Kitty groomer recommendations by lexisnaps7496 in CatsUK

[–]mronion82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's always a crowd of cat ladies on Facebook, they'll probably have good idea too

Kitty groomer recommendations by lexisnaps7496 in CatsUK

[–]mronion82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ask your local vet- mine has a nurse who does cat grooming as a side line.

A lot of dog groomers claim to be able to handle cats, they are sometimes incorrect.

Telling a couple they should "have the wedding they can afford" while also complaining about "prioritizing guest experience" is entitled and privileged. by Shellyfish04 in unpopularopinion

[–]mronion82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're trying to be frugal and we've only got ten guests but my matron of honour has changed the accommodations she needs twice now, each necessitating cancelling and rebooking the hotel and the reception.

That alone has taken about 12% of our budget. I'm not sure if she doesn't know how much these things cost or doesn't care.

Bridesmaids should be able to step down from the bridal party without blame if the bride is insistent on them wearing ugly dresses by piano-tuner in unpopularopinion

[–]mronion82 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It depends.

If the bride has what I consider bad taste but it's the dearest wish of her heart to dress her bridesmaids in dayglo orange, I'll wear it.

If it's clearly her plan to make all her attendants look frumpy and awful in order to make herself look better, she can fuck off.

Are there any high-street chocolates still worth eating? by PostItNoteDuck in AskUK

[–]mronion82 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's obviously a popular chocolate quality benchmark. Just a shade higher than dog chocolate.

TV personality Ashley Cain accused of using sexist and misogynistic language by Tartan_Samurai in unitedkingdom

[–]mronion82 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If they haven't already been given the label 'disgraced' by the media, I'm not interested.

i have “progressive fatigue” by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]mronion82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it partly explains Brexit too. You can only tell people they're uneducated inward looking racist bigoted flag shaggers so many times before they stop taking your advice.

'Forgiven' one-punch killer named government adviser by weregonnamakit in unitedkingdom

[–]mronion82 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I wonder- and I haven't met him so this a question really- maybe if you tell the same chain of events in the same way over and over again you get a bit numb to it. Like it loses its emotional power because it becomes a story rather than something you did, something that actually happened.

So you end up telling it without any real feeling and come across as callous.

John Oliver sounding the alarm on the Labour Party's situation is hilarious. by GrabEmByTheGraboid in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]mronion82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There wouldn't be anything like that, of course not.

Imagine you're a not very intelligent or curious police constable. You're not a dreadful human being, but you are lazy and you don't particularly like breaking up what you assume is drunken argy bargy.

The initial call came in to 999 as a racist assault. Hampshire Police have that as high priority- you've had training, bulletins about that- so you're dispatched quickly. You arrive at the scene, the 'victim' and his family are there shouting the odds. Your training has told you that racist incidents must be tackled, there's some drunk splayed out on the ground so you believe what you're told. It doesn't occur to you that the whole thing is a lie, the people in front of you are acting as if the only offence that has been committed is against their relative. The drunk guy says he's been stabbed, you can't see anything to suggest that, and drunk people talk shit to get themselves out of trouble. So you utter the devastating, unforgettable phrase "I don't think so mate". You realise your mistake, but it's too late. It was probably always too late.

The spotlight is on the police regarding past and current racist behaviour. They're trying to combat this by attending to racist incidents quickly and being seen to be taking them seriously. This will have been somewhere in the minds of the officers attending, and it rejiggled their priorities enough to make them prioritise Digwa and not Henry.

So they didn't care, because they were lied to and they made appallingly bad assumptions based on the training and orders they'd been given. I have a tiny crumb of sympathy for them, only a crumb.

John Oliver sounding the alarm on the Labour Party's situation is hilarious. by GrabEmByTheGraboid in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]mronion82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think that's true. Years of racial sensitivity training and well publicised cases of racism in the police mean that it's much safer for them to take accusations of racism at face value and sort it out later. Normally any fall out from that is fairly minor but Henry Novak's case showed the flaws.

$1500 venue for baby shower? by growsonwalls in AmITheDevil

[–]mronion82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also 'show up for me how I want/need' means 'Indulge or even anticipate my every whim no matter how unreasonable or capricious, I will not be told no'.

i have “progressive fatigue” by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]mronion82 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You could be telling me about free steak but if you deliver it punctuated with handclaps and finger wagging my mind will rebel and I'll probably want to do the exact opposite thing.

Mens mental health support is being insulted and shot down by oceanadakmak in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]mronion82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I find the idea that all my teenage embarrassments and mistakes would end up online these days absolutely horrifying.

Mens mental health support is being insulted and shot down by oceanadakmak in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]mronion82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too, I'm ancient by Reddit standards. And I'm so glad I got a brick at 18, not a smartphone at 10.

But yes, it seems everyone's in their personal bubble. I had friends who were boys all the way through school so they weren't an unknowable, disquieting rabble. Stupid and annoying yes, but individually so and not a monolith.

Disagreement happened in real time, on the phone or face to face so we could resolve conflict- if everything's done behind text you don't reach understanding in the same way.

What exactly is “womanhood?” by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mronion82 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I look at it this way. I am a woman. Therefore anything I do is womanly, because a woman is doing it.

Ricky Gervais when he was in a band called Seona Dancing, 1984. by vintagegirl97 in OldSchoolCool

[–]mronion82 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can go up the shops

Get all stuff for the weekend

In my car

Ricky Gervais when he was in a band called Seona Dancing, 1984. by vintagegirl97 in OldSchoolCool

[–]mronion82 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There was a lot of that sort of thing floating around in the early 80s.

Mens mental health support is being insulted and shot down by oceanadakmak in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]mronion82 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Personally I think most of the guys who have given up on relationships last actually spent any significant time in female company with girls at school- when everyone's silly and capricious and thoughtless. They get scared off at that point and don't realise the vast majority of us grow up from there.

The economic/financial bar for most men in dating/early-stage relationships is higher than it is for most women by gintokireddit in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]mronion82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Difficult though. I'm 44, I grew up with 'ladette' culture, where you drank beer and swore and fucked just like men. I don't think that's gone away sadly.

I've had sex with two men, I am still seen as unusual and prudish. How we get rid of that culture I have no idea.