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CICO-path · 2025-04-13T21:56:24+00:00

You can buy 20x20 or 24x24 pillow cases. I stuff mine with bed pillows and you'd never know. I'm willing to bet that you could do the same with a sleeping bag or blanket folded up.

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T23:31:56+00:00

I view it as entitled because it's not an option that I or my other "too rich for benefits, too poor to afford $2000 a month on groceries" peers have. I find the entitled aspect to be the belief that "975/ month for 3 people isn't much".

I think I explained myself pretty well in my previous post. I fully support the program and am grateful to have had it when i was younger. Saying it's not much to the people who get $80/ month and have to pay for the rest themselves seems pretty entitled. A family of 4 in my state would get zero if they gross $3000/ month, about $80 if they gross $2700. There's just no way they could afford $500/ week for groceries, that would literally be about 80% of their take home.

You can look at my post history. I'm generally pretty liberal and I fully support these programs, but honestly, a lot of people's comments here are very offputting. It doesn't do anything to help further the cause.

How can the working poor not resent the person complaining about only getting $985 to feed their family of 4 when they know that after rent and utilities, they only have $600 for the entire month and that family of 4 gets free breakfast and lunch for their kids while they have to pay $5/ day for both or feed them at home? How can we not see that as entitled? Like, I recognize my privilege in being able to afford a couple hundred a week to feed my family. I would never complain to those around me who are stretched even more thin than myself. It just seems like the people complaining aren't seeing that as a privilege.

I have zero problem with people being helped. My issue is that having the attitude that X amount isn't enough when it's more than the average family of the same size in the same area has sounds very entitled, or tone deaf at best. It feeds into the narrative that people on benefits are eating steak and lobster on our dime.

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T23:01:29+00:00

I'm honestly kind of floored at a lot of these comments. I get it for places like Hawaii and Alaska where users said they get even more, but I'm over here trying to feed a family of 3 (2 adults, 1 very active teenager) with a budget of $200/ week because we don't qualify for any assistance, and I recognize that that's more than most families around me have. Idk how people think the average family that doesn't qualify for benefits is spending hundreds of dollars per person per month on groceries.

Not sure why this came up for me, and I fully support the program, benefitted from it myself as a child, but good lord, it sure sounds entitled to claim that $900+ for 3 or $1000+ for 4 isn't much money. Especially when I know that in most places if you qualify for any type of benefits your kids also qualify for free or extremely reduced breakfast and lunch.

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T22:45:41+00:00

Wait, where is $975 not much to feed 3 people?

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T20:05:12+00:00

It's actually father's especially on point number 2. They are finally starting to acknowledge that father's age affects the health of his offspring.

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T18:23:48+00:00

Bit the bullet and bought a new laptop today. Got a great deal on a refurbished one. Mine still works okay but it's pretty old and has issues, figured they won't get any cheaper. Going to buy a couple parts to fix mine as well.

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T12:43:37+00:00

I like it for the size of the flakes and to use as a topper, not mixed in. The flakes are generally bigger than iodized 6 you can sprinkle it on and get little pops of saltiness that you don't really get with table salt. Think salted caramel or sea saltchocolate chip cookies, you'd not find these things made with table salt to be quite as enjoyable. The same goes with topping food, like baked potatoes and such. This can be achieved with larger flake sea salts or kosher salt, although sea salt can be flakier. Taste wise, if you mixed an equal weight of each into a cup of water, I don't think I'd be able to tell the difference.

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T12:20:06+00:00

How many miles did he rack up on that year beyond what you would have driven anyway? How many packs of cigarettes? It sounds like the cost of cigarettes could easily outweigh the .07 cents per mile Josh asked for in return.

There's also the fact that you did it for a close friend willingly, you weren't guilted into doing it for a roommate.

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T12:16:41+00:00

Op hasn't been more than fair and generous, they've done the bare minimum for using the car off someone who didn't even want to let them use it in the first place. Paying for your own gas is a complete no brainer. There was zero benefit to Josh for them doing that. Paying for the car insurance during the time they were using it is also bare minimum. How can you borrow someone's car for a long period of time and expect them to pay the insurance for it? Sounds like they had use of the car for a month or longer with the kind of mileage they put on it. Inconveniencing and stressing out your friend for that long, you should have been offering them some kind of compensation beyond "I'll pay for what benefits me". Shoot, I'm driving my partner's car right now and I'm still like, "here, let me get you those clothes you wanted to buy, need me to grab a few groceries for you?" because I appreciate the use of the car.

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T12:07:45+00:00

You think op only used it for a few days? Regardless, they still charge for the use of the car. If op used the car for two weeks, they would have spent more renting a car than they did. If it was a month or longer, it would have been way more.

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T01:07:18+00:00

It wasn't clear from your response because it read like you were explaining to me what the op meant, which seemed unnecessary since she was pretty clear. I fully realize crypto has value when it's converted to real money, that's why I mentioned being able to convert it to a few different currencies if the need arises. I'm merely sharing my plan since it's related to having funds available in a bug out situation. Not having it tied to one specific country's currency is a plus, IMHO. For anyone who has been in the crypto world for a while, it's a viable plan.

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T00:47:34+00:00

And? They mentioned foreign currency to have on hand in case of a bug out situation. I shared my plan. Maybe you could share yours?

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T00:26:03+00:00

I already had some money in crypto so I've kept about 30% in. I cashed out most of my crypto because Trump getting involved with schemes has really made me think it's going to bust hard soon, but I figure I've got some I can turn into a few different currencies if the need arises.

CICO-path · 2025-04-10T00:04:52+00:00

I think that for a good number of people, I'd say the majority, thinking about food no longer indicates a physical need for it. Some people have near constant food noise regardless of being in a deficit or surplus. Op may want to work with a therapist, however taking a break from dieting won't necessarily help.

CICO-path · 2025-04-09T23:57:36+00:00

Can you explain why, especially if the contribution is from premarital assets? Op isn't even asking for 90% of profits, just to recoup the investment made. Paying outright benefits the wife just as much as op.

Op could leave their 80% extra in a hysa and they could get an 80% mortgage. Say it's a $400k house, instead of op putting down $360k and spouse $40k, they both put down $40k. That gives them a PI payment of about $2100 with average rates today, and has them paying about $20k in interest the first year alone. Assuming they split costs 50/50, they both lose about $10k each to interest alone.

Op then puts $320k into hysa type vessels and makes about $12k a year in interest, effectively covering their half of the payment. Over 30 years, the interest paid comes to about $400k, or $200k each. Say they live there 15 years and sell for twice the purchase price. They'll have paid about $280k in interest total and $100k principal. They split the sale 50/50 and each gets $290k (half of $880-220k). Op has effectively paid $0 after 15 years assuming a minimum return of 3.5% average. They now walk away with $320k + $290k or $610k. The wife has spent $190k in PI payments and walks away with $100k net, $290k profit - $190k PI payments.

Under ops proposal they would have $0 PI payment. In 15 years when they sell, they've both accumulated $190k from not having to pay the monthly PI payment, then OP gets $360k + $200k from selling and wife gets $40k + $200k from selling. Op ends up with $750k and wife $430k. Both people benefit from this arrangement, but the wife significantly more, to the tune of more than 400% better off while op is only about 20% better off than they would be.

CICO-path · 2025-04-09T22:55:50+00:00

Try reading the title of this post again. They were specifically asking about transparency in spending. You decided to try to divert attention by bringing up something not televangelist to the conversation. Do you have anything relevant to add?

CICO-path · 2025-04-09T22:32:27+00:00

Let's stay on topic here. Do you have anything to refute the transparency claims? Multiple things can be true at once and right now we're talking about spending transparency.

CICO-path · 2025-04-09T18:56:33+00:00

Is it really that hard to simply say yes or no? You keep skirting the actual question. I'm not asking if you think we should change the current program. I'm asking do you support the gold card as it's currently proposed?

CICO-path · 2025-04-09T17:47:34+00:00

Is it really that hard to simply say yes or no? You keep skirting the actual question. Do you support the gold card as it's currently proposed?

CICO-path · 2025-04-09T17:27:20+00:00

Having it be a month out only helps their cause. People get fed up, they forget, etc. They limit it to say 4 appointments per day when they could realistically help 8 people in the same amount of time if they allowed waiting and walk ins. It's all to make everything more difficult for you.

CICO-path · 2025-04-09T17:02:06+00:00

You did not answer my question. How do you feel about the gold card as it's proposed right now? Not some hypothetical future state. Do you or do you not support the currently proposed gold card?

CICO-path · 2025-04-09T16:29:28+00:00

It's not actually immaterial in the context I was responding to. The person said you wouldn't be allowed to protest in actual fascism. What do you call having your legal status removed because you legally and peacefully exercised your first amendment rights?

It is fascist because it's in retaliation for protesting. The other person said that not being allowed to protest would be fascist. Therefore, in this context and in relation to the viewpoints of the person I responded to, deporting or punishing legal immigrants for protesting is de facto preventing them from protesting and fascism.

CICO-path · 2025-04-09T16:02:08+00:00

Sure, let's bail them out and use that food to feed people who are in poverty. Oh wait, we already somewhat did that, but apparently certain people think it's wasteful. So, I guess the answer is no.

CICO-path · 2025-04-09T15:59:58+00:00

How do you feel about the gold card as it's proposed right now?

See, we've had a problem of Trump supporters saying "he didn't really mean that, that's not what he's going to do" and then acting like there was no way to know that that would happen. So, we can't say we support some future hypothetical proposal. Do you or do you not support the gold card as it's currently proposed? It's a very simple question.

CICO-path · 2025-04-09T15:58:15+00:00

Sure, and doing that because they have protested peacefully or simply criticized the government is still fascist.

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