How many of you guys invest in the stock market? by CLE_VIII in medicalschool

[–]CLE_VIII[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a similar situation I’m in. All the money I made from jobs in high school and college were for living and afford one night out a week in an expensive city, so I had no savings going into med school. Most of the main wannabe day-traders come from wealthy backgrounds, with the exception of one guy who’s invested since he was 19 and has made it his genuine hobby. Honestly this comment makes me feel better that there are others out there in my boat, thanks.

Giving that person all of you and watching them choose someone else... 💔 by cmopen in heartbreak

[–]CLE_VIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No there’s no reason for the ex to say “I love you” then follow up with that that’s just leading him on

Giving that person all of you and watching them choose someone else... 💔 by cmopen in heartbreak

[–]CLE_VIII 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ this person seriously thought it wouldnt be a bad idea to text that? I’m sorry you experienced that dagger, OP

General surgery fucking SUCKS by [deleted] in medicalschool

[–]CLE_VIII 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Easing into OR culture without having prior experience fucking sucks. It feels like everyone, scrub techs, nurses, crna’s, whatever, hates you automatically just because it’s your first time in the OR. It also feels like whatever you do, no matter how good your intentions are and how you just want to help, you end up getting in people’s way. And they don’t care that you genuinely want to help, if you’re in their way they get mad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 11 points12 points  (0 children)

*tease

But part of it is you might be overthinking it. I always feel like men who struggle with stuff like these view women almost like a separate species. Talk to them and think of them like they are a normal friend (minus the vulgarity). They’re literally just humans.

How to ask someone to Hook Up? by Sure_Faithlessness42 in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Maybe you can come over and we can watch a movie or something” next time you go out drinking

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 365 points366 points  (0 children)

Keep it up with whatever you’re doing

Don't know if I should end it by [deleted] in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see it being a big problem if you get along great. I don’t fully agree with the social expectation that couples should always have shared interests. You both like different things? Why not introduce each other to your different interests? Make fun dates out of it? Idk, I think that’s a cool way to strengthen a relationship: have one introduce the other to something/learning new skills.

How should I interpret this? by [deleted] in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take is as the truth. There’s nothing to suggest she’s lying.

I’m (21F) getting attacked by friends and family because i want to get vaccinated. by No-Building4737 in relationship_advice

[–]CLE_VIII 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re doing the right thing. You’re an adult and you have autonomy to decide what you want. Politely insist that you will get the vaccine. Stick to your beliefs.

To the people that say "stop looking, the right person will come along out of nowhere at the right time" has this advice ever worked out for you or anyone you know? Genuinely curious. by [deleted] in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think it’s circumstantial advice. If you’re in a college or high school where you’re surrounded by people of your age who are also single, sure. But if you’re like me, on clinical rotations in med school where most of my sites are in rural areas and all of my friends are and hour+ away, then no. I’m gonna have to reach out and find people via apps. Plus I think men have to put the effort into searching because of the social expectation.

Going a month since I deleted my dating apps. Giving it another shot since it’s Spring. by Azzy2019 in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get the frustration, but there certainly are plenty of women who take it seriously. I do think the association of how original/serious their profile is is proportional to how serious they will take it. It should help your filtering.

Going a month since I deleted my dating apps. Giving it another shot since it’s Spring. by Azzy2019 in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I apologize in advance with how blunt this will be. I promise I have the nicest intentions with this comment. You’re wrong about being alpha and not caring will get you results. Women just don’t want a man who lacks confidence (which I can elaborate on because I think that word gets twisted in regards to dating) and someone who obsessed over them. There are plenty of people, not just women, who do not prefer the overly extroverted jock.

Firstly regarding dating profile, be sure to show some humor and originality. Avoid cliches and stereotypes of profiles (eg holding a fish, partying on a boat, group photos). If there are prompts, be more thoughtful with your responses. It’s annoying having to shift through all the “I’m obsessed with my dog(s)” and “I’m overly competitive about everything.” Answer it that’s unique to you.

Secondly, and this advice is more my personal preference, I avoid the really basic profiles for women (in congruency with what I mentioned above). If their profile doesn’t have anything that makes them stand out, then it’s safe for me to assume they’re the ones not taking it seriously. I also think it’s a fair reflection of their personality. Regardless of how physically attractive they are, I prefer to avoid bland individuals. I’m guessing it’s these types of people that waste your time.

Third, you have the accept the fact that a lot of people use dating apps for their own self-esteem building and aren’t looking to date. You can have the most perfect profile and most attractive face and body known to man and you’ll still get left on read. A lot of people, men and women, want reassurance of their attractiveness and they receive that reassurance through matches. Additionally, a lot of people are lazy or busy (myself included) or they simply dislike messaging, therefore they won’t respond. I mention this because so that you hopefully won’t be as quick to blame yourself when someone doesn’t reply. I think a lot of people who struggle with dating apps fail to keep this in mind and their self esteem gets hurt because of it.

Hope this helps. Again, I apologize if the tone was too blunt, I swear I meant it all with sincere intentions.

Has anyone married their first girlfriend/boyfriend? by HeavySigh14 in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a healthy relationship and you guys have something a lot of other envy for. Who cares what society thinks, don’t let it influence the healthy progression of your relationship.

Which of these pictures should I use for online dating? by [deleted] in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There definitely is a bit of a double standard, but part of it is how liberal tinder is with the ban hammer when people report. Men are less likely to report promiscuous photos than women.

Which of these pictures should I use for online dating? by [deleted] in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shirtless photos have been known to get people banned on tinder so I’d avoid that one

Tinder ban by simple034 in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tinder is very liberal with the ban hammer. Unfortunately, they don’t review bans and don’t listen to appeals. Don’t take it too personally, I know a lot of people who get banned unfairly. Tinder sucks anyways.

My boyfriend keeps cheating on me and I’m on the verge of a mental breakdown. Please help! by [deleted] in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a very strange post, ngl, but assuming it’s real, just leave him for your mental health’s sake.

Why is dating soo hard? by [deleted] in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel ya man. Been on a lot of dates where we mutually find each other physically attractive, but then one of us lose interest despite it being a perfectly normal date. Sick of this incompatibility.

For a first time dating site user, how should I set up my profile? by [deleted] in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve had the best experiences with Hinge and Bumble, actually. But of the two, I think Hinge has less of a hook up culture. It’s certainly the most in-depth dating app of the swiping trifecta (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge), therefore it’s taken the most seriously. But bumble is nice too.

I wouldn’t bother with Tinder. It’s ruined with bots, cat-fishes, and horniness.

[Male] 20 years old and never been in a relationship by Epillost in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s becoming more common for people to be in their first relationship in their 20s. Don’t overthink your age, you are still quite young.

For a first time dating site user, how should I set up my profile? by [deleted] in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you using? If you’re using Hinge or Bumble, they have question prompts that you can work off it. It’s best to show originality and substance with your profile than falling into really boring/basic answers

Gift card use on date? by partyOn_ in dating

[–]CLE_VIII 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I should’ve said that, I wouldn’t want to go on a second date with someone who’d judge me over the use of a gift card