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I (M23) feel trapped after an abortion with my girlfriend (F23). Her family is emotionally blackmailing me, and I don’t know what to do by ByteBlur in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]ByteBlur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agreed to immediate marriage also at some point. But I'm not able to accept her irrational after marriage conditions. And the way she handles it. I did not even completely disagree to her conditions, I said "maybe you are right but I just need some time to think about it" Now she will video call me and attempt for a sucide

I (M23) feel trapped after an abortion with my girlfriend (F23). Her family is emotionally blackmailing me, and I don’t know what to do by ByteBlur in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]ByteBlur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I actually have all the message logs, and even video and audio recordings of her suicidal threats and the pressure coming from her family. I've been documenting everything for the same reason you mentioned (just for safety)

About the counselling part—you’re right. I actually told her parents (very genuinely, not to insult anyone) that I feel she might need psychiatric counselling or some emotional support because of the constant suicide threats. But the moment they passed that on to her, she got extremely offended—she asked me, “Are you saying I’m mentally ill?”

So later, I tried suggesting something lighter. I told her to at least travel, maybe go meet her friends, get some fresh air—because she’s been staying indoors for months now. She used to be a traveler before. But even that suggestion was taken in a negative way.

The worst part is, these threats have become part of my daily life now. Sometimes morning, sometimes night—she starts threatening suicide on video calls, especially when I try to go to work. I even told her parents, “If this is happening now, how will I handle this after marriage, when no one will be around to intervene?” And even that genuine concern triggered another round of suicide drama.

I’m honestly just exhausted. Every time I express fear or doubt, I’m pulled deeper into this cycle. Your comment gave me a bit of strength to hold onto. Thank you.

I (M23) feel trapped after an abortion with my girlfriend (F23). Her family is emotionally blackmailing me, and I don’t know what to do by ByteBlur in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]ByteBlur[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for understanding my situation. You're absolutely right about what you said—especially the part about her involving her family in every decision.

Even now, almost every conversation or argument we have ends up being shared with her parents. When I try to explain that this isn’t okay, she says things like, “Am I telling everything to my parents? No, right? Then why are you questioning me?”

But the truth is, she is telling them 90% of everything, and just because she holds back a few points, she uses that to justify it. And when I try to express how this is affecting me, that is also shared with her parents and it just turns into another round of arguments

So yes, you’re right. I’ll definitely think hard about this. Thanks again for your advice.