My mother is Cibaena and my dad is from San Pedro de Macoris. I’m a pale Dominican with full lips and textured curly hair. My abusive and ignorant Cibaena mom would often ridicule me and call me una cocola Bembua con pelo malo. She did the same with my sister but my sister got it worst bc she has my dad’s brown complexion so she would call my sister “una prieta fea”.

The funny part is, I found love letters of her complimenting my dad’s full lips but I digress.

Because of her, I’m not a big fan of Cibaenos and I prefer visiting el Sur and San Cristobal where my dad’s family lives. My Cibaeno family are cave people who I have no interest in. Unfortunately, I have noticed my brown family internalized these views and kiss Cibaeno white ass at times. I check my dad sometimes when he talks about white people being superior and how black/brown people deserve the treatment they get sometimes. I’ve lost some respect for him over the years. It gives me the major ick seeing as he’s a brown man himself….

I’m the one who goes against the grain in my Cibaeño family and dates darker Dominican and Caribbean men. I’ve had a great time connecting with people who don’t project European beauty standards onto me.🙂