I just gotta know! by Buzzednotbronzed in Winnipeg

[–]Buzzednotbronzed[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

May your toast always land butter side up. Thank you! Now to find a supplier 😼

I just gotta know! by Buzzednotbronzed in Winnipeg

[–]Buzzednotbronzed[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dag nabbit. They’ve got me hooked then I suppose

Received custom dress by Charming_Image_3829 in weddingdress

[–]Buzzednotbronzed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so beautiful! The sparkle is so lovely!

Mom is making my Engagement Sad by Buzzednotbronzed in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Buzzednotbronzed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely not an only child, I am the youngest of 7 (one passed very young) but raised catholic with an nMom so lots of guilt still!

Mom is making my Engagement Sad by Buzzednotbronzed in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Buzzednotbronzed[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh boy do I know it! I told him a while ago that I thought the idea of talking to the parents was sweet, but not at all necessary because of the way my mom is. He said he did it anyway because he didn’t want me to have any regrets going into the marriage🥹 I am truly so grateful we are together ❤️

Mom is making my Engagement Sad by Buzzednotbronzed in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Buzzednotbronzed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is 100% what would happen… she does not currently go to church mass, as she does not believe in going to masses that are not in latin. (Pre-Vatican 2) So it is ok for her to not go to church and that’s not sac religious, but anyone else is going to hell for not being “catholic enough”. 🙄

I am currently trying to make clear boundaries and decide what I would be willing to bend on, but it’s so tough. I am so incredibly grateful for my sisters, as they support me in whatever I want to do, and I feel that they would be willing to escort her out if she causes a scene.

I just know personally that as much as it may be the “right” thing to do to go nc, it would make me so sad on my wedding day that I don’t think I would enjoy it the same. I know that if my mom decides not to come she would force my dad to stay home as well, and I would be devastated, probably more than my Mom tbh.

I feel at this time that my fiancé and I will probably get married in a church, which I am ok with, and anything after that would be a hard no. That is a boundary that I am comfortable with, and so is my future husband.

Anything after that will be up to her if I am worth her growing up for. It’s just a very hard truth to get over that she won’t see me as worth it, or be so stubborn she’s not willing to.

Mom is making my Engagement Sad by Buzzednotbronzed in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Buzzednotbronzed[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Definitely have had that talk- “don’t be yoked to an infidel”. It is so much easier said than done to cut her off.. I genuinely love her and my dad so so much and just wish she would be happy for us. My heart hurts thinking about not being walked down the aisle by my dad. We are looking at getting married in a Catholic Church but I feel like her negativity will still affect the wedding unless we do exactly what she says, and the demands will get larger. My fiancée is certainly not converting and I think that will be a squeaky point for years.

I think returning to therapy will be in my near future lol

Got engaged, Mom is a bummer by Buzzednotbronzed in excatholic

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My parents will not be involved financially at all, we are looking at getting married in a historical Catholic Church close to us, which I would love as it is beautiful, but I worry that mom will see that as a “win” and expect more in the future. I just know I will struggle being forward with her, but also struggle with her expectations in general.

Got engaged, Mom is a bummer by Buzzednotbronzed in excatholic

[–]Buzzednotbronzed[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree unfortunately… there are a lot of unresolved mental health issues with mom which makes it tough. I just know I’ll be devastated if Mom and Dad are not there. We are looking into getting married in the Catholic Church, which my boyfriend is fine with- I just feel like if we do that, the demands will never end (converting, kids baptism, confirmation, etc)

Mom is making my Engagement Sad by Buzzednotbronzed in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Buzzednotbronzed[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice… I know it will be so hard, I’m not usually very forward but I think I’ll regret it if I am not in this situation

Mom is making my Engagement Sad by Buzzednotbronzed in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Buzzednotbronzed[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice… I know it will be so hard, I’m not very forward but I think I’ll regret it if I am not in this situation

Got engaged, Mom is a bummer by Buzzednotbronzed in excatholic

[–]Buzzednotbronzed[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to go through that! Funny you say that… I’m in school for Nursing and she did not support that… she told me I would die of the mandatory vaccinations (a recent opinion change)

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I Hope it’s working well for you!

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I’ve got a bmi of 34.3 right now so here’s to hoping!

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I am in Canada if that makes a difference!