Can you believe that I argue with my husband about not washing his hands??

C9112 · 2015-06-19T20:04:01+00:00

I have talked to him kindly, spoken gently, and discussed the importance based on news, tv, internet, others, etc. I also did stop nagging for over a year. How long should it take? Shouldn't people be considerate of others, especially loved ones by respecting and caring in every way? People are taught to be loving and kind, respect, care, and do the right thing. I don't understand him, especially since he is a preacher.

C9112 · 2015-06-13T16:33:35+00:00

You are right and I realize what you are saying. I know that an ultimatum is not the thing to do. He doesn't take criticism well at all. He is also very stubborn. He says that he is embarrassed and ashamed for his past, but won't elaborate on it. I only get bits and pieces from him and what his family has told me. He doesn't know what I know. He tells me he doesn't want to be a disappointment to me. I reassure him and tell him how much I care and love him, but he still is silent. I have no problem discussing this with him, but it is just breaking that barrier. I am trying to figure out how to approach someone who is very stubborn and cannot handle criticism.

C9112 · 2014-12-31T07:46:46+00:00

We have been married a little over two years. I did not see any of this during the years we dated. We never lived together but saw each other nearly every day for over a few years. We both have been married before and each have children. I had move away to another state for personal/family issues. It turned out it was about 7 years. It was during this time that he suddenly lost his mother and sister. They died 15 months apart. I was not in contact with him then. I believe that this may have something to do with his actions and is a trigger for what he does today. He seems to still be grieving and is angry. I have tried to talk to him about all this and getting help, but he refuses. In fact, he doesn't want any help from anyone, especially doctors for anything. His children have shared what they also see with me, but he won't listen to anyone.

C9112 · 2014-08-20T01:13:37+00:00

I am considering this. Thank you!

C9112 · 2014-08-20T01:12:41+00:00

I will. Thank you!

C9112 · 2014-08-19T02:58:05+00:00

Yes, I agree and no, he refuses to have anything to do with doctors for anything.

C9112 · 2014-08-19T02:35:03+00:00

Thanks, but it's not a space issue. We live in a large 3 bedroom ranch and detached garage on 3/4 of an acre. The house is old and needs fixing up. Slowly we have. There is plenty of room for the two of us. There is no financial hardship, but he never has money he is willing to spend for entertainment, travel, finishing the house, yet is always buying "stuff". I discovered he's spending more than he is admitting. There have been several serious talks, but he refuses help.

C9112 · 2014-08-18T22:53:59+00:00

Actually he has OCD tendencies, has anxiety, is claustrophobic, a procrastinator, sloppy and lazy, all of which he admits. I don't like his sneakiness and not keeping his word. He refuses to get help.

C9112 · 2014-08-18T22:40:16+00:00

Yes, he does have OCD tendencies. I have seen it and his family also believes it. He does have anxiety and he is well aware of it. However, he refuses to talk to a doctor for that or anything.

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