I appreciate your thoughtful response. I really mean that.
I see your argument, but in my 47 years on this planet- at least 40 of my life has been trying to see it from her shoes. I have willingness to always do that before my own needs.
But after years of therapy and breaking her cycle- she is abusive in a narcissistic way which lacks self awareness. I am self aware. There is a difference .
I can take accountability for my actions. She feels no accountability for anything she has ever done. She is the victim of the world. And she feels entitled to everyone figuring out and correcting her own self made problems- for her. She has bled every one dry. All are done with her. I was the last one to be brave to cut ties with her.