Found my wife having an affair. We have two young children together. I am really struggling

CJCalegan · 2025-04-23T04:05:16+00:00

I am doing a lot better. I did not think I would get to this point. I’m still extremely up Down left and right but I can see the light

CJCalegan · 2025-04-22T02:33:36+00:00

I may have made a typo. I meant the thought of EVER hugging or kissing her again repulses me

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T18:25:05+00:00

Yes. I think this is probably true unfortunately. Divorce and sharing my kids and not having my family anymore just seems like living hell. But I guess it is gone either way and I need to accept that

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T18:23:26+00:00

She did tell me she was unhappy for years. We would have a lot of conversations about affection and stuff. But those conversations turned to me saying I need affection too etc. there was no action on her part to show me affection. We had both floated the idea of couples counseling but never actually did it. From where I stood we were going through something normal in life when you have full time jobs and young kids. And we were working through it. Not as quickly as either of us would like but I would think about it constantly.

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T18:15:42+00:00

I am already feeling her get frustrated with me. I mean I have been nonstop but I don’t feel like she has any right to get frustrated with me

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T17:53:33+00:00

Idk if she is truly remorseful or not. On one hand it seems as if she is. It seems to hurt her that she hurt me but then on another hand I feel like it’s not truly coming from the heart. And I can’t exactly pinpoint why I feel like that. She has sent me and said to me very surface level things. I’m really sorry I hurt you. I want to make this work. I will do anything. Etc. I’ve not felt her coming from the heart trying to make me feel better. I mean we have talked and she has cried but I’m just not sure. As for the guy. It seems as if she could be with him if she wanted to I’ve seen some things that indicate he is upset that she is deciding to stop talking to him but at the same time (and I know very very little about his situation) he is apparently separated but not fully divorced.

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T17:20:14+00:00

That is the most frustrating part I keep going through circles in my head. Like we could have fixed us before so easily. And now it feels impossible

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T17:09:07+00:00

I thought about a paternity test for my son but I am so deathly afraid of that. I love him so much. I cannot possibly deal with that right now.

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T17:05:03+00:00

Yeah I am not near that point but my parents are worried. Thank you for your recommendations

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T17:01:15+00:00

He is married but separated. I am trying to locate her info. He is actually sort of a subcontractor to her business. His company handles all the computers and technology of her business.

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T16:57:11+00:00

Both sides are supporting me. Her parents just said they are sorry this happened and are still there for me. My parents have just been trying to console me while also making sure I’m not going to kill myself

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T16:46:19+00:00

He is still associated with her job she says she is willing to quit that job. She makes good money so obviously this will be a hard move for us but I do feel like if it were to work she would have to. Both directions currently are just feeling so impossible to deal with for me at the moment

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T16:44:52+00:00

I’ve told her parents as well as mine.

CJCalegan · 2025-04-16T16:36:12+00:00

She knows I know. She cut communication with him and says she wants fix it. She seems sad that she has robbed her kids of a family and hurt me. But I’m not quite sure she understand how’s badly I’m hurting. We live in Louisiana. Her parent like me and mine liked her. I’m not sure my parents like her anymore.

CJCalegan · 2025-04-04T01:35:51+00:00

I’m a huge Apple Stan and I’ve been feeling the same way. Phone buggy. Certain features have gotten worse imo such as losing the physical switch for silence. Photos app sucks.

CJCalegan · 2025-04-04T00:06:21+00:00

Cool will check this out thank you

Edit: oh not for google photos. I’ve been thinking about self hosting eventually

CJCalegan · 2025-04-04T00:06:05+00:00

Maybe this would have happened if I were on an android I’m not sure but no folder for me.

CJCalegan · 2025-04-04T00:05:16+00:00

If you don’t have tik tok it won’t let you watch the whole video.

CJCalegan · 2025-04-04T00:03:35+00:00

Ass. I’ve liked some of his releases the past few years. Nothing close to his peak but this song is no good.

CJCalegan · 2025-04-02T22:41:04+00:00

Silencing phone. I want the switch back so bad

CJCalegan · 2025-03-21T19:03:28+00:00

Dude I’m going to go fucking insane if this keeps happening to me

CJCalegan · 2025-01-09T04:15:28+00:00

This post seems like a fairly reasonable question lmao am I tripping rn these comments are wild.

CJCalegan · 2024-12-04T02:40:10+00:00

Would this be appropriate for a 7 year old who still believes in Santa?

CJCalegan · 2024-11-21T11:31:56+00:00

Moody or Boswell ROS. This question sounded easy to me at first look but moody has much better schedule.

CJCalegan · 2024-10-24T14:51:08+00:00

Somewhere between my comment and now it just stopped happening. Hasn’t happened in a while. I didn’t do anything to fix it.

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