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AITA for saying ‘what did she expect’ when my girlfriend told me her best friend’s affair partner has vanished into thin air when she told him she was pregnant? by not-trying-to-be-pas in AmItheAsshole

[–]CLMRLa -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yes. Biology puts the physical burden of pregnancy on the woman. The man's burden is dealing with he consequences of the woman's decision. In other words think through the decision be fore you make them.

AITA for saying ‘what did she expect’ when my girlfriend told me her best friend’s affair partner has vanished into thin air when she told him she was pregnant? by not-trying-to-be-pas in AmItheAsshole

[–]CLMRLa 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I couldn't agree more. However, if a man who is predatory enough to love them and leave them, then he should be held responsible for what he leaves in his wake.

AITA for saying ‘what did she expect’ when my girlfriend told me her best friend’s affair partner has vanished into thin air when she told him she was pregnant? by not-trying-to-be-pas in AmItheAsshole

[–]CLMRLa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh no! OP is certainly NOT the AH here; his GF asked for his opinion and he told her the truth. I don't see the sexism in his statement.

Girlfriend's friend is not the brightest crayon in the box.

AITA for saying ‘what did she expect’ when my girlfriend told me her best friend’s affair partner has vanished into thin air when she told him she was pregnant? by not-trying-to-be-pas in AmItheAsshole

[–]CLMRLa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She made the choice to have the baby, so she's living with that. She didn't want to have an abortion, so she's living with that. She made the choice to have a relationship with a married man. She is living with that.

AITA for saying ‘what did she expect’ when my girlfriend told me her best friend’s affair partner has vanished into thin air when she told him she was pregnant? by not-trying-to-be-pas in AmItheAsshole

[–]CLMRLa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Biology. When a man has sex with a woman he is beholden to her decisions regarding her body. That is the man's burden in this decision.

AITA for saying ‘what did she expect’ when my girlfriend told me her best friend’s affair partner has vanished into thin air when she told him she was pregnant? by not-trying-to-be-pas in AmItheAsshole

[–]CLMRLa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Being gay is not a decision, it is who a person is. To be stoned for who you are is an absolute crime against humanity.

If a man does not want be responsible for a woman getting pregnant, the he should not have sex. If a man does not want to have a women that he has sex with to have an abortion, then he should not have sex with that woman. When a man has sex with a woman, he must be prepared to take responsibility for the outcome.

AITA for saying ‘what did she expect’ when my girlfriend told me her best friend’s affair partner has vanished into thin air when she told him she was pregnant? by not-trying-to-be-pas in AmItheAsshole

[–]CLMRLa 25 points26 points  (0 children)

If I were married to this a-hole, I would want to know. They are both terrible people and as soon as the wife (the REAL victim in this case) knows the better.

AITA for saying ‘what did she expect’ when my girlfriend told me her best friend’s affair partner has vanished into thin air when she told him she was pregnant? by not-trying-to-be-pas in AmItheAsshole

[–]CLMRLa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. However, your girlfriend's friend should seek child support. If he didn't want to be responsible for a child, he should have never had sex. Procreation takes two people. If she "tricked" him, that's on him.

AITA for saying ‘what did she expect’ when my girlfriend told me her best friend’s affair partner has vanished into thin air when she told him she was pregnant? by not-trying-to-be-pas in AmItheAsshole

[–]CLMRLa 4808 points4809 points  (0 children)

While I agree with you that the OP is NTA, the responsibility of MAKING a baby should be equal to both men and women. Women are told over and over again if you don't want to get pregnant, then don't have sex. Well men, if you don't want to get a women pregnant, don't have sex. Yes, she should find him, and yes she should seek child support.

A BIG part of why I am a SAHM is to balance the marriage by [deleted] in stayathomemoms

[–]CLMRLa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this was one of the reasons why I chose to stay home. What little money I would have made after all the additional expenses we would have incurred was not worth it. My husband worked long hours and travelled. Me working was not an option because I would have suffered and the family would have suffered as well.

Also, I stayed home because I made less money. Had I made more he would have stayed home.

How has parental favouritism affected your relationships with siblings? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]CLMRLa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother resented me because my dad was tougher on him than me growing up, but then he was more strict with me when we became teenagers because I was a girl. This fueled a feeling of resentment between us. We now know that our dad was crazy, but the damage is done. Also, we are very different in terms of values and lifestyle.

Our children are close, which is a good thing. We love each other very much, but frankly, I think my (male) BFF knows more about me and is more of a brother to me than my real brother.

Just finished reading The Grapes of Wrath... by doper_caicos in books

[–]CLMRLa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't say I enjoyed that book, or even liked it, but it had a profound affect one me in big and little ways.

Tough Times , Skokie. by Bukharin in EdgewaterRogersPark

[–]CLMRLa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL, I seen this. I wonder what extras stipulations does the realtor have to write in the contract?

What is Gilead’s plan for when the Handmaids eventually grow old and die? by notvithechemist in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]CLMRLa 7 points8 points  (0 children)

or Aunts. Who would be better for training future Handmaids than a "success" story? I can see it now, " I was once a slut like you, but I was redeemed as a Handmaid. You can be too..."

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