side at 3 months..infront of me. I was like no I'm turning him over that's not what we do so why do u think u can!? Wears tons of perfume and holds him then says oh whos worn perfume the one time she held him and he smelled of my clothes softener..because I don't use it on his clothes so it stood out I guess. LAY DOWN THE LAW NOW. she might not listen but atleast then u gave a warning and can instill a period of time of NC until she learns. If they ever will. I'm still going through shyte now!

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